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It really never passed the sniff test for me because it's literally one letter off from "TIM". It feels genuinely like trojan horsed terf language, in the sense of getting trans discourse using their language and categories. I wouldn't be surprised there were a few radfem servers or group chats out there laughing about it right now.

I honestly feel like sometimes that TME is used as an excuse to degender people. Like, we're seeing an uptick in folks who exclusively refer to transmascs as TMEs. It feels incredibly strange to be referred to exclusively as something that I (supposedly) am not, something that I don't experience. While never once acknowledging who and what I actually am.

Other forms of language that dileneate one's position relative to systemic oppression don't do this. White, cis, straight, etc, all of these words acknowledge both identity and one's position in social systems.

It becomes very apparent particularly when TME is used as a noun. Sometimes, we're not even TME people, we're just TMEs.

If your instinct is to jump to using terminology that degenders us and skips the need to acknowledge our actual identities, maybe you should question that.

I never feel more alienated from the trans community in general and other transfems in particular than when I see people going after "TMEs" and "transandrophobia truthers" and so on, ostensibly in the name of defending people like me. Or derailing their own perfectly decent points about transmisogyny by including some irrelevant, gratuitous dig at transmascs (or intersex people or "theyFABs" or whoever the target of the day is).

What the fuck are you doing? Do you get some kind of rush from deflecting TERFisms onto targets you've decided are more deserving or privileged than yourselves? What are you trying to achieve? If you want to do some weird 70s separatism tribute act then please just go your own way already and leave everyone else alone.

As a transfem who is not a woman and doesn't pass as one I don't trust "TMA/TME" proponents to have my back in any case. And I'm much more wary of engaging with trans spaces than I used to be because of this bullshit.

I'm so sorry to everyone who has been fucked over by this tendency. I hope we can get over it. Can we please collectively at least try to get a grip and maybe rethink how we're doing things a little bit? Because unless the goal really is self-cannibalization it's not working is it?

It seems like some terfs are seeing a post of mine, which I guess is inevitable if you tag something with feminism.

So I had a really intense cussing at terfs phase, and I try not to do that as much now, but terfs trying to interact with me probably aren't going to get serotonin.

I don't consider myself to have a developed opinion on too many things but I do understand conspiracies and radicalization pretty well, and terfs are ensnared by and propagating a hateful cluster of conspiracy theories.

In these spaces and in this like moment it's difficult to separate conspiracy believer from conspiracy monger, and I have a lot of sympathy for people drawn into these patterns of behavior and thought. I'm not stupid though, people who say they're my enemies don't get the benefit of the doubt when it comes to their actions.

To the extent I think I have any responsibility posting shit here, I should post more about conspiracy deradicalization and resources to avoid getting started with them in the first place.

Terf thought is a conspiracy theory on the level of the red scare and the satanic panic, approaching the organization of the 1920s kkk or the John Birch Society. Terfs are both an organized threat to society and lone radicals acting independently, the essence of stochastic terror.

Whatever terfs are reading my bizzare, low numbers shitposts, I believe you can be helped but I'm not your friend.

Deleted because you are boring

Come back when fun

Conspiracy believers are generally miserable.

will never get tired of posts pointing out how miserable terf blogs are because its so true. every single one i ever click on to block is literally like "gender ideology is so toxic and enforces such horrible body standards on true women" immediately followed by "i wish i was as skinny as i was when i was 16. im going to kill myself"

if you genuinely believe that trans men and cis men are enemies and need to be pitted against each other: you drank the terf juice.

if you believe that pre transition or never transition transfems "look too threatening" or "too cishet" or "unsafe for other queers to be around": you drank the terf juice.

if you misgender butch trans women and multigender transfem lesbians and remove them from lesbian spaces: you drank the terf juice.

if you police transfems and call them "loud," "aggressive," "mean," or "rude," just because they have deep voices or high testosterone bodies: you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe that all men and mascs need to be barred from entry into non binary, lesbian, and other queer spaces: you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe all cishet men are inherently queerphobic, evil, and dangerous to be around: you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe trans and cis men are inherently violent and dangerous because they're men: you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe that cis-passing trans men aren't queer and/or don't belong in queer spaces because they look and sound "too cis" or 'threatening': you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe that anyone who is AMAB and/or has a penis is inherently violent: you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe it's okay to profile strangers to assume they're cis or het (or ANYTHING): you drank the terf juice.

literally ALL of these things are terf ideologies and actions. in order to accept ourselves and be accepted, we must accept that just like how our identities are not inherently violent- neither are cis and het folks'.

blaming cis mens' gender instead of their actions and behaviors for their dangerous and queerphobic actions removes the responsibility from the individual man. that was one man who did something wrong.

hold that individual person accountable for their actions and leave their gender and/or birth sex out of it- they're irrelevant to the situation.

making trans women, intersex trans women, transfems, nonbinary people, genderqueer people, etc. uncomfortable by policing how they look and sound is not the way to go. policing transfems and preventing them from queer spaces is not the way to go. policing trans men and mascs and preventing them from entering spaces they belong in is not the way to go.

excluding queer men and mascs from the communities they rightfully belong in isn't helping anyone. cis gay men need community. cis asexual men need community. cis aromantic men need community. cis polyamorous men need community. genderqueer, non binary, and gnc cis men need community. cis bisexual/mspec men need community. trans women who are also men need community. trans men need community. intersex men need community. the list goes on.

community means working together, not fragmenting ourselves off into the tiniest micro pockets imaginable for the sake of "Safety". running afraid from every. single. man and masc you encounter will not keep you safe- femmes and women are capable of abuse. we cannot fall into this "woman good man bad" trap. being afraid of a group of people wholesale doesn't help you heal from whatever trauma you have. it's going to keep you scared for the rest of your life. it's best to move on and stop judging strangers for features they can't help or didn't ask for.

Okay so posting about terf shit was like poking a sleeping bear, my mistake, I will go back to quietly and somewhat happily living my life *bows out*