Lessons Learned - Tumblr Posts
after so many years of keeping my thoughts to myself, i have finally learned that
you can just talk to people, actually
nothing gets done without communication
fuck this perfectionist fear of failure anxiety shit. if i've learned anything in the last few years it's that i'd rather do things messy than not at all
Things I've learned about Tumblr since joining a few moths ago:
1. Add a profile pic and some sign of life to your bio. Otherwise ppl will think you are a bot and block you. (Apparently Tumblr has a bit of a bot infestation.)
2. Follow accounts and tags. The Tumblr feed doesn't function the same way tiktok does. If you don't follow a lot of things, your feed won't have any new content.
3. The folks here have class. Don't be an ass or post rude shit. The people of Tumblr don't deal with that BS and will PROMPTLY see you out.
I know I'm really really late on this but I been going through some things but anyway Happy Black History Month, even though black history is and should be talked about everyday, all year around. And should be talked about in schools more then one month and go deeper into the history then the normal constant activist they teach about.
i didnt have a lot to say about this episode (although i will say all the discussion of anthrax distracted me because i remembered what was coming lmao) but i do like that the episode ends with gideon accepting emily into the team by inviting her to play chess with him
Highlights and Challenges of Living Abroad
Traveling the world can have both its wonderful and horrible moments. One of the main reasons to travel especially for those adventure-types like me is to learn about cultures, people, history, languages and customs. Aside from assimilation, being a foreigner is figuring out to fit in often uncomfortable situations that can potentially lead to a well-rounded perspective of that country or how you view life in general. It’s a lot of work but worth it if you can get past your fears and frustrations.
My most recent adventure was to Buenos Aires, Argentina. I had visited this bustling South American city almost seven years ago and although it was familiar, a lot had change despite the obvious (i.e. technology). However, this time I was staying for a extended period of time, between 2-3 months, volunteering with an NGO on their communications team maintaining their blog among other things. Luckily, much of my work was flexible in that I could present ideas to the team and given the green light to write about anything. But through this freedom came with some challenges. So below is a list of “Things I Won’t/Will Miss about Buenos Aires”:
Won’t: The ‘sh’ in replace of ‘ll’ pronunciation in Spanish - what can I say, it was pet peeve!
Will: All you can eat gelato everywhere, even by delivery!
Won’t: Tiled sidewalks - if you stepped on a loose tile, oftentimes you would end up getting a splash of dirty water up your legs.
Will: Nightlife - I mean endless partying seven days a week into the early hours of the AM (i.e. 7AM), that’s what I’m talking about!
Won’t: Little to no vegetables with your meal - when you go out, plan to get your fill of meat, carbs and booze but nothing healthy.
Will: The relaxed and laid back vibe - the people seem to be happier and more content with doing less which was easy to shadow without feeling guilty.
Won’t: Blue vs. Black market - if you are a tourist you are going to get screwed either way but if it matters that much to you remember to bring cash (i.e. USD).
Will: Malbec wine - nuff said!
Won’t: Short men - I’m a 5′ 7″ female and barely met anyone who were my height or taller, not a big deal but girls, you’ve been warned!
Will: Friendly, not creepy taxi drivers
Won’t: Super sweet and running consistency of yogurt - I might as well drink it and that’s not my version of yogurt (i.e. I prefer Greek style, thick).
Will: Tango - both the dance and music!
Won’t: Not enough parks - some parks had exercise equipment and places to sit but not much room to run around or play a game of futbol without safety issues.
Will: Kiosks - they have everything and are plenty of them all over the city open late!
Won’t: Need to know where you’re going when you get on a bus - they calculate your fare by this information but for a tourist who doesn’t speak the language makes it all that more challenging.
Will: Recoleta and San Telmo - out of all the barrios (neighborhoods) in BsAs, I will missed these two the most!
What are the most important lessons you’ve learned throughout your whole sw/level up/high value woman journey so far?
