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I finally was able to buy some pumpkin pie this year, and I am so happy. It's been forever since I have had pumpkin pie. Well as my mom would say, "some pie for my whipped cream"

I think one of the worst things that I have experienced whether because of my Autism, ADHD, or CPTSD is derealization.

It genuinely feels like my surroundings are fake and that they are just a prop there to make everything look real. I have to touch different objects to be able to ground myself into remembering that this is real life. I am not in a movie or tv shows. And that my actions do have truly real consequences.

Plus, when the derealization is at its highest, my time blindness is so rapid that it can causes hours to go by without me noticing. Sometimes even days can go past without me noticing if I am not careful.

So, in light of my realization that I am in derealization (lol it rhymes), here are some tips that I do to help manage when it gets bad and to help bring myself out of it.

~ Firstly, I try to find what is causing me stress. The top cause of my derealization is stress, so I try to find the cause and see if it is something that I can control or something that is out of my control. If it is something that I can control, I will try to make a plan to fix the problem. If it isn't something that I can control, I will say affirmations that it will be okay and that I am valid in my feelings. If it is really bad, I will journal my feelings and my concerns.

~ Secondly, I amp up on my self-care. I will change my clothes from sleep clothes to day clothes if I am off of work. I will eat my safe foods and do things that feel safe. I will also wear soft and comfy socks to really bring forward the grounding part. Making sure I am taking my vitamins (I usually keep my medications and vitamins next to my bed so that if I don't feel good, I can take them without having to move around)

~Thirdly, especially for people that study or work, even chores, I will set timers. For studying, I love to watch those 'study with me' YouTube videos as they help with the time blindness and not allow me to run ramped. When working, I try to wear my Fitbit to help have something that has the time on it keep my focused. I notice when I only have my phone, time goes by so fast because I forget that it's there and the Fitbit helps ground me as well.

~Finally, I try to keep a fidget toy with me. I personally do not have a fidget toy, but I will generally use a quarter to have in my hand or I will use my keys to fidget with.

Hopefully some of my personal tips help out! And of course, experiment with things that could help you. I am a strong advocate for personal introspection and being an observer to your actions and behaviors to help! I don't believe in changing myself but giving myself the tools to properly live day to day.

Have a great day

I was good and paid some of the electric bill off instead of buying Chinese food.... I know I will be thinking of what I could have had for the next two weeks 😫😫😫😫😫

little pumpkin thief

I have always been a romantic person.

I've always dreamed of being married with kids in a big house. Of course as a kid, everything seems so easy.

Now, with all the trails and tribulations I've been through in my personal relationships, I still crave that.

My future spouse, I wish to experience life with them. Everytime I see landscapes I imagine seeing it with them. Allowing that time in space to be permanently etched into my mind. Going to them when things get hard.

My future babies, I can't wait to be able to raise them into their own person. Proved the love and support that every child should be able to experience. Give them the resources to follow their dreams and become happy in this lifetime.

And most of all, when I pass at an old age, my memories with them will be the ones I last see. The ones that will bring me the most comfort, will be my family.

I refuse to allow the pain I have experienced kill the love that surrounds my soul constantly

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What vibes do you give off to strangers

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Love story of your and your romantic soulmate

How does your crush feel about you

Random messages from your crush

Describing your love story in a poem

Random Uplifting messages for you

Random messages for you

Describing your first kiss with your future lover as a writer

How are you glowing up?

Random things about your future lover

How would your future lover describe you

You are a 10 but

what will your future spouse love about you

random messages for you

helping you recognise your superpower

Their first impression of you

What's next in love?

Your love story and the movie it resembles

Details about your future partner

Describing your love trope with your future spouse as a writer

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Money and success affirmations

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Money spell

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Future spouse tarot event

Hello!

I think it's been a long time since I last held a tarot event, so here it is! In this event you'll get to know 5 random facts about your future spouse. However you'll need to follow certain rules in order to participate in the event. If you do not follow all the rules your ask will not be answered.

