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This makes me so happy and I wish this for every person. 🫶🩷

I ate so much yesterday. My eating disorder wanted to be really upset about it, but I found the strength to LITERALLY say "Fuck you eating disorder. Food is the least interesting thing about the day."

We opened the musical I'm working on! I spent time with friends at the after party! I played games and had a couple drinks. I laughed and took fun pictures with people I care about!

I won't remember everything I ate yesterday but I will remember the fun I had

Affirmations for EDs. Even if you don't believe them now, say them and work towards believing them one day

1. I do not need to have an excuse for being hungry

2. Eating will let me enjoy life

3. Eating will help the people I love

4. I do not deserve to feel pain

5. Just because this amount made me feel good yesterday doesn't mean it's enough for today

6. 'Being good' is not how long I exercise or how little I eat

7. Starvation does not protect me

8. Being thin won't fix my struggles

9. No one needs to be perfect

Regardless of your body type, regardless of your looks, the only thing that will ever make someone ugly. Is their personality.

If you are mean to people who are just trying to be nice? If you bully people for having interests? If you bully people for the things that bring them comfort? If you bring down someone just because of what they're wearing or their looks? If you start arguments and bully people for not having the same opinion as you? If you never try to respect boundaries or triggers? If you don't respect people's choices that are opposite to yours? You are the ugliest person I've ever seen. So ugly I don't even wanna look at you. So ugly I don't even want to be around you.

But if you are nice, back to the people that are nice to you? If you encourage those interests. If you willingly go out of your way to help someone who's clearly struggling? If you respect and understand the boundaries and triggers? If your kind to yourself and take care of yourself along with others? If you go out of your way to pick up trash on the ground? If your kind, regardless of how mean people are? If you respect people's opinions, even if they are opposite to your? If you respect people's choices, even if you don't fully understand them? God you're beautiful. You're so stunning and gorgeous that I can't stop looking at you.

Looks don't matter. They don't. You can match the "perfect beauty standards" and be the ugliest person I've ever seen. Or you can be "ugliest" person in terms of "beauty standards," and I would want to portrait of you just to look how beautiful you are.

But there are exceptions.

All body types are beautiful and gorgeous, but there is a point where it can be harmful. You can be so skinny, I can see your ribs & it wouldn't make me admire your diet or your figure but that would make me worry you aren't eating enough and not taking good care of yourself. You can be obese and overweight, and that would not make you ugly, no not at all, but it would make you unhealthy and sick. And it would make me worry if you're taking proper care of yourself. There's a balance.

The point of this post is that the beauty standards of today are messed up and twisted. And at some point, people need to realize that the things that make a person beautiful or not their looks. But their personality. And while people are right to point out that all body types are beautiful! There's a point where it becomes dangerous to yourself and unhealthy. And the world needs to realize that.

So please, if not for anyone else, please take care of yourself for me. Will you? I love you. I hope you have an awesome day.

there is little in life that can’t be fixed with a hot beverage

Keep going, my dear 🌙✨

Me if you even care

Valentine’s Care!

Hi everyone! Happy Valentines Day! Love it or hate it, it’s Valentine’s Day. Not the happiest of days for a lot of people. If you’re lucky enough to have a caregiver or little take the time today to show them how much you care! Treat them like the adorable little princes and princesses that they are. And Little’s take time today to show your caregiver how much you appreciate what they do. Be on your best behavior, color them a picture or make them something cute! Don’t think I forgot about all you single caregivers and Little’s. As much as you may or may not hate today, take this time to pamper yourself! You’ve earned it! Take a bubble bath or have a cartoon marathon with your stuffies. Just relax and take a day for yourself. You deserve it. Just a friendly reminder to everyone. My inbox is always open if you need it, I don’t bite I promise ☺️

Self Care

Self care is so important for caregivers/doms and Littles/subs alike. It is important for doms because subs depend on you to take care of them and you can not do that without taking care of yourself first. Think of it like this, an empty battery can not power something else. You need to feel good to make sure they feel good. Subs need to care for themselves because you can not always count on a dom to be able to completely care for you especially if you don’t have one.

Dom selfcare.

- let yourself relax. Take a day to just give yourself a re charge

- Take a warm bath

- Jam out to music

- Make yourself a nice meal

- Order take out and laze around in sweats with Netflix or Hulu

- Take a mid day nap

- Binge your favorite show

- Talk to someone and just let out your frustration

Sub selfcare

- Drown in your headspace and let your problems float away.

- Cuddle with your stuffies

- Make a pillow fort

- Take a bubble bath

- Stay in your jammies all day

- Eat an okay amount of sweets and junk food(something not detrimental to your health)

- Color to your hearts content

- Dance around the house to music

Everyone needs to take the occasional personal day to work on themselves and recharge. No matter what helps you do that, it’s worth it if it helps to better yourself. You can not help others if you can’t help yourself.

I know this is shorter than usual but it’s something that I felt needed to be said. Until next time Be good, stay safe, and have fun!

Subdrop

For the multi-roll labeling purpose today I’m going to refer to it as Drop. Drop happens usually after an intense scene but can also happen after any scene if it was particularly pleasurable and draining. Drop is the result of your brain releasing “happy chemicals” and adrenaline in large doses during a scene and then your body and mental state going through a withdrawal essentially because they are not coming in at such high doses after the scene has ended. For subs it usually happens within a day or two of the scene. However, for doms it could be several days before it kicks in and really hits you. It’s especially bad for subs and doms with anxiety or self doubt. I will be covering both subdrop and domdrop today because they are both very real and could potentially be very dangerous.

