Weight Gain Fantasy Scenario #1

Weight Gain Fantasy Scenario #1

One of the weight gain scenarios that's been playing out in my imagination lately is in the realm of "relationship weight gain." It goes like this: I'm in a long-term romantic relationship with a girl, and we've reached the point in our relationship where it's time to meet her family. For some reason I imagine her family lives somewhere in the north-central USA, e.g. Michigan, Wisconsin or Minnesota, like a place fhat gets super cold in the winter. We arrive at her family's home and I meet everyone. I learn that she has, like, five elder brothers who are very protective of their baby sister, and they're all big, strong, fat guys. The youngest brother is the runt, but he's still much fatter than me. Each brother moving up the line is progressively fatter, until I reach the eldest, who's massive. And then I finally meet her father, and he's this gargantuan burly guy with a salt & pepper beard and a baseball cap. We chat for a while, and then my girlfriend goes to the kitchen to help her mother with the meal. That's when the girl's father takes me in close to give me The Talk. He says, "Look, you seem like a nice fella, but if you have any intentions of taking my daughter's hand, you're gonna need to beef up, son. You see her brothers? This family prides itself on the size of our men and their appetites. If you want to be part of this family, you're gonna have to get busy and put some more meat on those bones." I had been thinking that maybe this girl was the one, but k wasn't expecting this! I think about how I can possibly pack on enough weight to be accepted as proper husband material for my girlfriend and her big family. But her youngest brother easily has at least fifty pounds on me. This is gonna be tough. I debate whether or not to talk to my girlfriend about this. On the one hand, maybe she could help me pack on the weight. But on the other hand, are we - am I - ready to make this sort of commitment? I think it's possible that either me or someone else might flesh this out into an actual story. But at this phase, it's just a fantasy...

Gaining for Dummies (or other people who dont know how to gain weight good)

Tools You may Use~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

• WEIGHT GAIN GOAL DATE CALCULATOR

• GAIN CALCULATOR

• BMR CALCULATOR

• MYFITNESSPAL

• FLIPP

• CALORIC INTAKE ESTIMATOR (select: Muscle Gainz)

Other Beneficial Links~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

• How to Gain Weight:  

• 25 Foods that will Make you Hungry: 

• Weight Gain Foods: 

• BMI stock Charts: 

• BMI Comparison Charts (40-80BMi demonstrated): 

• Body Composition: 

TERMS TO KNOW~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

BMR | Basal Metabolic Rate. what your body needs calorie wise in order to sustain its vital functions (return to zero, aka if you laid in bed all day doing nothing what your body needs calorie wise to continue fueling itself)

BMI | body mass index

GW | Goal Weight

CW | Current Weight

LW | lowest weight

Immobile | to be bed bound, in this case as a direct or indirect result of weight gain.

FA/FFA | Fat admirer. Someone who identifies as being attracted to people who may fall along the spectrum of fatness (in obvious varying degrees)

Encourager | Someone who may or may not identify as a feeder who likes to see others eat & possibly gain weight. Often the softcore end of the FA spectrum

Feeder | Someone who either in person or online is interested in spurring or causing another person’s weight gain.

Feedee | Someone who wants to be fed to gain.

Foodee | Someone who loves food, is passionate about the culinary arts.

BHM | Big handsome man

BBW | big beautiful woman

BASIC THEORY~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

How does a person gain weight? In theory, whenever your calories IN are more numerous than your  calories OUT, you will see weight gain. My personal belief is this gain is compounding, as weight increase generally means activity decrease, thus being easier to continue to gain weight over time as much as your BMR will be directly impacted by your gain (more calories needed to sustain/maintain higher weight). For someone who is accidentally or unintentionally gaining, this usually looks like <500 calories more than their required BMR in a day. 500cal+BMR/BMR would in theory result in 1lb of weight gain in a week (52 weeks in a year = 52lbs). For someone who is intentionally gaining, it isn’t unheard of for someone eating a surplus of 1500-3500cal a day to see 1lbs a day (1500-3500+BMR/BMR a day = 3-7lbs a week) or 150lbs-374lbs in a year (both numbers are dramatically noticeable gains if you are hoping to do so in secret). With the help of an online encourager (and from my personal experience) you can expect to see upwards of 5-20lbs in a month gaining, while those with in person feeders often see more aggressive results. Use any of the above calculators to get your BMR as a base line - and the Prokerela calculator if you have a target date for your weight gains (ex: if you were 180lbs today and wanted to weigh 400lbs in 18 months) and it will provide you your approximate necessary caloric intake to get you to said weight by the date.

