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Lights at the end of tunnels
From time to time I receive messages from survivors at various stages in the recovery process.
First, I am honoured that you trust me with your stories (some of you telling someone for the first time!), and that you think I may have something of value to say to you.
Second, I’m sorry I don’t always respond promptly. I can get overwhelmed easily and that slows my response time. Sometimes by, like, months.
Third, if there is one thing I wish I could have convinced myself of earlier it would be that being alone is not the worst. It takes practice, but it can be pretty great.
You are awesome (yes, I promise), and spending time nurturing your interests can be an amazing part of your healing. Someone tried to erase my personality; I took it back, piece by piece, doing new things or re-discovering the old ones that make me happy.
Being beholden to no one is freedom, and it was important for me to get to know, sort out, and trust my head again.
Alone there are so many possibilities that don’t exist in the vacuum of an abusive relationship. So many possibilities for a content, peaceful existence.
I hope you believe me.
Happy New Year.
Hi, your blog says you’re non-binary and gender-fluid? I am currently in an ✨epic gaymer gender crisis✨ and wondering how you know you’re both? sorry for intruding, feel free to just ignore this!
well, first of all in my country we unfortunately don't have any type of words for non-binary people, like they/them, and unfortunately for me I don't see my self as a girl or as a boy and because of that little inconvenience on my country I mostly don't care when people think I'm a boy nor when they use the ""right"" pronouns with me, and actually, I don't care what gender or pronouns people might think is the right one to use with me, and it's more easy to me, I don't need to go around and tell people the right pronouns they need to use with me and it just feels right to me, y'know?
as for the gender-fluid, I mostly don't care of what type of clothes I'm wearing. Am I looking like a boy or a girl? good, because I might be feeling pretty comfortable with what I'm wearing and I don't give a shit about what the people who hate my look think! because it's comfortable for me, this is what matter. Of course I mostly wear more "masculine clothes" but is all because it make me feel free, there was a time where I would recuse my self on wearing a skirt, but hey, those things are actually really good to wear! even more in a hot day (fortunately those last days have been pretty cold in here, is raining quite a lot, but is not that good for my internet).
Well that's practically everything I have to say, also go easy on your self, I had a gender crisis when I was younger, it was pretty difficult at first -since I didn't know ANYTHING about homosexuality or anything like that- and at start I even thought I was bisexual, but all the things I liked about boys was their freedom, I envy them. And them after a few month I discover I was a lesbian :v. (and the only ones on my family that know this is a close cousin of mine and my sister -who is also bi and gender-fluid-)
I haven't came out for my parents yet, but I hope that soon enough I will be able to tell them the true, and I also hope that they won't freak out about it, I don't care if they won't accept it I just don't want them to make it a big deal, even if it is a big deal for them.
hope you feel better bae :) um I'm doing okay got a new tattoo today and stepped on a rat (highlight of my day) um anyways how's your day going babes? <3
A TATTOO?? hot. thea is hot. what did u get babe 👀👀
Drinking cold water at 3 am is like deepening a kiss with your lover for the first time