Tough, since I’ve learned so much! These are all off the top of my head.
Embracing my divine feminine. Really leaning into the part of me that calls for me to be gentle, to be soft spoken, to listen rather than speak, think rather than act. To understand that getting into physical or verbal altercations, excessively clapping back at people, acting above people with no grace or humility will not get you very far. This is regardless of your gender.
Sometimes it’s better to wait and react to something rather than acting too quickly, especially without a plan or all the facts.
Everything is not 100% this or that. It’s important to keep my actions, mindsets, and beliefs at least a little flexible. The biggest example is when I first went from a “things happen to me” mindset to a “I make things happen” mindset. I started taking responsibility for things that were not my fault, and had to mature into the realization that I can be responsible for my life and things can happen to me that are out of my control. It brings peace and a heightened level of understanding how to navigate life.
What’s meant for me will be for me, and most things I desire are desired because they’re meant for me.
People who I have to hold on too hard to are meant to be let go of.
Forgiveness is paramount for inner peace, firstly for yourself, then for for everyone else.
There is no price to be put on your anonymity in today’s digital age. Even if you’re not a celebrity, learning to move in silence and limit your online presence is something precious and irretrievable. I understood that when it was almost too late.
People come into your life to help you, so let them.
The only human being you should idolize is yourself. Everyone else will eventually let you down. Promises mean nothing, words mean even less, so rely only on actions.
It’s possible to get to a point where it’s impossible to hate or disappoint yourself. You just need to teach yourself grace, and then teach yourself to apply it to you.
Money is a tool, and not something to be entranced by, worshipped, controlled by, or hoarded. Once you have enough to live your life the way you need/want and secure the current and next generation, donate the rest to people who don’t.
Philanthropy is a MUST, and it must come from the heart.
Nothing you do can succeed without the support of others, either directly or indirectly.
A lot of men can be terrible people, so make sure to only spend time with those who prove they’re worthy of it.
A lot of women can be terrible people, so make sure to only spend time with those who prove they’re worthy of it.
Everyone will use you for something. That’s not a dealbreaker, because chances are, you’re using them for something too. Make sure the relationship is mutually beneficial. This applies to both romantic and non-romantic relationships.
Everything has a shelf life. Understand it, and work it into your goals.
Putting yourself first actually increases the survivability of your relationships.
A woman’s beauty, both inner and outer, are among her greatest assets. Spending time on my appearance has gotten me into doors I could never have dreamed of. Spending time on myself has kept me in.
Teach yourself what it means for you to be happy.
Working until you drop is meaningless and very seldom increases profits. Rest as often as possible.
Education is important! Learn as much as you can about as much as you can, even if you have to teach yourself. Learning how to communicate well, both verbally and in writing, is one of the most important skills to master. In other words, re-up on your vocab and get that spelling and punctuation correct!
Focus on your faith. Whatever that may be, chances are it will lead you to being more grounded, humble, grateful, and kind.
Give people the benefit of the doubt. If they betray that, then just cut them off. No need to go out of your way to ensure they understand how they hurt or betrayed you. They know, and likely don’t care. They will get everything they deserve, as will you.
People are the most complex and hard to understand creatures on this planet. Spending time devoted to understanding how they tick will pay off. Spending time devoted to understanding how you tick may save your life.
I know this isn’t the most typical advice for sw and those other things but is what I’ve taken away from my journey. Hopefully at least one of these can help someone else!
Have You Ever...?
To all the fanfiction writers out there, have you ever had a story idea so good, so well put together, only for your fans to try and dictate how "your" story should go and how you should update it? I have had that happen to me, and it worried me so much that I rushed to fit these desires and destroyed the story...it still bothers me to this day...
The lesson here is to write for yourself first. If people love it, then awesome! But if they try to write the story for you, then it won't be your story anymore. I understand that they are trying to show their love for your story, but it can murder a story if you're not careful.