TECHNIQUES ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Overview: Additional tips and tricks, methods - some old “wives tales” and other unproven sentiments.

1. Don’t drink water before or during meals. Water is a necessity, but we hear about using water as a substitute for other drinks & drinking between bites as a means to lose weight, not gain. Drink (homo) milk instead.

2. Stop drinking 1-2% or skim milk! (160 calories versus 40-75 per serving)

3. Use creamer (10%+) instead of milk in cereal.

4. Eat more often! Despite the “benefits” of gaining to be had from putting “your body into starvation mode”, this isn’t healthy nor is it a viable option in the long run. 

5. Use bigger plates & fill them!

6. Weigh yourself & keep logs of calories in & out, as well as weight !

7. If you are having a hard time because you have a fast metabolism, or have a natural inclination to be athletic/muscular - double, triple, or quadruple your current food intake !

8. Intermittent fasting can be beneficial, however try to limit food intake to hours in a day versus staggered days of eating & not eating - 12PM-8PM for example, or 12PM-12AM.

9. Nuts & carbs are your best friend.

10. peanuts, cashews, and olive oil - yogurt, fruit pies and granola bars are all healthy fatty snacks as well 

11. (Stolen from Wikihow) Eat late at night. Without even upping your food intake, changing your eating times can facilitate the weight gaining process. Have a big dinner late at night and after that? Pile on dessert. A recent study shows that people who snack after 8 p.m. have higher body mass indexes (BMIs) than people who don’t nosh at night, even though they don’t eat significantly more total daily calories

12. Eat fast food.

13. Buy snacks you love, and buy them in bulk on sale (check flipp app for coupons/flyers, go to Costco etc.)

14. Eat meal replacement snacks as a second snack or between meals.

15. Grazing can be a good maintenance trick for people trying to rewire their brains to lose weight, but consistently eating (making sure you have a snack in your hand or within your arms reach) for 10-12 hours a day is a surefire way to put on weight.

16. Use desjardin breakfast drinks, ensure, k brand, or other stir-in meal replacements in your milk on top of your meal.

17. High fat foods and high protein foods will be a major help.

18. Limit your physical activity ! Fuck walking, drive. Fuck taking the stairs, be lazy !

19. Make friends in your community that also enjoy gaining weight, or feeding - hell, even make some plus size friends who love to go out and eat- the power of having friends around who also want to snack all the time is lucrative !

20. Weight gain shakes, protein bars, etc.

Weight Gain Fantasy Scenario #2

I've been reading some weight gain stories again lately, and a couple of them play out a scenario that I really get turned on by. The scenario involves a slim male rookie who's just starting a new job in some blue collar trade (e.g. construction, mechanics, machinery, etc) and how he eventually gains weight. He's placed under the supervision of a more seasoned and much fatter employee who's been with the company a bit longer and looked just as slim as the new rookie when it was his firsf day on the job. During the course of them working together, the rookie learns the trade, but his heavy set mentor's eating habits rub off on him (either accidentally just from being around him for a while or from specific dietary advice given by the mentor). The rookie begins to eat more, and of course he starts growing bigger. He doesn't seem to notice or mind that his pants are getting tighter or that his shirt is beginning to ride up his stomach. And the mentor only encourages him or enables his growth to continue. Soon, the rookie is nearing the size of his mentor. A sequel to this might be that another new guy comes on the team, is placed under the former rookie's supervision, and the same effect on the new guy's waistline happens all over again...

The Stages of Male Weight Gain

Stage 0: Start point.

This is the start point. Your lowest weight or “fightin’ weight”. Almost no one is consistently at this point and if they are it won’t be for very long. Also, note that Stage 0 can change at any point. Example: Your stage 0 could be 140 pounds when you were sixteen, but now that you are in your mid twenties, your new Stage 0 could be 155 pounds. Still confused? Don’t worry I’ll explain further on.

Stage 1: The first 10 lbs…

Everyone, gainers and non-gainers, go through this stage shown in the next 2 pics below at least once in their lives. It is also the most important stage because it is technically a safe zone where you are not defined as “fat” but you very well could be in the near future. Let me explain, one of two things is going to happen. The first is one day you are going to take your shirt off and realize you have lost some muscle tone. Parts of your body are softer than they once were; you might even have a little belly depending on your size. You realize that you haven’t been eating well recently and it is very probable that you have put on weight, therefore it is time to kick bad habits, hit the gym, and get in shape. Either this happens or the alternative happens. You gain ten pounds, don’t really notice it and continue on to the next stage.

