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Not a reciept but it's v important!

okay so i’m binging this one singer right now, Simon Curtis (i haven’t done much research on him yet so i’m sorry if he’s problematic or anything) and he’s openly gay. most of his songs are somewhat … intense, and often play with a kind of “dark” and “evil” scheme, some of his songs aren’t even about that anymore, but about straight up abusive relationships and escaping them. The comments under his songs however disgust me. they are made up of people going “imagine your otp” and “YAOIIII”. This is just … no. I get it, this dark thing fascinates you, and if it’s your kind of thing, then go for it but for god’s sake don’t bring yaoi/yuri to this and please don’t fucking do that on his songs about abuse. Just don’t. There’s a fine line between “a dark theme” and just a straight up abusive relationship. And don’t fetishize mlm like this and don’t fucking fetishize him like that just because he’s gay ffs.

Anyway, @fujoshi-receipts i dunno if that’s something you should be tagged in or not

Hardcore-fujoshi: If I could rate my love of yaoi from 1 to 10, it would be 18+.

— Nei? — Nei.

Commentary on aroace/lesbian “fujoshi”

CW: talk of porn (the good and the bad), sex, and gender. Pretty graphic language and imagery. Sex repulsed aroace people BEWARE.

I would like to start this off by saying I am an aroace lesbian. What does that mean? Simply - I don’t want sex, nor romance, but if I did, I know where I’d find it. I love WOMEN. All women. Any women. I also really like yaoi, and I’ve seen some minimal discussion about specifically women who love yaoi or BL, and I’d like to add my two cents.

Several people online seem to take “lesbians liking yaoi” as just a natural reaction to the overall market of fiction. That is to say, there’s not a lot of options. There is a side to yuri which appeals to women, yes. But the way I see it, it’s either magical girl or slice of life, or, written by a man. And most of the stuff written by men is porn - bad porn. Thus it doesn’t appeal to women who actually like women.

In the same vein there is hetero stuff, which some lesbian/aroace yaoi enjoyers say doesn’t appeal to them because the majority of it has a male/female dynamic that is skewed. Oftentimes the woman is portrayed as weak or perhaps just isn’t a correct representation of the lesbian/aroace consumer. So why even bother?

Anecdotal, but I have had this experience too. I have a hard time getting into any kind of hetero ship because the women are often unrelatable or worse - just uninteresting. I don’t like men, so why would I care if it was just some faceless dame and her super hot husband? I don’t give a shit about him.

I’ve found that I enjoy a lot of hetero ships from demon slayer. Some may find this contradictory because there has been some commentary on the usefulness or intrigue around women in demon slayer. I think the demon slayer women are very interesting, story wise and appearance wise, and they fit very well with the men I ship them with. That is to say - men in demon slayer are simps for beautiful, strong, independent women - and I eat that shit up.

Most hetero stuff, however, is victimizing the women. Knowingly or unknowingly. It’s sad that if I want to get my rocks off to Mitsuri x Obanai, I have to scroll through like eight pages of the same inflation, big tits big ass no tummy, fart porn all sourced from the deepest dredges of Apocrypha. In fact, most of the time if you have the balls to like a fictional woman enough to want to see her getting respectfully banged, the cisgender heterosexual gooner men have already beaten you to the punch - and now you see her with her face in a smelly man’s ass. (All real examples by the way)

So it’s not to say I don’t like yuri, or hetero, it’s just that if I want to see women getting railed - I’m very particular. As I should be.

Yaoi, some people on the internet say, sets the men it’s focused around on equal footing. Instead of the woman being the damsel or a plain sexual object, the uke and seme are usually just two dudes. Not to say there aren’t power dynamics in yaoi - just to say that those power dynamics don’t hurt my pride as a woman. It doesn’t victimize a girl for somebody else’s sick kicks.

Yaoi, at least the kind I read, also can have an element of one man (the uke) usually being pretty soft or feminine. Why? Well that’s a pure reflection of how I (and other people) view sex. There is the giver and the receiver, the top and the bottom, the dom and the sub. Not that those lines don’t get crossed - they do, all the time. But as good ol’ Tevye says about Anatevka… TRADITION! (Sorry. It’s 3 AM)

The way I see it, it’s a way of having that traditional dynamic (pretty soft bottom and strong handsome top) without victimizing a woman. I do the same with yuri ships - I absolutely love love love a stone top with a pillow princess. And also - and I say this with no sense of shame - femboys are cute. Women are the superior form. Soz. So it’s awesome to see a man invoking his feminine side. It’s not like it makes him any less of a man. No matter how many times my mom peers at my drawings of Cloud Strife and says, “She’s pretty.” It doesn’t change the fact that he is him.

