Sometimes You Say Or Do Bad Things While Youre In An Awful Mental Place. Sometimes You Say Things That

sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

Tadashi Hamada Sim take two!

why isn’t the internet on fire all over big hero 6, though? I mean

cool diversity in the main cast

equal male and female roles

at some cases the female saved the male’s asses

"woman up"

aunt cass is single and there was no indication or jokes about her looking for a man. she was also shown as a happy, competent business owner and caretaker

no race/gender-based jokes 

brave and strong women in the science field

cool ass soundtrack

???? better than frozen that’s for sure

Stonewall Riots + 5 Names To Know

Reblogging so that I can keep this post somewhere safe. I know it sounds dumb, but your response within means so much to me. It comes at a good time too. For now, I’m making a promise to keep going. Thanks Christopher for being so awesome! It feels like I’m also making a promise with Piers, which makes this all the more special to me.

Resident Evil 6 interview (“Ai Se Eu Te Pego” moment), now with Portuguese translation.

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Residente Evil 6 entrevista (“Ai Se Eu Te Pego” momento), agora com tradução Português.

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Singing “Ai Se Eu Te Pego” by Michel Teló in Interview for Resident Evil 6 - (Piers Nivans) (by Christopher Emerson)

Would have bought one in an instant.

We jumped out a windoooowwww… #starbucks