Stage 2: The 15/20 lb mark… the “Freshman 15”.

This is a stage that is common amongst most people, but not everyone. Most people that do hit this stage do it in college, hence the “Freshman 15”. At this point it will be apparent that you have gained a little weight. Granted it’s not a lot in retrospect, but it is enough to make your jeans a little tighter, or to have a little belly, or to appear fuller in the face. Exceeding this stage takes an interesting personality because it means you are in extreme denial (which you may very well be) or you simply don’t care. There is also the possibility that you have achieved a new Stage 0. Maybe you’ve kept that “Freshman 15” for four years now. You never were able to shake it off, so you now accept that it’s going to be there forever and you’re not going to have the same body you had in high school. Or maybe you’ve had that paunch for a while now to a point where you don’t even recognize it as being anything but the norm. If you haven’t hit the gym at this point, you could easily achieve Stage 3.

Stage 3: The first 30 lbs…

This is a corner stone in the gainer world. Depending on your size it is usually the line you cross to becoming overweight, by definition “fat”. If you have gained thirty pounds you will not be able to hide it. Baggy clothes and sucking in your gut are not going to hide the fact that you have let yourself go a bit in the past few months. Even the people in the deepest denial with have to face the truth when they can’t button up their pants. This point is when some people start to feel bad about themselves and attempt to lose the weight. Others, however, go to the store, buy new clothes, and just become the butt of everyone’s jokes. Assuming you haven’t broken old habits at this point you are well on your way to stage 4.

Stage 4: 50-100

This is the most broad stage because people who fall into this category are the “fat guy” personalities. People who eat because it gives them joy. The result from your love of donuts is a prominent belly (if you’ve gained fifty pounds or more it is biologically impossible to not have one), love handles (I’ve haven’t gained more than ten pounds in my life and I still have ‘em), chunky legs (not my thing “butt” whatever), and maybe even features like the double chin or man boobs! If you are at this stage you are definitely overweight or maybe even obese. Your Stage 0 has also probably changed to ten or fifteen pounds heavier than it was before, so if you do try to lose weight you’ll be satisfied at your new Stage 0.

Stage 5: 100+

Congratulations! You are a minority! Most people stop when they’ve gained over a hundred pounds (unless you are a gainer of course). It takes a very strong level of denial coupled with a love for Italian food in order to get to this stage. Your Stage 0 could be all over the map at this point because dropping that weight is not going to be an easy task.

My Foodie Identity

In case you may not have gathered this from my sudden burst of foodporn, I'm a foodie. I love to cook and I love to eat good food. And the weight gain that happens from overindulging in that doesn't necessarily bother me. I've embraced it. It turns me on to have eaten so much my stomach is stuffed (but not too painful). It makes me feel powerful, like I have a presence, like I take up space. As I was reblogging each of those foods, I was imagining myself tasting each and every one of them until my stomach was full. And then, thinking about doing that daily over a perioe of time and how much my body would expand from those indulgences. I also like the idea of going out to a restaurant or to a family function and eating several helpings of food, or being the last person still eating. I don't necessarily need a feeder, cuz I don't identify as a feedee. I don't get turned on by being fed by another person. I don't want a feeder as much as I just want... an enabler. Like, someone who makes it easy for me to get fatter. Cook with me and/or for me, leave me special treats, take me out to dinner, give me your leftover food, let me be your human garbage disposal! And tease me lightly about how I have a "hollow leg", how my stomach is a "bottomless pit", how being in a romantic relationship is "treating me well/looking good on me", etc. I love the idea of relationship weight gain. I also love the idea of being part of a group of (guy) friends who love to eat and aren't ashamed of fheir hearty appetites, and having that rub off on me and gaining weight as a result. So that's me...

Keep the teasing playful, tho, please! Not into being humiliated, just lightly teased. My gaining goals are modest (<50 lbs, dadbod or ex-jock status). I'm 5'4" and 195 lbs; stocky build with a bit of a starter gut. I'll definitely take any encouragement I can get!

Reblog if you’re a gainer who welcomes anonymous teasing and encouragement!