Hmm... I Identify As A Foodie, And I Do Like The Idea Of Having A Large Appetite And Eating A Lot. But

Hmm... I identify as a foodie, and I do like the idea of having a large appetite and eating a lot. But I don't necessarily get turned on by getting stuffed or force-fed. I enjoy the progression of weight gain, but I think I'd be more comfortable letting it happen more naturally. I want to be rather large, but not TOO large (so, <250 lbs). One of my fantasies/long-term goals is to be in a relationship with someone who loves to cook (like me), and allowing myself to get fat just from the hearty, home-cooked meals. A slow gain over time.

I saw on Grommr something about you living a fat guy lifestyle as opposed to a feedee lifestyle. Care to explain the difference between the two?

Based on discussions I’ve had with guys on Grommr and my own experience is that being a gainer doesn’t necessarily equate to being into feederism. Personally, I’m not that big on it - it’s awkward and messy and tbh I only end up eating a fraction of what I would if I was allowed to just, y’know, eat at my own pace.

Now some guys are really into feederism, and that’s cool, but for me it doesn’t even resonate with me sexually. My sexuality is very much about being fat, as opposed to gaining or feederism or the sexuality of growing fatter. 

I don’t get off on being fed, I get off on being fat.

I don’t get off on eating, but I love being told how big I am.

Food isn’t a turn-on for me, it’s a means to an end - it’s the size and bulk and rolls of fat that are appealling to me.

Being fat is more appealling to me than getting fat.

Essentially my ultimate goal is to just…be a super-fat guy, rather than trying to be one. To me, it feels like gainerism and feederism is all about forcing weight gain, pushing to the next level - it’s like a workout regiment, but with food. For me, as someone who is more into being fat than getting fat, my ultimate goal is to get to a point where I don’t have to try to gain weight, and my lifestyle essentially just gets to a point to where it provides and accomodates for being massive without having to ‘try’ to make it happen.

I hope that kind of makes sense. Weirdly, I’ve actually met quite a few people who are similarly wired, but I understand that from an outside perspective it can be a bit tricky to wrap your head around.

I would pick “Gain & enjoy it gradually”

Which would you rather have?

Gaining for Dummies (or other people who dont know how to gain weight good)

Tools You may Use~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

• WEIGHT GAIN GOAL DATE CALCULATOR

• GAIN CALCULATOR

• BMR CALCULATOR

• MYFITNESSPAL

• FLIPP

• CALORIC INTAKE ESTIMATOR (select: Muscle Gainz)

Other Beneficial Links~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

• How to Gain Weight:  

• 25 Foods that will Make you Hungry: 

• Weight Gain Foods: 

• BMI stock Charts: 

• BMI Comparison Charts (40-80BMi demonstrated): 

• Body Composition: 

TERMS TO KNOW~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

BMR | Basal Metabolic Rate. what your body needs calorie wise in order to sustain its vital functions (return to zero, aka if you laid in bed all day doing nothing what your body needs calorie wise to continue fueling itself)

BMI | body mass index

GW | Goal Weight

CW | Current Weight

LW | lowest weight

Immobile | to be bed bound, in this case as a direct or indirect result of weight gain.

FA/FFA | Fat admirer. Someone who identifies as being attracted to people who may fall along the spectrum of fatness (in obvious varying degrees)

Encourager | Someone who may or may not identify as a feeder who likes to see others eat & possibly gain weight. Often the softcore end of the FA spectrum

Feeder | Someone who either in person or online is interested in spurring or causing another person’s weight gain.

Feedee | Someone who wants to be fed to gain.

Foodee | Someone who loves food, is passionate about the culinary arts.

BHM | Big handsome man

BBW | big beautiful woman

BASIC THEORY~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

How does a person gain weight? In theory, whenever your calories IN are more numerous than your  calories OUT, you will see weight gain. My personal belief is this gain is compounding, as weight increase generally means activity decrease, thus being easier to continue to gain weight over time as much as your BMR will be directly impacted by your gain (more calories needed to sustain/maintain higher weight). For someone who is accidentally or unintentionally gaining, this usually looks like <500 calories more than their required BMR in a day. 500cal+BMR/BMR would in theory result in 1lb of weight gain in a week (52 weeks in a year = 52lbs). For someone who is intentionally gaining, it isn’t unheard of for someone eating a surplus of 1500-3500cal a day to see 1lbs a day (1500-3500+BMR/BMR a day = 3-7lbs a week) or 150lbs-374lbs in a year (both numbers are dramatically noticeable gains if you are hoping to do so in secret). With the help of an online encourager (and from my personal experience) you can expect to see upwards of 5-20lbs in a month gaining, while those with in person feeders often see more aggressive results. Use any of the above calculators to get your BMR as a base line - and the Prokerela calculator if you have a target date for your weight gains (ex: if you were 180lbs today and wanted to weigh 400lbs in 18 months) and it will provide you your approximate necessary caloric intake to get you to said weight by the date.

TECHNIQUES ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Overview: Additional tips and tricks, methods - some old “wives tales” and other unproven sentiments.

1. Don’t drink water before or during meals. Water is a necessity, but we hear about using water as a substitute for other drinks & drinking between bites as a means to lose weight, not gain. Drink (homo) milk instead.

