Jumin Elly Maybe The Prettiest Kitty But My Cats Are Definitely The Runners Up! Could We Have A Kitty

jumin elly maybe the prettiest kitty but my cats are definitely the runners up! could we have a kitty play date?

A play date? That will be arranged.

~Han Jumin

Hey. If its not too much can I request RFA finding out MC was abused as a kid after they have a panic attack/episode about something RFA did/said thats usually considered innocent, but has bad connotations to MC? Only if you're willing. I saw some of the other things you wrote and thought you might be ok with writing things like this. Im really really sorry if I'm wrong. Have a nice day.

okay so a couple of disclaimers here

1 i have never experienced abuse so please note that this may not be accurate to real abuse recovery

2 while i have had panic attacks they were few and far between and not connected to consistent anxiety or reliably predictable triggers

3 if you or anyone you know is experiencing abuse or suspects abuse reach out get help. you and they deserve better 

anyway i hope this is okay since its a bit of a departure from my real life experiences 

The RFA when MC who was abused has a panic attack

Jumin

-        When you first break down he doesn’t know how to help

-        He gets down on your level if you’re in a chair he’s knelt in front of you if you’re on the floor he’s right there with you.

-        He talks you through breathing exercises he learned to help with business stress

-        He stays with you no matter how long it takes NO ONE can separate you two

-        It isn’t until you explain that he truly understands what happened

-        He asks you to tell him EVERYTHING that makes you even the littlest bit uncomfortable and he avoids it like the plague

-        He also does a lot of research on how to help someone through a panic attack so he’s prepared if it ever happens again

-        He learns grounding techniques and how to help you visualize a safe and happy place

-        He encourages therapy and begins donating to charity geared towards preventing child abuse regularly

-        He’ll never understand how family could do that, they are supposed to love, cherish, and encourage each other

-        He reminds you that you are a han now and no one will ever hurt you again. He vows to show you what family is meant to be

Yoosung

-        You’re in his arms the second your he sees you break down

-        He rocks you gently and hushes you gently

-        Its repetitive and grounding and honestly helps you calm down a lot

-        As soon as your calm he helps you get ready for bed, he’s never had a true panic attack but he knows how exhausting it can be to cry like that

-        Later he asks what happened and listens intently

-        The whole time you explain he’s deathly silent and your done he pulls you into a gentle hug with shaking hands

-        You’ve never seen him angrier. It’s a cold anger that stole the light from his eyes

-        He’s careful not to let you see how truly furious he is though he might text zen to vent about how shitty people can be but he won’t mention you or parents because he wants to respect your privacy

-        He starts being extra careful about raging at video games so he doesn’t remind you of your family

-        From that moment on he makes sure that you are close with his family he wants you to experience a warm and happy family

-        He also sets about making sure you experience everything you may have missed as a child

-        He wants to replace every bad memory with 10 good ones

Saeyoung

-        He recognizes the behavior in an instant and is gently guiding you to the couch

-        His voice is gentle and slow as he reminds you that you are safe, you’re here with him. You’re an adult and far from anyone that would try to hurt you now.

-        He’s chanting these phrases like a mantra and your nodding along repeating after him to help ground yourself

-        He’s careful not to hold you to tightly or move to quickly and make things worse. He knows all the major things that can trigger those feelings of helplessness and makes sure to memorize the little things that are specific to you

-        He watches your face to know when things hit too close to home for you and always has a way to get you out of those situations discreetly

-        When you explain what your home life was he holds you gently and reminds you that none of it was your fault.

-        He tells you that just because some people should never have had kids doesn’t mean those kids shouldn’t have been born it means those kids deserved better.

-        Honestly you opening up to him helps him open up to you about his experiences

-        It actually ends up being very therapeutic to both of you

Zen

-        When he sees you shaking and sobbing his hands are on your shoulders before he can really think about what he’s doing

-        His grip is firm and steady as he locks eye’s with you his gaze is piercing and he refuses to let you look away

-        “breath with me jagiya” and you slowly start to synch your breathing to his deliberately slow and deep breaths

-        It isn’t until you’ve completely calmed down that he pulls you into his lap and lets his breath go ragged with worry

-        He wants to beat up your family but he knows you need him to be calm right now and he’ll do anything for you

-        He was never physically abused by his family but he knows the emotional side of abuse all too well.

