Advice Your Mother Shouldve Given You Pt. 2

Advice your mother should’ve given you pt. 2

Love, friendship, and connections do matter. But none of those things should come at the expense of your peace, success, happiness, well being, and dreams. No relationship that’s good for you should deplete you or cost you. Even when you’re giving you shouldn’t be losing! A relationship whether romantic, sexual, or platonic should be doing at least two of the following: feeding you, nurturing you, exciting you, enlightening you, calming you, and healing you. 

It’s always “why did you get in the river” and “your soaking wet” and never How was the river The river looked fun was it fun

"I wish loving myself did not always feel, each day, like an extraordinary task that took extraordinary lengths and impossible distances to achieve. I am still living in the consequence of a lifetime spent telling myself all the ways in which I did not have value, and all the ways I was supposed to."

Out There: On Not Finishing by Devin Kelly

Being controlling is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Being in control is sign of strength, leadership and self esteem. Know the difference and treat her accordingly. Women love men who are in control. But never, ever try to control her.

Life isn't about the number of breaths you take, its about the number of moments that take your breath away.

Self-control is strength. Calmness is mastery. You have to get to a point where your mood doesn't shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else. Don't allow others to control the direction of your life. Don't allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence.

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