I Just Can't Believe I Let Them Tie Me Up And Then Only Later Did I Find Out Their Weird Views About The Harness/about Consent In General. - Tumblr Posts

thinkin about the last person i had sex with who like. so clearly had such an odd view of kink right as i was starting to think about it more in general. they found out i had a bulldog harness that i wear for fashion/haven't worn during sex yet and they wanted me to wear it out to a concert so they could use it to pull me around (i said no, not in front of people/my best friend) but then also, when i told them about some non consensual kissing from a while back. they said that i must have been asking for it because i was wearing the harness (underneath a button up shirt). i don't get how they thought i'd feel safe and happy wearing the harness for them/around them after that. i asked them to repeat what they said about me asking for it, hoping i'd misheard but i hadn't. and they doubled down instead. odd.