Horny And Didnt Know What That Was - Tumblr Posts

I hate how teen sexuality is handled, as if saying "teens shouldn't be sexual" will turn off hormones and instincts and sensory + dopamine cravings and everything else that contributes to making people horny

And it leads to danger for these kids. I was one of these kids. My puberty was wild and I was obsessed with sex by the time I was twelve while knowing I shouldn't be, that it was morally bad for me and that I was a bad and gross person for it, especially because I was a little girl and little girls don't get horny. Girls are the objects, we cannot lust. We cannot want or crave.

And this leads to letting people use us and do what they want without knowing what we actually want because we're not ALLOWED to want. And then if things go bad, well, it was our fault for wanting sex at all! And then we end up in our 30s, still stupidly horny because that's just who we are sometimes, with a lot of trauma to unpack surrounding sexuality, learning to communicate about it because talking about sex was bad to do, and maybe HPV and a precancerous cervix from all the secret dangerous experimentation we did as teens. :)

And if we talk about this even from the perspective of "this is about my experience as a teenager who has grown up" you get people accusing you of all sorts of creep behavior. I don't want to be involved with anyone who isn't in their mid 20s thru 70s personally. I just don't think kids should grow up believing that sex is the worst thing they can be interested in so that they have to hide the bad sex they're having with people twice their age and not talk about it ever to anyone. It's fucked up to me. Kids deserve proper sex education that isn't steeped in puritanical values and heteronormativity.

Im alloallo and when i was a teen i began to experience attraction as intrusive thoughts about sex before i even fully understood what sex was, as well as an incessant urge to touch the person, and i would always stare at men's bulges through their pants. And when i was in the same classroom as my crush my vulva would throb really hard and it made me so uncomfy i would close my legs tightly to try and prevent it. Eventually i let go of my shame and learned to accept these things as normal.

I encourage everyone to do the same! Whether you experience a lot of attraction or none at all, don't let society invalidate your experiences. Live the life that is right for you.

Being both aroace and also a hormonal teenager means that when i find people very pretty and , dare I say hot, it stops there. I only want to look at and admire them, nothing else. Like, I've never saw a person I found attractive and whent "wowsers, I would like to start a relationship with them or even do something not safe for Tumblr", no I just think "wowsers their hot" and nothing else.

Also being transmasc and non binary makes me wonder if the things I'm feeling are admiration or gender envy so that's fun