Gender is a fickle thing. It comes and it goes. I used to have a very conservative view of gender, and even sexuality. I was a “gold star lesbian”, and wanted nothing to do with men (still do, irl). You know what changed me? You’re gonna laugh. My Hero Academia. Oh, did I say you were gonna laugh? I meant cringe.

It’s not what you think. Bakudeku actually traumatized me - not the ship itself but one story I read on AO3 that I now understand for the masterpiece of terror and grossness it is. I would drop it but I don’t want to draw any undue attention to it.

What changed my mind on gender was actually Tomura. It didn’t even happen on purpose, l didn’t see him and go, “Oh he’s pretty, let’s dump a little more estrogen into him”. I shipped him with Dabi, paired them off as two dudes gettin it on, and I was loyal to my m/m ships. I ignored the ones tagged “Trans Tomura Shigaraki” because my brain refused to compute it. But then… I ran out of male fics. Well ran dry. I was getting anxious. I needed my shigadabi fix and how to get it?

Well. Can’t be that bad for Tomura to have a pussy.

… huh. He’s cute.

Oh no.

And that’s how it happened.

Just like that, my worldview shifted. Proud to say I’m a lot more open to gender and sexuality, now. It’s sometimes hard to admit that I used to have such rigid views. It’s a bit embarrassing - but I was also 13. My Hero just gave me the push I needed to grow up.

I’ll wrap it up now.

If you’re a lesbian or if you’re aroace and you like reading yaoi - don’t feel bad. Don’t even question it. Fiction is fiction, we’re here for such a short time you might as well enjoy the things you consume, whatever that may be. It doesn’t make you any less of who you are. It might mean that you’re just a feminist. Or it might mean you have some issues with your gender you need to hash out. Or maybe it means you just like hot guys. Who cares?

Some people argue why lesbians and aroace people like yaoi so much. There are many different answers. I’m not really concerned with them, anymore, now that I’ve found my own. What does concern me is the amount of people who I assume are outside of fandom circles… never having heard of women (lesbian or not) enjoying yaoi or BL. Several reddit comments asked, “There are lesbians who like that stuff? I’ve never seen one.”

Lemme tell you, these people are missing something awesome in life. Yaoi written by women is like fucking crack.

typical russian fujoshi

You say it like it's supposed to be something bad. I don't care btw.

My depression is cured, I recommend this anime so bad 💜💜

The manhwa is great too~

Title: hora, mimi ga mieteru yo!

Eng title: Look, your ears are showing!

First Post!

Hello! Call me Sam! I am a 33-year-old fangirl who has been shipping characters for YEARS!!!! I am able to indulge in this lifestyle because...I am disabled...emotionally...yeah...

ANYWAY! Along with the shipping, I was writing Fanfics since I was in High School, but I had to stop because I lost Microsoft Word and my FanFiction.net accounts. Both of them...

Anyway, in 2018 I graduated from Full Sail University with a BFA in Creative Writing for Entertainment, and started going OVERBOARD on reading Fanfics, entering new fandoms, and rekindling the desire to write Fanfics!

NOTE: I cannot draw anything other than Stick Figures, so I will say it here so as not to have to keep saying this in my posts:

I DO NOT OWN ANY OF THE FAN ART I POST!!!!!

I try to make it a habit to post a link to the site that I get the art from and who drew it originally. If I can't get the artist's identity, I ask, that if you know this information, please tell me in a Comment, Reblog, or Ask Me Anything message. This way, I can post the credit, or if asked to, remove the post. Thank you in advance!

My Fandoms/Ships are:

BNHA/MHA: TodoDeku, BakuDeku, DabiDeku (Don't look at me like that, I know it's out there...), TodoDekuBaku (my first Threesome Ship!)

