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Self Care Wednesday

Sometimes, self care is talking until you are heard.

Not all the time. But sometimes.

This is important, so let me repeat it.

Sometimes, self care is taking until you are heard.

This can include, but it's not limited to:

having an uncomfortable conversation because being quiet and hoping it will go away isn't working

realizing mid sentence that you had the wrong idea the whole time, but also that the act of saying all your thoughts out loud is what let you see that

Saying the same damn thing 50 different ways because the previous 49 didn't communicate the idea the right way

Acknowledging that you may not feel the same about The Thing tomorrow when you've had a sleep and a food and a shower, but desperately needing to address how you feel at this moment

Knowing that saying the thing out loud won't change anything but needing the release of having said it out loud at least once

Just remember and respect the rules:

Never tell another person how they feel

Don't bring unrelated faults into the argument

Don't switch topics because you feel like you're "losing"

Listen when it's your turn

We are all human (no one is perfect or psychic)

Everyone is responsible for their own words and actions (yes, even if they were drunk or upset at the time)

Don't say it if you don't mean it

Words are hard, ok? I understand this so so well. There is so much, so terribly much you can tell about a person from their word choice and tone and body language and volume. I love language and communication and sharing ideas and culture and learning, but it is so hard to take the ideas that in my head and share them with another person, but it's important to try. Even if the words don't fit right, use them - it's better to use too many imperfect words than to say nothing, to not even try.

Because words are power and magic and they can heal, they can at least start the healing process, if you let them.

Please let them. Please try.

And now that I've used up my words for the moment, I'll go ahead and stop here.

Thank you for listening. I'll post again tomorrow. Take care of yourself until then, ok?

me and my cousins want to play a game and I  tried to suggest go fish and duck duck goose and you wanna know what came out? 

Go Go Duck

My Hazbin hotel/Helluva boss redesign masterpost😈🔥

I've started making some little redesigns/alterations, and decided to share them. I have a bunch already done, and more I'll make later. I think I'll do Hazbin hotel first and Helluva boss later. They are edits, not drawn in my style, 'cause I had some problem with doing them from scratch. Plus it's cool to see them look like they're from the show.

They all don't have clean lineart yet (maybe never will), and are not really "final". After I do all of them separately, I'm gonna put them all together and do some needed tweaking, and maybe after that I'll clean up the lineart??? idk a part of me wants this to be informal, but I also want to make a complete series of drawings.

These are made as a reference for myself to be drawn in my style later, and were not made with animation in mind. That's why they can have little details that I would have otherwise left out/simplified.

I'm gonna add all the posts I make here:

Alastor 📻🦌

Cherri Bomb 🍒💣

Niffty 🧹🐞

Sir Pentious 🔧🐍

Mimzy 👄🎶

Was just thinking about how legitimately devastated 2012 April gets in the face of loss and stuff. She adds a level of depth to the story sometimes with her emotional responses, where the other characters kind of just go on with their day until the situation resolves itself. Then I remembered she’s the only female main(ish) character and it’s probably a result of sexism rather than weirdly isolated good writing.

Thinking about My Little Pony and, the thing is it was never a gendered thing to me. Like it’s obviously a show targeted towards little girls yeah, but I only ever really heard the little in that. My friends made me feel weird about still watching it (even tho I was like 7 how is that too old-) and I heard that statistic—40% or 60% or something of Mlp fans are adult men—and assumed the problem was they were adults, not that they were men. Obviously, in hindsight that’s most of the problem there, yeah (not actually a problem obviously). So I have to wonder if My Little Pony is kinda like Bluey (hold on, that’s not enough explanation, let me elaborate on that). Bluey is a beautifully written show that connects best with people that didn’t have great childhoods; My Little Pony is a subpar-ly(not their fault) written show that connected with mascs that had some similarly repressed shit going on? Only in this case it was gender stuff. Let them express an interest in this “feminine” thing, this show about ponies and friendship that looked cool, had an interesting world, fun characters, and challenged all sort of toxic lessons enforced in young boys. It’s got a really compelling fanon and a beautiful (most of the time) fandom that makes it easy to justify their interest in the show, and come to terms with it?

"Not that that's going to stop me from taking all of the credit, of course."

And taking it back to my swamp to cry about how I don't deserve it and I tricked you into giving it to me but I'm going to keep it and that makes me even worse as i shine it with my dirty little goblin rags and put it on my dirty little goblin mantle

"What? No, everything's fine. Thanks so much for commenting! 🫶"

So I’m going to tell a story on myself that all my coworkers are still laughing at me for.

It was my job that day to restock the chip shelves so I went looking for a tall coworker because the boxes of chip bags in the back are stacked to twice my height. Anyway it took some looking but I finally located a tall coworker so I was going to ask her for help when the word chips flew out of my head. So I said to her “I need your help getting down the boxes of bags of dehydrated potatoes.” She of course looked at me like I was crazy and said “we have those?” I then tried a different tact of saying “You know the snacky things” while vaguely waving my hand in a swoop motion. This did not help matters and eventually I took her hand, brought her to where the chips were and pointed. At this point she burst out laughing and said “Potato chips!” And I felt sheepish. She helped me but felt the need to tell this story to all our coworkers for the rest of the day. So the next time my manager wanted me on chip duty he asked “will you need help getting down the boxes of bags of dehydrated potato snack.” I love my coworkers but I also hate them.

21 People Who Forgot A Word And Just Made Some Shit Up

Yes! Listening to music to track time is a GREAT way to combat both executive dysfunction, AND just my general terrible sense of time. TIME DOESN’T EXIST so I fill it with music to make the fake measurements easier to bear or understand.

I’ll often try to decide between two things, and get stuck. And it’s never a serious choice! The most serious question I asked was which prom dress I wanted for senior year. So! I ask a friend or group of people “hey, should I do X or Y?”

‘You should do X’

And I’ll do the opposite. “Got it! Thanks! I’ll do Y!”

It may seem a little confusing, but it’s honestly helped me deal with both making decisions, and feeding the little spite gremlin living in my brain.

executive dysfunction is telling yourself for two and a half hours that you need to shower bc you smell like your workplace and you absolutely Cannot do Anything Else until you shower, doing Any Other Thing before showering is illegal!!! but you still haven’t for some reason??? you’ve just been sitting on your bed in a towel scrolling tumblr for 2+ hours thinking “I need to shower right now immediately” and growing increasingly frustrated that you are still not clean and you haven’t eaten or done your laundry either

PSA

If someone is writing and their answers are short with you, chances are, they’re not doing it intentionally or to be a dick. 

THEY MAY NOT WANT TO LOSE THEIR TRAIN OF THOUGHT.

Do not get offended over it, especially if YOU KNOW THEY ARE BUSY. Writers are not wasting their time, even if they never publish a single story. You wouldn’t talk to an artist as they’re clearly painting and in concentration, so fuck off and leave writers to their work.

This time of year, if your writer is struggling, leave them be. If you want to be helpful, ask what they need before they settle into their zone. 

I straight up didn't know how to pronounce Du Ponceau until I heard my mom say it (I send my family nonstop emails) and then I was like oohhh that makes sense-

(pon-so I think????)

I wonder how many historical figures names I've been saying wrong in my head until I hear them get called something completely different