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Be polite and respectful

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You'll need to mention your initials and zodiac

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I always forget how creative I can be when I really put my mind to it. When I feel the energy in my soul and allow it to take over.

by kath__alina

Dear other autistic people, what defines a friendship to you? I don't believe I have ever had a healthy friendship and I can not find anything that truly helps me understand how one would work out. Especially with how friendships are with neurotypicals, I just feel out of the loop and it is haunting me.

Thank you in advance for your answers!

I always feel like I'm fighting myself between spending and saving money. Like one part of me wants to save and be financially independent, but the other part of me wants to spend it all on things I like and allow myself to feel good.

I don't understand why I only feel good when I buy something new and something that I genuinely like and want.

𝖉𝖔𝖓'𝖙 𝖌𝖔...

One thing I have always been jealous of (but know in hindsight that my autism would despise it ) are the people that can handle parties. Specifically, house parties. It looks so fun and exciting. But if I am not tipsy or drunk already then I would turn right out of there immediately.

I have two cats, and I could not imagine having 4 kids right now. I just seems like an impossible thing for me

"you will wake up in a saw trap tomorrow" is so fucking hilarious

I always love when the funniest response is half cut off

I also confiscate my personality when someone tries to play me. Like you see how I act funny and friendly with everyone else? Now YOU get to be the outsider 🫵🏻

does anyone else do this thing where they stop masking out of spite like you know what? fuck you. I know you wouldn't like me either way so it's not even worth it im going to start acting MORE autistic and hard to deal with just to piss you off

One thing that I'm working on in terms of my autism and unmasking is communicating and speaking to other autistic people. I've unconsciously projected the "social" cues that I had to learn to blend in with neurotypicals with other autistic people, and that causes confusion and anger in myself and I believe the other autistic person.

It's been a real learning process and 'trial and error' thing which I hope will continue to help me grow 🙏🏻

I have been on Tumblr since 2012-2013 and various social media platforms since 2010. It has taken me almost 9-10 years to start actively commenting, participating, and make contributions because of how self-aware and the overwhelming sense of embarrassment I feel and felt trying to post or show my true self online.

Every time I try to post something that I believe is "cringey,' my body is completely consumed with this need to delete the post and hide in my bed.

I do not know if it because of my autism, or if it is because any type of perception makes me want to curl up and wither away. Like now, typing and creating my own post is okay but trying to interact with other users is too much for me. Which also interferes with gaining friendships and companionship

Me: *to my therapist* I had the spoons, so I did heaps of stuff and now I'm so exhausted I feel sick.

My Therapist: This is where you got to treat spoons like cash. Just because you have them, you need to figure out if you have enough to spend, or else you're going to be in debt. Remember, you're autistic, so you regain those spoons slowly and use them quickly. Everything, good and bad, uses that cash for you. You may enjoy the activity but it's going to exhaust you just as much as a bad activity if you're not careful.

Me: Goddamnit....

One thing that I absolutely hate is when a parent of an autistic child tries to compare their child to me. Or if I try to explain the reason I do something that their child does not do, it immediately goes to "well, I raised an autistic child, I would know x.y. and z"

Like okay?!?!?!?! But you didn't raise me??? Just because we are both autistic doesn't mean we are twins 💀

I just wish those parents and others would understand that WE ARE NOT THE SAME. WE HAVE OUR OWN PERSONALITIES. WE HAVE DIFFERENT COPING SKILLS AND INTERESTS. STOP COMPARING US BECAUSE YOU CAN'T UNDERSTAND THAT OUR DISABILITY IS A COMPLEX THING. PLUS THERE ARE OTHER MENTAL ILLNESS' THAT INTERACT WITH THE AUTISM.

Stealing for food? I totally understand. Stealing for baby products? I didn't see shit. But trying to steal Starbucks coffee and then get mad at me because you weren't smart enough to not get caught? 🤡 God I wish I had a sound board for work when I can't express my thoughts in words

I always forget how shaken up car wrecks make me until I get into one like last night 😭😐