Eliserzilber - Elise (Taylor’s Version)

FAST

Use this skill to help maintain your self-respect when communicating with others.

F - Be Fair: Avoid judgments and stick to the facts.

A - Don’t Apologize: Assert yourself and ask for what you want. Don’t apologize for making requests, having opinions or disagreeing.

S - Stick to Your Values: Make sure to confidently stick to your truth.

T - Be Truthful: Don’t exaggerate. Don’t lie or act helpless when you aren’t. Dishonesty over time erodes your self-respect.

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It sucks that you have to keep yourself busy to feel okay.

FLAME

Use this guide to remember how to carry out a task mindfully.

F - Focus and shift your attention to be mindful of the present moment.

L - Let go of distracting thoughts and judgments.

A - Use Radical Acceptance to remain nonjudgmental.

M - Use Wise Mind to make healthy decisions.

E - Do what is Effective to accomplish your goals.

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I was healthy, working out, yoga daily, skincare routine, balanced diet, all for 3 months but I still wasn’t happy so now I’m depressed again and not sticking to any of those things that I know are good for me. It’s so hard living like everything is a phase and nothing fills the void.

I dunno if any of these pieces are actually me or if they’re just the personalities of the people around me or in a tv show or movie.

Not knowing who you truly are is one of the quiet killers of bpd. I always feel so broken and empty.

The soundtrack of my life lately as I’m processing my break-up, battling my latest self-image issues and searching for reasons to live:

Hits Different by Taylor Swift

I Almost Do by Taylor Swift

What Was I Made For? by Billie Eilish

Death By A Thousand Cuts by Taylor Swift

Moon by Reneé Rapp