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this is such a random thing to struggle with but i think having arfid makes it harder for me to write scenes with food whenever i write?? like what do normal people eat... how do normal people eat..... it makes me want to just gracefully dance around the topic every time

Having Arfid and being overweight is such an interesting experience because I just had to sit and listen to my doctor tell me to cut certain foods out of my life (that I don't even eat mind you) as if we didn't have a conversation at my previous appointment about how I'm having problems eating. But it's whatever ig 🤷🏾‍♀️

Safefood list!

And uh. Yeah that's the list of every food I can eat. Yyyyup.

If your response to people discussing their medical trauma is "there are good Doctors though" I fucking hate you btw

you know as disabled people it's actually pretty scary that you can't trust your doctors. like people who have medical trauma or distrust or dislike doctors and nurses aren't doing it for fun. we need these guys to help with our lives. we need healthcare to stay alive or to stop from getting worse, or to function at all. but often when you're dismissed and not communicated with you're left floundering and often have to make decisions yourself without that specialist knowledge. sometimes doctors know less than you about your disability anyway. sometimes they're wrong and give you advice that's detrimental to what you need or want, and you kinda have to just trust that the next guy is also not wrong. i think we're pretty lucky if we can find other people with our condition who are well researched in it. but i still think that uncertainty is something that disabled people shouldn't have to navigate

having arfid is like if someone diagnosed you with "hates poop disorder" then told you that you either have to start eating bowls of horse diarrhea with human nail clippings in it or you die. that would fucking suck now wouldn't it

Funniest thing about lifelong ARFID is having no idea how foods are eaten or prepared. Today I learned people don't just bite into tomatoes like they do with apples for some reason

i love it when the recommended treatment for specific brand of my mental disorder is just to stop having the disorder 👍 thanks ill try my best.

btw it is ableist to make fun of what people like / dont like food wise btw.

“You shouldn't force-feed your children! They might be autistic or have ARFID!” even if your child is perfectly healthy and is genuinely just a picky eater you shouldn't force-feed them.

food being hugely culturally important as well as one of the main ways ppl connect to each other (cooking together, eating together, going to restaurants together, etc) makes me rlly sad (especially bc of how much my partner loves food) because food is just not something I enjoy at all. I've tried different foods and recipes and changing how I eat and where and everything and I just can't enjoy it. even my "favorite" foods sometimes are so disgusting to think about that I just don't eat. I hate having to eat so bad that I'd almost rather have a permanent feeding tube and it takes everything I have to eat anything, and not even in like a restrictive ed way specifically it's just, so disgusting and all I can think about the entire time is the food being contaminated in some way. I have exactly the right combination of arfid, trauma from being force fed and starved as a child, and ocd that eating feels like the most burdensome chore in the world, and that's not even mentioning the gi issues I have from eds that makr me get rlly sick from eating anything I can actually tolerate the thought of and it feels so isolating. like no sorry I can't go out with you to try that new restaurant and no I don't want to go to a dinner party and no I don't want to cook with you and no I don't want to get a bunch of snacks to with you while we watch a movie

"Try eating things, even if you don't like them" is probably the most useless advice for ARFID. I can not eat foods I do not like because I will throw them up; that's not an assumption or a fear or a phobia, it's an observation from the multiple times I have literally done so.

You don't have to be malnourished to have ARFID you don't have to experience drastic weight loss to have ARFID you don't have to be skinny to have ARFID these are not requirements I am screaming this from the fucking roofs can anyone hear me

Literally nothing worse than having ARFID and being sick

Literally being skinny and becoming more educated in fat liberation is like opening your third eye and you cant go back. Like you start noticing shit you never did before.

Go into the character design tag and look at how many characters are skinny and compare them to how many characters are fat. Go watch several movies see if the fat character is rich or is food obsessed or if theyre the tank or dumb or the comic relief etc. Im not even looking for these it just became blatantly obvious at some point and theyre everywhere

but what if we DIDN'T act like physical appearance is a fool proof way to judge someone's character and traits and personality and flaws and strengths and life experience and--

this was made more for twitter than tumblr but i’m still archiving it

fat people don’t have to be attractive either to deserve basic love and respect

'universal trans experience' and it's only applicable to perisex alloromantic allosexual middle class thin abled white americans

yeah

this may seem extreme but i believe people who say things like this should die

It's well established that many artists genuinely don't seem to know what fat looks like, but I'm convinced a lot of them have no idea what hairy looks like, either. If I see one more artist who's like "oh, I love fat hairy guys!" and their work is just a solid wall of dudes of average build with a neat patch of hair in the middle of the chest, nothing on the belly, nothing on the forearms... well, I'm probably not going to do anything about it, but I'll definitely keep on complaining.

As a fat person, one thing that would be awesome is if thin people could just get over it. People are fat sometimes. It's fine. Chill. We're not a problem you need to solve, we're just a bunch of people who deserve social equality.

I'm not saying you should be all "I don't see size", just that I'm tired of being met with some form of "but I can't just let you be this way". Yes, you can! I can be fat all day and you can just not worry about it! Look at us go!