Exams.

exams.

alright so i’ve just finished up my finals and i’ve ended the week feeling like a total piece of shit and a freaking wreck because i didn’t have anybody to give me a slap in the face and tell me to get my act together since everybody i know does the exact same thing as me- procrastinate until the day before the exam and then try not to burst into tears when you can’t decide if you should bubble in answer A or answer C as the answer to “how does ray bradbury utilize paradox in ‘a sound of thunder’”

of course all you peeps on tumblr are incredibly important and with this post, i’d like to provide a bit of knowledge on the importance of studying, prioritizing, and self-care when it comes to your exams. 

obviously trying to juggle your looming tests and homework while also trying to balance a social life is difficult. it’s tiring. it’s stressful. more often than not, you want to give up and just watch the office on netflix. we have to make the best of our time.

first thing you should do?

make a time chart ! ! !

timing will save you when it comes to finals. sometimes having so much time after school can be a problem. you don’t know what to do with it, how to prioritize, and how much time you should be spending on a certain task. the overwhelming realization that i can literally do WHATEVER i want with my time usually leads to me choosing to just spend 6 hours on microsoft paint and then realizing it’s 10 pm and i haven’t studied for my AP Euro exam. if you work out a timetable for your after school hours, you’ll be able to allocate a certain amount of time for all of your activities (work, homework, REST, studying, eating !!!, and fun timez). allow yourself to schedule breaks in between all of your activities so that you don’t drop dead after spending three hours reading shakespeare sonnets or trying to memorize the timeline of the french revolution. in these breaks, you can make yourself a snack, binge on rookiemag.com, have a dance party to twenty one pilots (we are blessed to be born in a time period with twenty one pilots). if you feel like any of these things will turn a 10 minute break into a 6 hour one, check out the app nag which alerts you when you’re spending too much time on dan howell’s youtube channel. by creating a timetable, you’ll alleviate a huge portion of stress from your life and feel more organized with how you go about things!

do not allow yourself to get side tracked ! ! !

honestly, think about it. people can live up to what- 60 years? 70 years? you have all the time in the world to go on netflix and watch orange is the new black or scroll down your tumblr dashboard. you don’t, however, have 60 and 70 years to study for exams. you actually only have the few weeks before the actual test. Self Control- also known as Cold Turkey for microsoft users is for anyone that can’t be trusted with an internet connection. you add a list of your guilty pleasure websites to the blacklist and then set how long you want this app to work for you and for that duration of time, you literally will not be able to access any of these websites. you can reboot your computer, uninstall the app, and you still cannot access your blacklist until the time is up. focusbar, an app similar to nag, is basically the annoying mom “have you done your homework?” voice in tech form. this will keep you focused on school; not finding the rarest pepe meme.

sleep ! ! !

sleep is a very big deal. it’s when your body gets to recharge, cool down, and dream about harry styles caressing you in a cafe somewhere beautiful like france. while studying is important, letting your body rest should be a priority too. you cannot prepare for an exam at the height of your potential if you body is not at it’s full potential. on the timetable you create, make a set time for when you will pack up your textbooks, no matter what point you are at, and let yourself prepare for bed. i find that long showers and reading with the lights dimmed really help me get drowsy so that i’m not lying in the sheets awake for five hours. 

figure out your preferences ! ! !

not everybody studies the same way. one individual might find themselves getting history a lot better in a dark room with bon iver playing in the background while the other finds themselves really understanding the battle of trafalgar on their porch while jamming 2 ariana grande. figure out if you prefer a dull roar in the background or absolute silence. dim lights or bright lights. study groups or isolation. if you like noise, check out websites like https://coffitivity.com/ to create some background sounds or make a playlist on 8tracks! just remember that how you study might not be how others study and it’s important to personalize your routine so that you’re working at your highest potential.

and most importantly; SELF CARE ! ! !

this is the most important thing in the world. in the end, no A+ or 4.0 GPA is worth your happiness. if you find yourself bursting into tears in the middle of studying or feeling like the world is going to end, you need to stop. that good grade is going to mean nothing if you aren’t happy enough to enjoy it. you might think that an A will make you feel better, that it’ll make all the pain feel worth it, but pressuring yourself that much will make you just feel empty once you get the grade you want because you’ve been drained of any sort of emotion besides stress. do! not! let! yourself! become! a! bomb! take care of yourself. bathe with some radical lush products, light some candles, facetime the most annoying person in the world besides yourself (aka ur bestie)- do anything to get your mind off of school if you’re close to a breaking point. i personally like to play on webkinz while eating pizza (i am an adult i promise). 

i hope this helped you amigas chicas. keep these tips in mind and finals will crushed by your awesome studying powers; you will GET that A and feel good while getting it.

(inspiration pulled from peachymagazine.tumblr.com !)

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the art of educating versus dragging

HELLO GOOD PEOPLE OF TUMBLR.

today we are going to talk about the art of educating versus the pointless art (can we even call it that?) of dragging, as the title suggests.

i’m glad to say that the generation of millennials are growing up each day more socially aware, accepting, and liberal than their predecessors. adults can mock us for ‘selfie culture’ all they’d like- it doesn’t erase the change we as a group of young minds are starting to demand. we understand things they do not and cannot as they are products of their time. black lives matter! support trans lives! inclusive feminism! and so much more!

yet while a large part of the millennials are educated in social instances, many of them are not. there are multiple ways to fight against ignorance in this day and age, like lobbying or protest, and smaller instances, like standing up for what you believe in when you see an idiot at your school in a meninist shirt or hear casual racism in conversations with people who are you friends. calling someone out is necessary; if no one tells them they’re wrong, how are they going to change? 