-        He makes sure you know your worth reminding you of everything he loves about you.

-        he hears about “open when” letters from a coworker and makes you a bunch for when your anxious, or sad, or insecure. You keep them on you all the time

-        he’s careful to never be violent around you because he doesn’t want to remind you of your family

-        He tells you that blood family isn’t nearly as important as the family you choose. He promises that both of you will make your own family

Jaehee

-        Doesn’t know what to do when you first breakdown

-        Is very worried and awkward because she doesn’t know what caused the breakdown and doesn’t want to make it worse

-        Once you calm down enough to talk you tell her what happened and her face goes pale

-        She asks if she can hold you because she’s worried you may be touch sensitive right then you nod and she pulls you into a gentle hug

-        She tells you that people often take their own insecurities, stress, and anger out on people who can’t defend themselves. When they do that they are being cowardly and petty

-        She mentions that none of it was your fault you were young and should have been protected and nurtured not hurt and cut down

-        She suggests therapy and does research to make sure you get good treatment

-        She even puts together a panic attack kit

-        It has lavender spray and a pocket watch to help you slow your breathing and focus on something external

-        The kit also has a small notebook to keep track of triggers, panic attacks and thoughts. As well as your medicine if you take any

listen to me

mc getting her and jumin matching white cat kigurumi’s with blue eyes

she greets him when he comes home from work wearing the kigurumi with its cat eared hood up and holding elizabeth she leans up and stretches on her tiptoes to kiss him but still can’t quite reach his lips he’s smitten because she have never looked cuter he can’t help the chuckle that falls from his lips as he leans down to meet her with a gentle peck

she tells him she wants to watch a movie with him tonight since it’s their date night she shows him his matching kigurumi he tries not to smile but can’t quite manage it

you two spend the evening cuddled on the couch with elizabeth wearing matching kigurumi’s

oh i know a little bit about the connection between vampire bats and vampire mythology but i haven’t heard the story!

Its very interesting. Two armies were going to fight at dawn so one general ordered his troops to go into a valley, so at dawn the sun would be behind them and not blind them. They captured bats. At dawn when the other army attacked, they released the bats. Causing the other army to believe they were vampires who could shapeshift.

~Han Jumin

can i talk about the rarely mentioned loss of identity that comes with a relationship with jumin han?

like if you were seeking any kind of recognition for your skills, hard work, passion, or talent before meeting and falling in love with jumin you would have to basically give it up to be with him

and not because of him either don’t get me wrong he has some controlling tendencies that both of you would have to discuss but the real problem would be everyone else

let’s say you were a passionate artist and your art while not national aclaimed was fairly popular then you marry jumin and suddenly all the news stories about your art refer to you as wife of C&R corporate heir Jumin Han. there’s whispers about how you probably got the gallery opening because of Jumins influence and that the only reason you can stay home and create art is because Jumin provides for you and i bet jumin paid for your lessons and that’s why your as good as you are

the same goes for ANY career even remotely in the public eye we even see this with jumins mom when zen mentions she was a singer but she was more famous for her marriage than her singing don’t get me wrong jumins mom may have been a gold digger i don’t know but i can absolutely see how upsetting it would be to put so much time and effort into something only to have all that work be dismissed because of who you love.

just some thoughts

i wanna watch Cats with jumin i’m a little jealous of V. but their best friends and deserve to be happy and have fun together.

hey jumin have you ever seen cats the musical (not the movie but the actual play?) it’s been one of my favorites since i was a child and victoria reminds me of elizabeth! she’s describes as shy, and quiet, as well as being the most graceful and beautiful of the jelical cats. I think it would be so much fun to watch with you! maybe zen’s theatre group could put it on! he could play rum-tum-tugger (the curious cat)

I haven't seen it in forever. I watched it when I was young. Jihyun and I plan to watch the movie together at some point.

Victoria and Elizabeth are very similar, I'm glad you saw that.

I believe Zen would make a wonderful Rum-Tum Tugger, but I'm afraid he would turn it down immediately. He can't stand even a photo of my beautiful Elizabeth because of his "allergy." I hope that he gets over it so he can be a cat.

~Han Jumin