Femme Lesbians Who Use He/him Pronouns Are Literally So Fucking Cool Like. People Always Try To Explain

femme lesbians who use he/him pronouns are literally so fucking cool like. people always try to explain he/him lesbians by saying “well it’s like butches cuz they’re masculine” and don’t get me wrong: he/him butch lesbians have my heart but he/him femme lesbians are literally just as real and valid and if you truly want to learn to believe that pronouns truly do not equal gender, then you’re going to have to stop thinking that “he/him lesbian = butch lesbian” because then you’re just trying to say that lesbians can use he/him if they’re masc enough but im here to tell you: literally any lesbian can use he/him pronouns. you can be the femmest of femmes and still use exclusively he/him pronouns and literally none of that invalidates anything about you.

so long story short: he/him femmes, especially femmes who exclusively use he/him, are literally to die for. i fucking love you <333

I wish femmes could purr

this photo is so femmebutch coded

stop equating femme lesbians to feminine lesbians challenge

and fucking stop treating us like them too

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“i wouldn’t date a butch/stud id rather date a man” if you genuinely see butches/studs as men simply for embracing their masculinity… you should not call yourself a lesbian! masculinity has always been a huge part of lesbianism + just because femmes are attracted to butches/studs doesn’t mean we want men…. being attracted to masculinity that is separate from man ≠ participating in heteronormative patriarchy! hope this helped!

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Had a conversation with my girlfriend the other day that made me wanna share some thoughts.

Reminder: Butches do not exist just to do shit for you, don’t take advantage of Butch chivalry. Butches need patience, emotional support, and care too. What are you doing for your Butch? Open the door for your Butches, offer to pay for their meal, plan a date, take them out, tell them they’re beautiful, ask them how their day was and ask them how it really was!

Reminder: Femmes are strong and capable and hard as fuck, I do not subscribe to this painting of Femmes either by others or by ourselves as innocent, weak, or helpless. We cannot and should not infantilise ourselves or let others do this to us! Femmes are strong as fuck and we should be proud of this fact.

Butch-Femme is about complimenting energy, having different areas of strength that we can use to come together, support each other, and provide love and care.

We are equal partners with two different ways of externalising our strengths and resilience in a patriarchal world. Don’t let stereotypes about Butch-Femme and Heteropatriarchal concepts around femininity and masculinity shape how we as lesbians form relationships and how we should be within them.