Kindness Of Strangers - Tumblr Posts

This truly isn’t an ask, I tried to message you and it wouldn’t let me for some reason. I’ve been scrolling through your tumblr and skim reading your posts. And some of them, and the qualities your abuser possessed, and the crap he would say to you in your texts you have posted remind me of my husband! My husband is abusive and he gets to deny it while I relive it. He’s not anywhere near as bad physically or with requirements. However, I am glad you are no longer in a bad situation. Bless you!

Continued: And this is the same person on anon as the other message, I just want to say I know that you’re healing, and I am so glad that you’re sharing. Your story can save lives. I’m stuck, and I cried reading your posts. It’s like seeing my life from the last 2 years in a way, and when I start feeling better after I leave? He starts to love me. It’s horrible being a pawn in a war waged unjustly in your own self and then have it be played out as Love. I see love so askew now, and I still love him.

Dear Survivor,I am so sorry you’re feeling stuck and that you relate to any of this. Our hearts have lived on scraps for too long and no one can feel whole like that. Nor can you come out the other end without scars.

I can tell you are kind and brave; reaching out takes courage. You can message me any time. I hope you feel a little stronger every day.

-EDG

I hope you can find a way to continue your healing - you deserve nothing less, and everything more. I hope you remember your bravery 🌿

You sent  this at just the right time.  Thanks for the support; I needed it  :)

I've been following you for a while and I just wanted to say that I love seeing you get better and better!!! Recovery is so hard but the thought that you will be okay makes me so happy

You are so sweet for reaching out to me. I wonder sometimes why anyone would want to read this thing, but if you find a bit of validation or hope in my clumsy attempt at recovery I am glad for it.

Healing is very hard, but it's the best decision I've ever made. There are still so many miserable days, but I feel like I'm in control of my brain again. And that's a start.

I hope that you remember how strong you are as you push through whatever struggles you are going through. Know that you aren't alone, and that you deserve kindness and peace. Reach out again if you need to.

I just want to thank you for sharing your experience and recovery. I've been with my husband for 20 years. The marriage is sexless because of his refusal to take care of himself for years and years as well as he is emotionally and verbally abusive. He never hits me but sometimes will pretend that he is going to or throw things at me and humiliate me. I'm in therapy and trying to be strong and leave but I don't know how yet. You are an inspiration to me. Thank you. ❤️

You sent this to me ages ago and I didn't have it in me to respond at the time. I'm sorry for that. I am also sorry for your current circumstances. Abuse is abuse and you don't need to try to fit your experience on some sort of spectrum of terribleness. It's all terrible. You deserve so much better and only he can be to blame for his treatment of you.

Leaving is complicated and difficult. You're incredibly brave and unbelievably strong for considering it and contemplating the steps to make it happen. But if you're not ready yet, it's ok. Leave when it's right for you.

In the meantime, know that you are worthy, exactly as you are right now. You are important and not those awful things he and your brain try to tell you.

Thank you for messaging me. It was so good of you to reach out.

-EDG

I’d honestly forgotten about this blog until you liked some of my posts today. I went through it for a while and remembered how it made me feel a year ago—the feeling of solidarity and even some peace. For whatever it’s worth, one stranger to another, I appreciate the hell out of you. Thank you for reminding me that healing and love are possible after trauma. I’m in a much better place than I was a year ago, in a loving relationship with my own partner, but some days (like today) are still pretty tough. So again, thank you.

I try to go through the blogs of any likes I get in a vain attempt to stem the bot tide (oh my, is that ever an uphill battle I am losing). I don't know if you'd liked one of my posts or if I fell through a rabbit hole, but that's the process that led me to discover you. I stayed for a while because your content gave me the same feelings: solidarity, peace, and a reminder that healing is a continued mission that is challenging but worth it.

So I also appreciate the hell out of you, and I appreciate the the time you took to send a kind message. I'm so glad you're in a better place these days, and you have someone who treats you with the kindness and respect that you deserve.

I'm sorry your day wasn't a good one; We all know the "recovery is not linear" thing, but that doesn't make the bad days feel any less discouraging. I hope today feels at least a little different and you have some good things to surround yourself with. Take care of yourself, and feel free to reach out again if you ever get the inkling.

-EDG

I'm no illustrator, but chapter 7 of Worth the Wait made me want to take some time to putter around on paint.net. Luckily for me (and for you), I have lots of time right now. So here is a little picture of Tim and the girls, taken at the beach, based on an emoji. I had a lot of fun!

Wow! I love this! Thank you! That’s very kind of you to spend your time putting something like this together for me. 🫶🏻💕😊😍🥰

Here’s the link to the story she illustrated, if you’re interested.

BREAKING NEWS:

Normally I drive just fine but every once and a while I do something stupid, like going too fast during a rainstorm.  This was such a time.  I hit a wet patch and ended up in the grass due to a lovely combination of water, stones, and stupidity (going too fast).  I crashed into a brick column.

I am not someone who has much faith in humanity.

After all, the people directly behind me and in front of me didn’t bat an eye when I acted like a moron and said “hello” to the sign.

Well, my faith was restored today thanks to these fine people:

First a woman stopped.

Then two men (complete strangers) in separate trucks.

Then a couple stopped.  They both got out of their SUV to check on me.

Then a man stopped.

Then another man.

Then another woman.

Then a couple of guys in a big truck.  I missed the name of the company on the side.

Then an older gentleman.

That’s a total of 11 people in about an hour’s time.

Fortunately I was not injured…just slightly embarrassed and not going into work.

Now, this blog is brand new and not even Cheezbot is following me.  I just wanted to share this and acknowledge the kindness of others.  Thank you to those eleven strangers who came to check on me!  I greatly appreciated your concern! <3