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THIS.

Thank you so much for articulating this so beautifully. It’s something that drives me up a wall, makes me very uncomfortable and lose touch with stories because I can’t just get over it. 

I hope that women realize that 50 Shades of Grey was NOT a book about domination and submission, it was a book about abuse and sexual assault. It just seems like this theme has come up over and over since the Grey novels hit shelves and it truly makes me hope that any woman interested in D/S play (or BDSM, or any sexually motivated play) does real research before jumping into the pool. 

If life truly imitates art then writers should be responsible and write responsibly. That means keeping in mind the words ‘no’ or ‘stop’ or even pushing away all mean something isn’t right and whatever is happening needs to end immediately. 

Consent is everything.

i just want to touch on something that is one of my pet peeves as a writer and human being. if you are writing a fic or anything and you have any respect for your characters and their sexual natures… 

if one of the characters says “Stop” in any way during an intimate scene then the other character should stop unless they are intended to carry out a sexual assault. 

for one character to say stop and the other to not listen is just degrading to their relationship. i don’t usually throw my opinions out there often but this is important. 

it’s not sexy. 

now. if one character is hesitant towards the other character’s advance but not committed to turning them down you can write them as shy or uh.. well hesitant.

So instead of:

“…Eric, stop.” I breathe against his cheek as he has me pinned against the wall. I’m pushing against his chest, but he won’t move. “You won’t be saying that in a minute.” He whispers, sliding his hands down and pulling my dress up.

Try:

“…Eric, I don’t think we should be doing this.” I giggle breathlessly against his cheek as he has me pinned against the wall. “I think I can change your mind.” He whispers. 

“giggling” is a positive reinforcement and acknowledgement that subject A isn’t uncomfortable, but slightly nervous. And subject B (eric) isn’t being a fucking lurker when he says “i think i can change your mind” rather than blatantly telling subject A what she’ll be saying. 

I understand the dominant mentality is desirable in a character such as Eric but there’s a fine line between Dominant and Fuckhead. 

Consent is important in real life. It is just as important in literature. 

Heartbreaking from the start (Floyd!!!) @diplulmaris-antarctica if you believe me or not is up to you but you are truly one of my favorite writers. Everyone one of your stories has managed to rip my heart out and dance on it (damn you! *shakes fist*) but that’s what a writer is supposed to do. When you’re getting complaints and requests for more or a better ending then you know you’re truly touching people. I only have one ask, no more animal killing in the future okay? The human killings are hard enough!

BFF

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