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Okay so clearly you didn't understand what I was getting at, I understand the fluidity of gender and labels, I myself am very fluid in my gender, as I do not have a label put to myself besides trans most of the time ,but this specific type of thinking, as I said, makes transness as a whole it's own gender, Wich alienates trans binary people, same thing as saying oh well it's trans women and women, it makes a difference between the two, Wich is as you know not a very good thing to do, I am just saying that you shouldn't treat a relationship with a man and a woman differently from one in witch one of the parties is trans because that leaves a bad mouth taste that leads to very ugly places Wich envolver genitalia fans and fetishizing (+terfs are not the ones that divide and conquer, those are the conservatives)
what I meant by that this doesn't apply to non-binary people is that MY whole rant didn't apply, because well, there's never been as many open and proud non-binaru people as these days, so anything like labels and stuff like that do not matter, because well, you all are outside of that whole thing, a trans femme could be with a cis gay guy and that would be gay as hell for me, because the trans femme is outside of the binary of gender
Also if labels don't matter and they're so in love that they can accept the fact that they're now with a woman instead of a man, why would they be so set in stone in defining as gay?, I'm just saying, that's a little weird as someone who has had experiences with people who say they respect my gender but they really don't
Labels should be feeble, but not in a way that is hurtful towards the people you supposedly love
gender and sexuality is a fickle thing. sometimes two gay cisgender men will be dating for decades and one of them will turn out to be a transgender woman. a lot of times that won't work out but sometimes it will. her partner may still choose to identify as gay. She might even identify as gay, and they continue to be happily in love. Queer politics isn't going to get any better if you don't accept that situations like that happen every day.