Hungry But Like Emotionally And For A Life Ive Never Lived Idk

hungry but like emotionally and for a life I’ve never lived idk

i adore my claws. it feels so natural wearing them and i love being able to scratch and tease my skin with the sharpness

Memory Checking

However when dealing with memories that occurred in the distant past, in entirely different realities, or other physical spaces we have no access to it is impossible to access immediate physical evidence to check our memories against. kintype. That’s a hell of a trip, if you ask me.

As fictionkin, whenever we experience a memory of one of our kintypes we have to as “is this a real memory from my kintype, or is this just a daydream or interesting thought I’m having regarding my kintype?”. Now I ALSO have to ask “if this is a memory kintype is it a memory of something that actually happened, or a memory that was induced later?”.

So I’ve been thinking about memory a lot, and how to determine if a memory is ‘real’. Here are my thoughts.

This is mostly directed toward people looking to distinguish the veracity of their kintype memories, as well as anyone struggling with amnesia, implanted memories, delusions, hallucinations or who has other causes to doubt recalled events.

First, accept that every mind is prone to memory errors. This includes single human minds that are and have only lived one lifetime in one brain, as well as fictionkin and other minds that have traveled between bodies, brains, and lifetimes.

The further we are in time and space from an event the less our memory holds of the specific, concrete physical details of the event, and the more it holds on to worn impressions of it; how it made you feel. How you reacted to it. The meaning it would hold for you later. Your memories (probably) aren’t like a perfectly staged virtual recreation of an event, person, place, etc, but more like a jumbled moodboard of fragments of ideas, sensory data, and associations related to it.

Secondly, accept that there are two kinds of reality, when it comes to memories. ‘False’ memories of things that did not happen in a physical space or alter or impact a physical external reality or other beings outside of your mind still do alter your internal reality. A memory, whether true or false, changes our internal landscape-- and that same change in the internal landscape can mean subtle or greater differences in your decision making and actions in our outside reality; the space that does impact other people. Non-real events affect you, and in that way can affect events going forward. Even false memories can have a kind of reality.

The best way to verify the validity or reality of a memory is to compare it to external evidence. Does a place you remember match your memory? Are other people reacting to events that you believe occurred? Is there physical evidence to back up what you believed happened? The existence of photographs, paper documents, etc are good evidence (but not irrefutable evidence) that something you remembered is real.

However when dealing with memories that occured in the distant past, in entirely different realities, or other physical spaces we have no access to it is impossible to access immediate physical evidence to check our memories against.

In absence of physical external evidence to check the validity of our memories with, we unfortunately have one main thing to rely on. Consistency.

Below are some ideas on how you can consider consistency of memory to determine the validity of memories in absence of physical evidence:

Solo:

Consider how the contents, events or otherwise, affect other memories. Are they consistent with other memories?

Events

Does the remembered event have an effect on events you remember happening in the future?

Is the event the logical conclusion of an event you remember happening prior to it?

People

Does the person or people in your memory act consistently with other memories you have of them?

Does it make sense for them to be where and when you remember them?

Places

What details do you remember about the place?

Do these details make sense in the context of the memory

What happened at this place? Why is it important? Does it make sense for the people and events you remember to be connected to this place?

With a partner:

If you have access to a person you trust who remembers, or should remember the same events you do you can check the consistency of your memories between one another.

Tips for this include:

Each of you write down your memories of an event or other by yourself, and then share them with your partner without discussing prior.

What details match? What details don’t match. Is there a logical reason to account for the difference in memory?

Fact: we need to make sure the core of this community is preserved and treated seriously

Also a fact: we need to make sure our posts and replies don't start sounding like truscum style bullshit cuz sometimes it feels dangerously close to it

Being Otherkin is real, serious, and important. But it should never make us start talking like transmeds. There is no wrong way to be Otherkin. Kinnies, in all honesty, aren't Otherkin. They're bastards. That still should not push us to start spouting off ideas that veer into "being Otherkin means you HAVE to have species dysphoria and painfully identify as what we are" territory. Elitism never died among our ranks. It's our job, like it always has been, to cut that shit out.

Otherkin means identifying as on some level, not with. It means however many 'types you have, you ARE all of them. It can come with dysphoria and all sorts of other things but every single Kin will have a different experience. KFF bastards do not seem to understand the base standards of Kinship because to them it's like a fucking game. It's on them to stop that shit and it's on us to make sure we don't lose our way. Kintypes should not be organized into shit like "ID/primary/secondary/tertiary/etc" because if it isn't all you all the time it's not a Kintype. A Kin list should not be made up of characters/animals/creatures you merely relate strong to or like a lot, it is for things you ARE and not because you're them to cope because that's copinglink and is another (equally real) state of being.

*You find a note, written in blue ink, tucked in your bag. *It’s from Toriel! *It reads: *Hello, my child! *You may be facing difficult times right now. That’s completely okay! It might be discouraging sometimes. However, it’s imperative that you stay determined! You have much to do yet! You have smiles to be had, yummy food to eat, and games to play! There are brighter days ahead! You are stronger than how you may feel right now. And remember: there is always someone who loves you. *Love, Mom

Sooooo- YEAH! I’m making a Funamusea/DSP/Okegom kin discord server, i’m not expecting many, if any to join, but right now i just need some help setting it up uwu as well as the kin-help blog i’m making! If interested in either of these, let me know!!