Subdrop-

Subdrop tends to happen a day or two after a scene. It does not always happen but those no real way to guarantee it won’t happen so it’s good to keep an eye out for it any time. There are a lot of different ways it can show up. Let’s talk about the physical things first

- It can show up as feeling like a hangover

- like you stayed up too late (even if you got more than enough sleep)

- you could wake up feeling just off

- Drop can be associated with feelings of loneliness, mental and physical exhaustion, confusion, insecurity, tremors and many other physical symptoms.

Not so random fact: pain can make you tired. You’re going to feel it and it’s going to wear your energy down, and your body is going to be short on chemicals to give you a boost. This can make you crash and suddenly become exhausted, and being tired can make you emotional.

Honestly, the emotional side is the more dangerous half. Emotions can wreak havoc on our logic,you could be great one minute like normal, then suddenly you’re completely out of it and it can be mental torture.

- you could feel abandoned

- Depression(especially if you already have it on a daily basis)

- Even feeling unloved is common during subdrop.

Subdrop can not be prevented or avoided entirely. You can try but there’s no sure fire way to do so. Here’s how to help subdrop:

- If you can get to your dom and they can help you calm down and reassure you with cuddles and words that works fairly well for most people.

- COMMUNICATION( I really can not say that enough) Text or call your Dom as soon as possible.

- if you can’t get a hold of them, you need to stop and evaluate.

- Remind yourself that sub drop is normal

- remind yourself of what happened during and after the session.

- There should have been some type of aftercare, go back to that moment and stay there.

- Remember how loved you felt, hold on to the fact that your dom cares for you.

- Take your self to a happy place with happy and positive thoughts

If you’re feeling a little emotional, think of what makes you feel better when you’re sick (because you kind of are). A warm blanket, a bubble bath, candy, a favorite drink, music, etc. If you are someone who likes to journal, keep a notebook with you to write out how you feel to get the words out and down, this might also help you clear your head before you talk to your Dom.

Okay I know I was supposed to have this up a while ago but I had several things come up. I just recently got a new job and that’s been taking up a lot more of my free time which was sparse enough since I try to meet with my friends often. As you can see this only covers subdrop. I’m not confident in the level of research I’ve been able to do on domdrop and don’t want to give vague or incorrect information to you guys. I’ll try to get it done soon but no promises. I will also be at daughters of the moon which is a Wiccan event this weekend so contact and any sort of posting will be delayed until at least Monday. As always be good, stay safe, and have fun!

For all my lovelies who might need a little nudge to help yourself. I know this may not change your mind on what you think people might do but hopefully it gives you a bit of confidence to do something that will help make being social just a little easier for you. I’ve had friends call me mid-anxiety attack because of having to socialize without something to help ease their mind. I hope this helps even one of you, then I will have done my job. Be good, be safe, and have fun!

God I really wish carrying stuffed animals around with you was socially acceptable

♡They just do it better

Their so cutesyy

Just for a Little While

Just for a Little While

I was born in 1995, and I have spent my 25th year of existence during the onset of the 2020 pandemic. I have heard of the quarter-life crisis before, but I never did expect that I would be experiencing it while the world is in literal viral chaos. I have been in isolation before, but this imposed an unrelenting imposition of both internal and external turmoil. This, in turn, has given me an…

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Just for a Little While

I was born in 1995, and I have spent my 25th year of existence during the onset of the 2020 pandemic. I have heard of the quarter-life crisi

LATE NIGHT POST

Been feeling this way since high school. During elementary, I was in my own world and only felt sad that some classmates misunderstood or laugh (or smirk) on my cluelessness about films, shows, and trends. But in high school, there was a pull between reading books or hanging out and talking with friends or classmates about people in showbiz, or shows, films, or just be with them doing fun shizz. FOMO is strong mostly during DMs which friends chose to ignore constantly if they're busy (esp if they're with other "more fun" people).

When birthday wishes are reduced to "happy birthday" from those short yet well meaning personal messages I adore. When you finall6 able to go with people but you got so much to catch on from exes, drunken stories, and jokes which makes it awkward for both you and the people you are with.

So over the years, I gradually rewired my brain to forgo any expectations I used to have. Still, I feel all the emotions from heaviness, the emptiness, and the feeling of being forgotten. I expect people to misjudge, misunderstood, overlook, ignore, and be disappointed in me.

It is so ingrained within me that I have a hard time considering calling people as friends or to even think about the idea of being committed in a romantic relationship with someone. This is not all that bad tho coz it introduced me to be more loving on myself by myself. To not expect anything from people. To learn things I could learn so when they refuse or ignore my plea for assistance (or they abandon me) I can do it on my own. Coz you will come to a point of getting tired of making excuses for people who did not even bother to offer you one for themselves.

I miss people and moments even if they don't miss me (or remember me) at all. It's okay coz this is life and I could be forgetting others as well. We will all die one day and when it is time we should reflect if we are proud of the life we've lived up to the very last breath.

I am going to the estetichian and i will come back as smooth as a babies butt