The Trope I Appreciate Very Much

The trope I appreciate very much

said this before and i will say it again but i think its a bit silly people expect transgender children to explain exactly what gender means to them using language and concepts that grown-up cis people are never expected to learn in their lifetime

Not adding anything meaningful, just sharing:

As someone who really struggled to accept myself as trans because of this mindset of “TRANS MEN CANT BE LESBAINS!” This is amazing.

My limited understanding of the labels, “lesbian” and “trans man”, in 2017 led me to believe I couldn’t be both, and I was more comfortable as a lesbian, so I waited 7 more years to explore my gender.

I started that exploration within the past year, and I have struggled so, so, much to accept that I cannot be a lesbian anymore. That label has meant so much to me for so long.

Now, we have literal children arguing over other people’s labels, convincing people, like me, that I must choose between living the life I was meant for, and the sapphic love I always thought I’d grow old with.

I realized I liked women at the ripe age of eight. I’m one of those “i’ve always known” kinda gays. However, I’ve also always known I didn’t ‘fit’ in my body, and yet the people who felt they should have a say on my gender and sexuality convinced me to stay comfortable in my womanhood.

The funny part is, after coming out fully as trans, I realized I didn’t think I was attracted to men because I was envious of them and didn’t want to automatically be the more feminine one in a mlm relationship. After all this, I think I’m bi.

So to anyone reading this, who may still feel a bit at odds with themselves and their identity because of shit like this, ignore them. As long as it’s legal, explore, experiment, try labels on, tell people, make mistakes, buy a pride flag, whatever helps you feel secure in what makes you comfortable; because at the end of the day your labels are nobodies business but your own.

When will Gen Z stop feeling threatened by ftms for identifying with the lesbian community, calling themselves lesbians, calling themselves male lesbians, ftm lesbians, lesboys, etc. Go to a lesbian bar please.

Gender and sexuality is weird. Telling ftm lesbians to "identify as nonbinary" is weird. Some people just aren't nonbinary, they're ftm and lesbians. Who are you to tell someone how they experience their gender and sexuality?

Lots of people make the argument that "identifying as contradictory labels invalidates everyone." Other people's identities are not invalidating your own. Your validation doesn't depend on how other people who don't know you exist. There is no wrong way to identify or express your gender.

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