2. Stop drinking 1-2% or skim milk! (160 calories versus 40-75 per serving)

3. Use creamer (10%+) instead of milk in cereal.

4. Eat more often! Despite the “benefits” of gaining to be had from putting “your body into starvation mode”, this isn’t healthy nor is it a viable option in the long run. 

5. Use bigger plates & fill them!

6. Weigh yourself & keep logs of calories in & out, as well as weight !

7. If you are having a hard time because you have a fast metabolism, or have a natural inclination to be athletic/muscular - double, triple, or quadruple your current food intake !

8. Intermittent fasting can be beneficial, however try to limit food intake to hours in a day versus staggered days of eating & not eating - 12PM-8PM for example, or 12PM-12AM.

9. Nuts & carbs are your best friend.

10. peanuts, cashews, and olive oil - yogurt, fruit pies and granola bars are all healthy fatty snacks as well 

11. (Stolen from Wikihow) Eat late at night. Without even upping your food intake, changing your eating times can facilitate the weight gaining process. Have a big dinner late at night and after that? Pile on dessert. A recent study shows that people who snack after 8 p.m. have higher body mass indexes (BMIs) than people who don’t nosh at night, even though they don’t eat significantly more total daily calories

12. Eat fast food.

13. Buy snacks you love, and buy them in bulk on sale (check flipp app for coupons/flyers, go to Costco etc.)

14. Eat meal replacement snacks as a second snack or between meals.

15. Grazing can be a good maintenance trick for people trying to rewire their brains to lose weight, but consistently eating (making sure you have a snack in your hand or within your arms reach) for 10-12 hours a day is a surefire way to put on weight.

16. Use desjardin breakfast drinks, ensure, k brand, or other stir-in meal replacements in your milk on top of your meal.

17. High fat foods and high protein foods will be a major help.

18. Limit your physical activity ! Fuck walking, drive. Fuck taking the stairs, be lazy !

19. Make friends in your community that also enjoy gaining weight, or feeding - hell, even make some plus size friends who love to go out and eat- the power of having friends around who also want to snack all the time is lucrative !

20. Weight gain shakes, protein bars, etc.

Feedee asks! ❔🥄

1. Do you have a goal weight?

2. Do you have a weight limit?

3. Where do you jiggle most?

4. Do you have cellulite?

5. Do you have stretch marks?

6. Do you waddle?

7. Do you find it easy to gain weight?

8. What’s sexier, weight or size?

9. Do you enjoy a stuffed belly, or just wish it was fat?

10. Is food sexy or is only fat sexy?

11. Favourite cuisine?

12. Favourite binge food?

13. Do you eat because you love gaining or gain because you love eating?

14. What’s the sexiest food?

15. Do you want to be funnel fed?

16. Into mutual gaining?

17. Do you prefer a skinny feeder or a fat feeder?

18. Would you rather be fatter than your partner or skinnier?

19. Do you like to be on top?

20. Favourite bit of fat for a partner to play with?

21. Into public displays of feedism?

22. What are the sexiest clothes to be fat in?

23. Would you rather be worshipped or teased?

24. Do you enjoy and family reacting to your gain?

25. Do you enjoy strangers reacting to your size?

26. Do you want fat friends?

27. Do you wish you were fatter already, or is it all about the gain?

28. Any aspects of gaining that you’re not a fan of?

29. Most underrated fat body part?

30. More food or better food?

31. Sweet or savoury?

32. Soft feeding or forceful feeding?

33. Even gain or disproportionately fat?

34. Fat with muscle or soft and flabby?

35. Active fatty or lazy fatty?

36. Do you want to stay fit or let yourself go?

37. What is something that surprised you about gaining weight?

38. Have you ever broken furniture?

39. Have you ever burst out of your clothes?

40. Have you ever got stuck in a tight spot?

41. Has your gain brought any new struggles?

42. Do you like to be measured?

43. Being tied up while fed?

44. Are you into squashing?

45. Are you into bloating?

46. Do you burp a lot?

47. How messy are you?

48. Do you wish everyone was fat, or would that make it less exciting?

49. If you are what you eat, what have you been eating?

50. Ask anything!

My Foodie Identity

In case you may not have gathered this from my sudden burst of foodporn, I'm a foodie. I love to cook and I love to eat good food. And the weight gain that happens from overindulging in that doesn't necessarily bother me. I've embraced it. It turns me on to have eaten so much my stomach is stuffed (but not too painful). It makes me feel powerful, like I have a presence, like I take up space. As I was reblogging each of those foods, I was imagining myself tasting each and every one of them until my stomach was full. And then, thinking about doing that daily over a perioe of time and how much my body would expand from those indulgences. I also like the idea of going out to a restaurant or to a family function and eating several helpings of food, or being the last person still eating. I don't necessarily need a feeder, cuz I don't identify as a feedee. I don't get turned on by being fed by another person. I don't want a feeder as much as I just want... an enabler. Like, someone who makes it easy for me to get fatter. Cook with me and/or for me, leave me special treats, take me out to dinner, give me your leftover food, let me be your human garbage disposal! And tease me lightly about how I have a "hollow leg", how my stomach is a "bottomless pit", how being in a romantic relationship is "treating me well/looking good on me", etc. I love the idea of relationship weight gain. I also love the idea of being part of a group of (guy) friends who love to eat and aren't ashamed of fheir hearty appetites, and having that rub off on me and gaining weight as a result. So that's me...

Rugby Dinner >>NOT MINE JUST HOT<< credit to Terrance Rettle on youtube