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I want rules 🥺

Tell me what to do, when to do it, where, and how.

Then I’ll choose whether or not I want to listen to them 😈☺️

😈 Of course you’re in control. You only have to let them think that they are 😈

Let’s talk about playing safely

Now, some of us may have heard this a thousand times, and it may seem like common sense. However, there are subs that are not aware or they are new to the scene.

It does not hurt to have a little refresher either.

As subs, we often want to please our Doms any way possible. We may not tell our doms our limits in fear of not pleasing them. Especially new subs, they are often vulnerable and don’t have their voices completely.

These acronyms are ones you should always keep in mind:

SSC:

Safe, Sane, Consensual

This acronym helps distinguish between a true dominant and submissive relationship and an abusive relationship.

Safe:

Know and set your limits

Protect you emotional and physical safety by discussing negotiations and setting up a safe word

Make sure your partner knows all of your wants and needs and anything else that would be pertinent to the scene

Figure out how your partner is going to take care of you after playtime

Learn how to take care of yourself after playtime

Sane:

Know the difference between fantasy’s and reality

Set obtainable expectations for both partner ex. A submissive learning a book worth’s of rules in a few days is harder than you think. Set a more realistic number.

This also includes punishments. Kneeling for hours on end is cruel and unusual. Especially without a break.

Listen to the red flags. If your gut is saying that something is wrong or bad, maybe you should listen to it.

Consensual:

BDSM is not about FORCING anyone to do anything if they are unwilling.

This covers all activities that might make someone uncomfortable.

All terms of the relationship should be agreed upon before hand

This includes Consensual Non Concent. If the terms were never agreed upon that is unsafe and abusive.

Enforce your rights meaning no one can force rules onto you

If any of these terms have been violated, you may need to leave the relationship for your safety.

There is another acronym that helps explain BDSM in simple terms.

RACK:

Risk Aware Consensual Kink

This acronym appeals to the side of BDSM that may have safety concerns.

Rick Aware

There are physical, emotional, and psychological risks that come with BDSM

While some kinks may not be the safest we still should now the risks.

Burns, cuts, and bruises can come out of a scene. There can also be mental anguish and stress that scene caused.

Both partners need to be aware of these risks

Consensual Kink

As long as all terms and conditions have been met, limits have been set, and we have voiced all of our concerns, both partners should be able to agree to the activities they are about to perform.

Without consent, it is illegal. Play with consent.

Please stay safe out there my loves 💕

How does one ask for attention without seeming clingy 🤔

Because I really just want copious amounts of attention without being clingy 🥺👉👈