TheCodependency OfPain And Pleasure

The Codependency of Pain and Pleasure 

Why is the perpetuation of the human race, or any specie of animal for that matter, important? I see no purpose except to perpetuate the potential for living things to deliver and receive pain, Perhaps we will evolve to the point where we are living in a utopia. But is it worth the cost to those between now and utopia? What do they get out of it or are they merely an unwitting sacrificial means to an end...but to what end? Let's assume we have achieved utopia. then what? Do we simply stand around and smile blankly at each other for the rest of eternity? It seems that good and evil (I use these terms generically) is necessary. You can't know pleasure w out knowing pain. Transversely,you can't know pain w out pleasure. Good and evil seem to need each other. A good example of this is drug use. If it were not for pain no one would use drugs...to make the pain go away or at least lessen it. Going full circle, what do drugs do? They take away or lessen pain. That being said, it would seem, then, that pain is the default state. To most, pain equates to evil, ergo, evil is the inherent state of all living things. If it weren't for this necessary balance, the brain would not produce and garner serotonin, dopamine and endorphins, et al. But what it does is dole out these pain taming drugs, produced by the body, just enough to keep the balance of pain and pleasure. To further this argument,, the human body is designed to deliver both pain and to relieve it. Given that, it would almost seem that something greater than us is controlling us, rather like a dog's shock collar, to what end is completely unknown but it would clearly amount to what we understand as slavery.

Words of Love...

Here is a Facebook wall conversation between Amanda's best friend and myself regarding a birthday card I sent her.. She is a good and decent person who has much trouble expressing her emotions to others because of the way she has been treated so badly all of her life. To many she comes across as stand offish at best and sometimes even a bitch to others. But she's not a bitch, far from it. She's just scared of being hurt, of not being accepted for who she is, of not being loving and not having that love returned. In actuality, she is the most emotional, sensitive, loving, caring and giving person I have ever known. We do not live any distance from each other. In fact, we live in the same house and she, Amanda and I sleep in the same bed together. And, no, there is nothing kinking going on between us. She and I just have a very good, healthy, respectful and loving relationship and I just wanted to share this parlay w whomever wants to know what real love is all about.:

Amanda's Best Friend's Response to My Birthday Card: Thank you so much. Words can not express my gratitude, I am truly grateful to know you and honored to call you my friend. You are a TRUE friend which is a rare and wonderfully beautiful thing. I love you with all my heart.

My Response to Her: It's amazing to me how a kind smile, a sincere hug, the simple words "I love you" and an acknowledgement of appreciation for our existence and possibly our importance can be so powerful. Those things, they warm our hearts, they give us the courage to go on, they inspire us to do good things for ourselves and for others and then to return those things to the gifter. The love that you have demonstrated to me does all those things. Lou, you are a good and wonderful person and I cannot thank you enough for allowing me to love you and for returning that love to me. You are my true and dear friend and you are so very special to me ~ Trabue

When We Make Love...

Our love making is incomparable to any sexual experience I have ever had. It is unique. Every other experience has always been an individual one, two individuals simultaneously fucking each other's bodies, nothing short of assisted masturbation. When I am inside you I transcend my sense of individuality to a state of consciousness where I awake to the overwhelming realization that we are not only one w each other but that we are one w the universe. It produces an incredible sense of thrill, danger and even indecency as I feel I am encroaching on sacred territory; that I might even touch God. When I come inside you it is like experiencing the creation of the universe and our unity is complete. At that point I transcend to an even greater realization and understanding that we are not only the universe but that we are God itself. For that moment I no longer exist. I am you. I am the universe, I am God. I am pure love. This is what you do to me. ~ Trabue Gentry

Interesting Facts and Ironies Relating to Springfield, Illinois and Richmond, Virginia

As most of you know, I was born and raised in Springfield, Illinois and Amanda was born and raised in Richmond, Virginia. On May 5, 2012 Amanda moved from Richmond to Springfield where we were married and lived for little over two years. On August 5, 2014 Amanda and I moved to Richmond. Herein, are some very contrasting facts and ironies relating to Springfield, Illinois and Richmond, Virginia. 

• Springfield is the capitol of Illinois and Richmond is the capitol of Virginia.

• Illinois is considered a northern state and Virginia is considered a southern state.

• Illinoisans predominately speak w a “newscaster” accent and a less dominate mild hoosher accent while Virginians predominately speak w a “newscaster” accent and a less dominate mild southern accent.

 • Springfield was the capitol of the Union and Richmond was the capitol of the confederacy during the civil war.

 • Ulysses S. Grant, the most prominent general in the union, lived the better part of his life in Springfield and Robert  E. Lee, the most prominent general in the confederacy, lived the better part of his life in Richmond.

 • Robert E Lee surrendered the south to Ulysses S Grant.

 • Both Grant and Lee demonstrated a mutual respect for each other and their armies.

 • Illinoisans, who won the civil war, take little pride in the civil war and generally prefer not to remember it, whereas, Virginians, who lost the civil war generally take great pride in the civil war and prefer to preserve its memory.

~ Trabue Gentry