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You do not owe anybody your body, regardless of:

What your partner says

What you wanted to do earlier

What anybody has told you

What society or any expectations have led you to believe

You can back out, even if you're in the middle of something. You can change your mind. You can say no any time. You can set any boundaries you want, and you do not owe it to your partner to justify or explain these boundaries.

Saying "no" can feel scary to some people, especially to 'people pleasers' and especially in sexual situations. I know this. I know it can be scary and it can be difficult, but "no" is such an important and powerful tool to set boundaries and maintain your comfort level.

The discomfort and trauma that can result from having a boundary crossed is absolutely not worth doing something you do not want to do, especially on behalf of your partner. If they think it's worth it then they are not a good partner.

Any good sexual partner who cares about you would not want you to stay silent and do something you don't want to do, especially not on their behalf. If you don't like what's happening, don't be afraid to say something.

If they throw a fit and take it personally, then they have some growing to do. You have every right to say no at any point.

just out of curiosity:

just to recap: a goldilocks/romeo and juliet law is when two (usually teens) are both:

above the age of consent (my state is 16)

are within 3-4 years of age (depending on the specifics of the law)

they may have consensual sex that, in the eyes of the law, is treated the same as two people over 18. so for example, a 19 y/o and a 17 y/o having consensual sex would be legal under this type of law

they are often put in place with the idea that it will help people transition from high school to real life easier, especially relationship-wise.

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