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I just want a desi wife to wear beautiful lehengas with and fast for Teej/Karwa chauth together and dance on Bollywood songs and braid each other's hair asdghjkll
Is THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK For
Obsessed with how beautifully happy and diverse these pictures are. Dying for the desi lesbian wedding.
In the absolute highlight of my week, I was talking to my (very sheltered) grandma (Lived in a village of a thousand people all her life in an absolutely orthodox family, has trouble with the concepts of multiple countries and time zones, absolutely unaware of a thing such as homosexuality)
I told her that these days even two women or two men can get married. And then if they want children, they can adopt. And she's like oh I haven't heard of that, is this more of a thing in foreign countries ( we live in India). I explained yeah, but there are people in India who do it too.
She pondered a bit about, yeah they can't have biological children (didn't want to go into the whole surrogacy sperm donation thing), but adoptions great! A child gets parents and parents get a child!
Then for the part I was absolutely not prepared for, she proceeded to ask me about the sex. Keep in mind this is an 80 year old woman who reads scriptures and mythological stories all day.
The way she asked was also amazing, because we don't share the vocabulary for sex, or lust, or sensual desire. She tells me a story about Diti and how she really wanted her husband Kashyap one fine evening and Kashyap kept saying no "because it's evening time and the gods will curse us" (amazing reason to not have sex Kashyap, 10/10, gonna use this when I'm not in the mood next time)
So my Grandma says, what do these two married women do if they feel like that. And I am speechless. I did not expect that from my sweet grandma. And idk what to say. So I tell her, well they get married when they're in love with each other (arranged marriage is the norm here). She's like, yeah ofc and looks at me like I'm not understanding her question. "Love is awesome, but" proceeds to tell story again, "what do they do for that?"
One of the great regrets of my life that I was not ready for that and told her a lesbian story from mythology and moved on.
I am in awe of this wonderful woman.
I am so so happy. What a wonderful woman. I hope someday when I encounter a strange concept I've never heard of, I respond to it with that open curiosity and acceptance.
The lesbian story in question
In the absolute highlight of my week, I was talking to my (very sheltered) grandma (Lived in a village of a thousand people all her life in an absolutely orthodox family, has trouble with the concepts of multiple countries and time zones, absolutely unaware of a thing such as homosexuality)
I told her that these days even two women or two men can get married. And then if they want children, they can adopt. And she's like oh I haven't heard of that, is this more of a thing in foreign countries ( we live in India). I explained yeah, but there are people in India who do it too.
She pondered a bit about, yeah they can't have biological children (didn't want to go into the whole surrogacy sperm donation thing), but adoptions great! A child gets parents and parents get a child!
Then for the part I was absolutely not prepared for, she proceeded to ask me about the sex. Keep in mind this is an 80 year old woman who reads scriptures and mythological stories all day.
The way she asked was also amazing, because we don't share the vocabulary for sex, or lust, or sensual desire. She tells me a story about Diti and how she really wanted her husband Kashyap one fine evening and Kashyap kept saying no "because it's evening time and the gods will curse us" (amazing reason to not have sex Kashyap, 10/10, gonna use this when I'm not in the mood next time)
So my Grandma says, what do these two married women do if they feel like that. And I am speechless. I did not expect that from my sweet grandma. And idk what to say. So I tell her, well they get married when they're in love with each other (arranged marriage is the norm here). She's like, yeah ofc and looks at me like I'm not understanding her question. "Love is awesome, but" proceeds to tell story again, "what do they do for that?"
One of the great regrets of my life that I was not ready for that and told her a lesbian story from mythology and moved on.
I am in awe of this wonderful woman.
I am so so happy. What a wonderful woman. I hope someday when I encounter a strange concept I've never heard of, I respond to it with that open curiosity and acceptance.
I'm not crying, you're crying!
There are a million different personal experiences and circumstances that impact the decisions we make. Safety should always be the number one prior
But there is no queer Indian identity without queer Indians living in India
There is no queer progress in India without queer Indians fighting for it