but, as the title suggests, there is an art to it. when someone displays problematic behavior, you call them out because you want them to get educated. and if they respond positively, your job is done! but dragging them without telling them what they’ve done? how the hell are they supposed to learn?

granted, there are people who just can’t be saved from ~idiocy~. you have fuckboys who will continue to adorn meninist attire even after you rant about it’s damaging effects, or white kids that will never stop using the ‘n’ work no matter how much you insist that they, for the love of GOD, stop. 

but certain peopled don’t know any better and want to learn. and while this doesn’t excuse their actions, helping them acknowledge how their behavior is harmful and then letting them know how to check themselves leads to a more educated society. here is how you can let someone know their behavior isn’t wrong without, you know, losing your shit (unless the shit deserves to be lost).

first off; name-calling and death threats? these things do nothing to advance a policy of equality and justice. no one is going to want to learn from someone that calls them a ‘slut that needs to kill themselves’ (i have seen this online!). as a feminist, i’m happy to say that i work my hardest to be inclusive towards all groups of women, whether that be WOC like myself or trans woman, gay woman, disabled woman, and anybody that identifies themselves as a woman! was i always like this? definitely not. i used to participate in a feminist culture that was very ‘white feminist’, which is ironic since i’m not even white. i talked about the right to wear shorts to school and how makeup isn’t made to impress men, or how cat-calling was a serious problem. yes- these things are feminist issues. but did i ever speak about the issues black women face in comparison to white women? how white women have advantages over say, an islamic women, when it comes to environments like the workplace. i never talked about trans women. and i participated in HEAVY slut shaming. how did i learn? i was educated. not dragged. educated. if 13 year old feminist me was told to kill myself because of my stupidity, i would not have wanted to get educated. i would have gotten annoyed and told everyone to piss off. that doesn’t mean i was right, or that i had the right to be mad, because being problematic obviously means there will be consequence. it’s just that rants, threats, and just blatant horrible behavior alienate people and do nothing to inspire people to listen or change perspective. the substance of your argument can be lost if you’re covering it up with threats and name calling. this doesn’t mean that you should coddle said problematic person. be strong and firm! they’re wrong and they should know that! but don’t make it a situation where it’s the end for them. it’s not game over. calling out is not striking out and let them know that they have the opportunity to become better.

so how do you call out a friend? let’s be real. while a lot of millennials are becoming more open minded and smarter in terms of social justice, there is still a huge group of them that use slurs and have senses of humor that basically depend on being racist. something i used to do whenever a guy i was friends with displayed problematic behavior was scream at him. “THAT IS SO RACIST/SEXIST/TRANSPHOBIC YOU PIECE OF TRASH HOW THE FUCK AM I FRIENDS WITH YOU TAKE THAT BACK YOU ASSHOLE OH MY GOD” it just pissed me off to a point where i couldn’t even see past my anger. looking back on it, i know that my behavior literally did nothing to change anything. think about why you’re friends with someone. it’s because they’re good people right? and a good person is willing to listen to how they can improve if you let them know instead of attacking them and refusing to talk to them for the rest of your life (i am guilty of this behavior). i don’t want to criticize anyone who angrily responds to offensive language. it’s exhausting to constantly spoon feed education into the mouths of people that don’t have any qualms about throwing their ignorance at you and anger naturally will surface; but not everyone whose problematic is hopeless. see moments like these as moments of discussion; not THE ONE MOMENT WHERE EVERYTHING WAS OVER AND THE FRIENDSHIP CRUMBLED. you can’t live a life thinking that everyone in the world is as socially aware as you think YOU are. 

and now let’s talk about my worst pet peeve in the world. you know what i hate? when someone who is obviously smart and educated is confronted with something they’ve said in the past, i want to roll my eyes until they fall out of their sockets and tumble into the ocean. if somebody has apologized for their behavior and made it OBVIOUS that they do not share the same beliefs as they did before, why bring it up and ‘drag’ them? isn’t that counterintuitive? you wanted them to educate themselves and they have- what is the point of continually penalizing them for behavior they displayed when they were a more unintelligent individual? a good example of someone growing from problematic behavior is the company warner brothers. they released a statement before airing their cartoons that read

“the cartoons you are about to see are products of their time. they may depict some of the ethnic and racial prejudices that were common place in american society. these depictions were wrong then and are wrong today. while the following does not represent the warner bros. view of today’s society, these cartoons are being presented as they were originally created because to do otherwise would be the same as claiming these prejudices never existed”

to me, this is an adequate apology that shows clear understanding of the harmfulness of problematic behavior without making warner bros. the victim in the situation, something that a lot of people do when called out on problematic behavior. doesn’t it seem like a waste of time to then pull up screenshots of cartoons with racial prejudice in them and to then proceed to ‘drag’ warner brothers? i see this most often with celebrities. ashley frangipane, better known as halsey, used to run a harry styles blog on tumblr before she started killing the music industry and used to say some pretty bad things about taylor swift. it was typical slut shaming. but anybody who knows jack shit about halsey also knows that she is not that person today. as a mixed race bisexual woman in the music industry, she has done a lot to speak out about feminism and acceptance. she has apologized for the things she has said about taylor when she was 17 and dumb. but people like to pull up her old text posts about hating taylor or erase all the other work she’s done FOR social justice just because of her mistake. she doesn’t have that attitude anymore! those text posts do not represent her attitude today! this is why drag culture can be so harmful; it does NOTHING for equality and is basically just a way for someone to give themselves a tap on the back for feeling like they’ve done something to help a movement, when they’ve actually done squat.

educated peeps- spread as much knowledge as you can! just remember to do so in a way that actually, you know, spreads knowledge and not hate. 

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