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When students use the R word


Tag urself: sensory issues edition
There’s a little rat inside your head.
This rat doesn’t know anything, but it knows that sometimes snacks fall into its cage, and sometimes the floor shocks its feet. It likes the snacks, and it hates the shocks. It will tell you to do things that produce snacks, and it will tell you not to do things that produce shocks.
This little rat is not the only power inside your head, and it might not be the strongest, but it’s there and it has influence.
So pay attention to how you’re treating the little rat.
If every time you learn something new, you say to yourself “ugh, I’m so ignorant for not already knowing this,” you’re shocking the rat. You’re teaching it to be afraid of learning new things, to associate it with embarrassment and self-criticism.
Remember to feed the rat instead. Tell it “now I know, and that is good,” and let it eat its snack in peace.
If every time you take care of yourself and your home, you say to yourself “ugh, I never do this enough, and I’ll never get it right,” you’re shocking the rat. You’re teaching the rat that it was safer when you didn’t try to take care of things.
Feed the rat instead. Praise what you have done, forgive what you haven’t, so the rat can feel safe.
When the rat takes a step in the right direction, even if the step is too small or slow or not in quite the right direction, feed it. Don’t shock it for being imperfect; it’ll only learn not to take any steps at all. Feed it, and let it get bolder, and take bigger steps, and give it bigger rewards for those bigger steps.
Be kind to your little rat.

“One day…” I keep telling myself. “One day…” 😂 http://bit.ly/2UOLjkm
tbh the worst thing about being a self aware mentally ill person is that people assume that because you understand your illness you’re automatically able to actually apply your knowledge to your life and cure yourself
Bottom line: there’s nothing wrong with questioning, and I personally don’t think self-discovery has an expiration date. For some, labels are grounding and give a sense of identity. Others find them too narrow or restrictive. Some might be attracted to one gender identity at one point and a different gender identity at another. A guy who has only ever been attracted to men might find himself attracted to a woman. A girl who has only ever liked boys might find herself falling for her trans female best friend.
None of this is as simple as we want it to be. And I think that should be okay. Being who you are and loving who you love may not be easy, but it’s always worthwhile.
Odd One Out - Nic Stone (Author’s Notes)
Reblog this if you weren’t diagnosed with ADHD until adulthood because you
Were good at school
Are AFAB/female
Are primarily inattentive
Didn’t know that ADHD really messes with emotional health
Stereotypes are harmful
Didn’t fit the stereotype of ADHD and such pervasive stereotypes infiltrate professionals who should be objective about their perceptions but arent
i think that… approximately 100% of the time, parents, teachers, etc… have this misconception that neurodivergent kids & teens don’t know anything about how to handle their neurodivergence.
for years, i suffered through people making suggestions of things that were things i had done, and either weren’t worth the effort or they actually made things worse. i told them this, and if i was still having any issues with the same problem they’d say something about “well if you’re not gonna listen to any suggestions…” when I did. they’re the one who didn’t listen when i told them that doesn’t work for me. They assume that because I didn’t try it in front of them (which is often impossible), I never tried it. I tried doing my homework as soon as I got home. I tried doing my homework at the table, I tried working where I was comfortable. I tried listening to music, I tried working in silence. I tried using a planner, I tried setting reminders on my phone, I tried. I tell people that I have executive functioning issues and they say that I have to work on it like I haven’t been doing that as long as I’ve had to do things and it’s so much better than it was before. I’m as able as I am now because I’ve spent 18 years working on it.
One of my friends has ADHD, and at one point when her grades dropped her parents took her phone, despite her telling them that the only way she can focus on her homework is to listen to music, for which she needs her phone.
I was in a study hall with another friend, who also has ADHD. Sometimes, they would be able to focus and do their work. Others, they would end up being entirely unable to and would do other stuff. The “instructional support” person would start bothering them about it, insist that they try. As if they hadn’t already done so.
I am tired of watching people assume that neurodivergent people aren’t trying, or we haven’t tried. We’re always trying.
If you aren’t gonna kiss my forehead after I do something cute then whats the point?
Undiagnosed ADHD child: Sometimes I talk too much in class, lol
Undiagnosed ADHD middle schooler: I always forget things in my locker, so I just keep everything in my backpack all the time, lol
Undiagnosed ADHD high schooler: I’m a big procrastinator, but I just work better under pressure, lol
Undiagnosed ADHD college student: I can’t focus during lectures unless I’m playing on my phone, lol
Undiagnosed ADHD working adult: I’m just a list person - if I don’t write it down, I know I’ll forget it, lol
1 - gives kibble to dogs in shelters with a single click
2 - gives 10 pieces of kibble to dogs in shelters, whether you get the question right or not
3 - gives 10 pieces of kibble to cats in shelters, whether you get the question right or not
4 - gives cat litter to cats in shelters with a single click
if my slightly smudged glasses could stop attracting all my adhd brain’s attention, that would be fucking great. thanks!!!!!