Naruto: NejiNaru, ShikaNaru, SasuNaru, ItaNaru, MadaNaru

Boruto: BoruSara

Gundam SEED: KiraLacus

MDZS: WangXian, XiYao, ZhuiLing

TGCF: HuaLian, FengQing

Gundam Wing: HeeroRelena

Card Captor Sakura: SyaoranSakura (I MIGHT have misspelled that sorry)

Ouran Hish School Host Club: TamakiHaruhi

Yuri On Ice: Victuuri, Otayuri

One Piece: ZoroLuffy (PURELY from some REALLY good comics on YouTube!), LawLuffy (also from good comics on YouTube!), LuffyNami (I have been watching the anime, and I feel that if Luffy is straight, Nami is the most logical choice. Plus, they are really cute together!)

Free!: RinHaru/HaruRin (from some REALLY good AMVs on YouTube!)

OKAY! Now that THAT is out of the way, I am discovering new fandoms/ships all the time, and if you have some to suggest, please feel free! I AM a Yaoi/BL M/M lover at heart, so any suggestions of that are more than welcome!

I would also LOVE some help with understanding fandom explanations of tropes and phrases, (at least the ones commonly used nowadays!) I have been doing some of that research already, but I am always willing to learn more from others.

Also, since I have a fixed income, I need to know any cheap options on writing software/work arounds to not being able to afford Microsoft Office...thanks in advance!

I will post the links to my FanFiction.net accounts that I lost access to so you can see what I have written in the past in a later post. NOTE: I would like to think I have gotten better!

Again, it is nice to be a part of this community, and I look forward to reading and replying to your comments!

There’s always a lingering question that I ask myself, which is why do I, a cis bisexual woman, enjoy romance between two men so much?  

There are easy answers, like that it’s just fetishizing.  And like, I find men attractive, yes.  But I also find women attractive.  I don’t have a problem with enjoying het romance, assuming I can find good ones.  I enjoy stories with female characters I can relate to.

But there’s something much deeper at play, IMO.  A friend of mine who is a gender studies professor was the first person to point this out to me, but a lot of women enjoy m/m romance and gay porn because of the lack of women.  It removes a source of pressure and sexism.  Without any women present, you don’t have to constantly evaluate the sexism of their portrayal, or be reminded of negative experiences in your own life.  It allows women to experience romance and especially sexuality without all the baggage that comes with it in our patriarchal society.

This was recently illustrated to me rather dramatically.  I read a recommendation for a het romance.  And it sounded cute, and came highly recommended.  The tropes at play were fun.  Until I read a snippet and realized this was a romance between a woman and her boss.  I had a visceral negative reaction.  

Instantly I’m thinking of sexual harassment stories I’ve read and heard from other women. I’m thinking of how uncomfortable it would be to have your boss develop feelings for you.  How icky the power dynamics would be, etc.  

And then I realized…this wouldn’t bother me if it were two men.  Now, there’s no logical reason for that.  Sexual harassment is just as wrong when its object is a man.  But I know I’ve read fics with a similar premise and never thought about it.  Because when it’s two men I can accept this is just a light romance, a fantasy, meant to be fun and sexy and not to represent the real world.

But I can’t when it’s a het relationship.  There’s too much baggage there.  Too much societal history of abuse.  I can’t relax enough with the premise to enjoy that story.  

Now some people can.  And that’s fine.  And some people are never going to be okay with power imbalances like that regardless of gender.  That’s also fine.  I don’t think having either reaction makes one morally superior.  It’s okay to just enjoy light entertainment for what it is without going into deep analysis.

But it’s much more difficult for me, and I think for many women, to relax and enjoy romantic and sexual stories when they involve female characters.  We’ve been burned too many times by shitty depictions, by shallow role models, by abuse portrayed as romantic.  We have developed a stress response, a trauma response to heterosexual romance.  We are hyper-reactive to a wide variety of triggers in regards to it.   But removing women from the equation makes stories safer for us.  And maybe it shouldn’t?  In an ideal world?  But for many of us, that’s the truth.

Happy 🇹 🇦 🇼 🇦 🇳  day 💙

It's a bit of an inside joke, but if anyone watches my Trails of Cold Steel playthrough on YouTube, you'll know how I react to these particular characters who are clearly fujoshis.

(I can't remember which game it is so I included both playlists)

So me putting "himejoshi" on my profile makes me laugh

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Legend of Heroes: Trails of Cold Steel [ RaleyDrew Raythrough ]

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Legend of Heroes: Trails of Cold Steel II [ RaleyDrew Raythrough ]