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Endeavor Apologists are aware that he has done some questionable things to his family ...

Endeavor Apologists are not writing off Endeavor's 'abuse' of his family. But they recognize that there is more to Endeavor's character, and his actions are a product of a society that puts affection on people with Quirks, and within that class of people, those with marketable quirks are favored over those who do not.


Endeavor's life and lifestyle revolved around this society which is focused on the idea of idolizing powerful quirks. What Endeavor believes is good for his family is shaped by the rather toxic environment of the BNHA society and the pro-hero industry. Having a strong quirk is what gets you ahead in life, so Endeavor ensures that his children who have quirks are trained to control these keys to success, which is what any parent would do for their child.
Despite Endeavor's good intentions, however, the results are destructive and self-destructive. That is something Endeavor only recognizes after his family is nearly torn apart. Now Endeavor is trying to fix the consequences of believing in a flawed system that ultimately brought more harm than good to what Endeavor ultimately cares the most about.
Endeavor apologists are not dismissing the abuse. But we recognize that Endeavor is a result of an abusive society. We also recognize that Endeavor is trying to change as a conscious rebellion against the pro-hero industry and society. Which is a heroic action all on its own.
Endeavor had a lasting impact on his family, but the fault was due to the environment he is a part of.
Recognizing that Endeavor is a product of a broken system and that he is working around it is something an Endeavor fan can respect.
That recognition of something wrong and working to change in some way does not erase Endeavor's actions, but it is something Endeavor Apologists choose to focus on MORE than the abusive behavior. Abusive behavior is an extension of the abusive nature of the Pro-Hero industry the characters in the story slavishly support.

To hate on Endeavor Apologists for focusing on MORE than ONE aspect of Endeavor's character is to miss the fact that the abuse reflects worse on the Pro-Hero industry and the world-building.