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AITA for going Scorched Earth against my Uncle?

So I have been going through a thing, a repeating pattern with a once-close family member. Specifically an uncle who is a year older than me. He has a history of playing nice for a short while, or doing a "favor" for me then turning into a complete dictator. And by dictator, I mean giving me an ultimatum and getting ultra pissy if I ever say 'no'.

A couple months ago, K (younger uncle, mentioned above), J(older uncle and brother of K), A (mutual friend), M (other mutual friend), C (husband), B (third mutual friend who hasn't been able to join since session 1), and I started making weekly DND sessions at my house. 2-3 hours a week after work with very few things that could stop us from meeting up.

The first few weeks were perfectly fine, then K starts bringing up things to A (who's running the sessions as DM) and me. Some of the things are reasonable like not revealing sensitive background info that the players are keeping to themselves and/or passing through notes. Others were a little less reasonable; like demanding another player be told they have to play a certain way (which A did research and follow up on, overridding K's demands). Soon K and J were being extremely quiet during sessions, causing A to pull croc teeth to get them to say what they wanted to do.

Now after some other personal family drama (completely reasonable worry) K is making demands that I put away my dog (who is kept in a crate while C and I are at work) so they can bring grandma over while we play DND (she just went through some serious medical problems and definitely need 24/7 care). I suggested both remote play (which is difficult and not nearly as fun) and going to the local park so we can all watch both grandma and the pupper.

However, both suggestions were completely shot down by K and its the last fucking straw. This is not the first time he has tried to control what I do (especially when playing DND) but it is the last. I have already made up my mind that he will no longer be allowed inside my house, he will not be welcomed to when I do any DM'ing campaigns (I will never tell someone else what to do or how to run their games outside of gentle suggestions for fair rules). And I do truly mean he is not welcomed in my house, for any reason at all. No family gatherings where he is invited will be held at my house, no game nights, nothing. To be clear, I'm not cutting him out completely, just putting my foot down about his current behavior.

TLDR; Uncle is trying to control my house for DND and I am putting my foot down, refusing to allow him inside my house.

AITA for going Scorched Earth against my Uncle?

So I have been going through a thing, a repeating pattern with a once-close family member. Specifically an uncle who is a year older than me. He has a history of playing nice for a short while, or doing a "favor" for me then turning into a complete dictator. And by dictator, I mean giving me an ultimatum and getting ultra pissy if I ever say 'no'.

A couple months ago, K (younger uncle, mentioned above), J(older uncle and brother of K), A (mutual friend), M (other mutual friend), C (husband), B (third mutual friend who hasn't been able to join since session 1), and I started making weekly DND sessions at my house. 2-3 hours a week after work with very few things that could stop us from meeting up.

The first few weeks were perfectly fine, then K starts bringing up things to A (who's running the sessions as DM) and me. Some of the things are reasonable like not revealing sensitive background info that the players are keeping to themselves and/or passing through notes. Others were a little less reasonable; like demanding another player be told they have to play a certain way (which A did research and follow up on, overridding K's demands). Soon K and J were being extremely quiet during sessions, causing A to pull croc teeth to get them to say what they wanted to do.

Now after some other personal family drama (completely reasonable worry) K is making demands that I put away my dog (who is kept in a crate while C and I are at work) so they can bring grandma over while we play DND (she just went through some serious medical problems and definitely need 24/7 care). I suggested both remote play (which is difficult and not nearly as fun) and going to the local park so we can all watch both grandma and the pupper.

However, both suggestions were completely shot down by K and its the last fucking straw. This is not the first time he has tried to control what I do (especially when playing DND) but it is the last. I have already made up my mind that he will no longer be allowed inside my house, he will not be welcomed to when I do any DM'ing campaigns (I will never tell someone else what to do or how to run their games outside of gentle suggestions for fair rules). And I do truly mean he is not welcomed in my house, for any reason at all. No family gatherings where he is invited will be held at my house, no game nights, nothing. To be clear, I'm not cutting him out completely, just putting my foot down about his current behavior.

TLDR; Uncle is trying to control my house for DND and I am putting my foot down, refusing to allow him inside my house.

AITA for going Scorched Earth against my Uncle?

So I have been going through a thing, a repeating pattern with a once-close family member. Specifically an uncle who is a year older than me. He has a history of playing nice for a short while, or doing a "favor" for me then turning into a complete dictator. And by dictator, I mean giving me an ultimatum and getting ultra pissy if I ever say 'no'.

A couple months ago, K (younger uncle, mentioned above), J(older uncle and brother of K), A (mutual friend), M (other mutual friend), C (husband), B (third mutual friend who hasn't been able to join since session 1), and I started making weekly DND sessions at my house. 2-3 hours a week after work with very few things that could stop us from meeting up.

The first few weeks were perfectly fine, then K starts bringing up things to A (who's running the sessions as DM) and me. Some of the things are reasonable like not revealing sensitive background info that the players are keeping to themselves and/or passing through notes. Others were a little less reasonable; like demanding another player be told they have to play a certain way (which A did research and follow up on, overridding K's demands). Soon K and J were being extremely quiet during sessions, causing A to pull croc teeth to get them to say what they wanted to do.

Now after some other personal family drama (completely reasonable worry) K is making demands that I put away my dog (who is kept in a crate while C and I are at work) so they can bring grandma over while we play DND (she just went through some serious medical problems and definitely need 24/7 care). I suggested both remote play (which is difficult and not nearly as fun) and going to the local park so we can all watch both grandma and the pupper.

However, both suggestions were completely shot down by K and its the last fucking straw. This is not the first time he has tried to control what I do (especially when playing DND) but it is the last. I have already made up my mind that he will no longer be allowed inside my house, he will not be welcomed to when I do any DM'ing campaigns (I will never tell someone else what to do or how to run their games outside of gentle suggestions for fair rules). And I do truly mean he is not welcomed in my house, for any reason at all. No family gatherings where he is invited will be held at my house, no game nights, nothing. To be clear, I'm not cutting him out completely, just putting my foot down about his current behavior.

TLDR; Uncle is trying to control my house for DND and I am putting my foot down, refusing to allow him inside my house.

AITA for going Scorched Earth against my Uncle?

So I have been going through a thing, a repeating pattern with a once-close family member. Specifically an uncle who is a year older than me. He has a history of playing nice for a short while, or doing a "favor" for me then turning into a complete dictator. And by dictator, I mean giving me an ultimatum and getting ultra pissy if I ever say 'no'.

A couple months ago, K (younger uncle, mentioned above), J(older uncle and brother of K), A (mutual friend), M (other mutual friend), C (husband), B (third mutual friend who hasn't been able to join since session 1), and I started making weekly DND sessions at my house. 2-3 hours a week after work with very few things that could stop us from meeting up.

The first few weeks were perfectly fine, then K starts bringing up things to A (who's running the sessions as DM) and me. Some of the things are reasonable like not revealing sensitive background info that the players are keeping to themselves and/or passing through notes. Others were a little less reasonable; like demanding another player be told they have to play a certain way (which A did research and follow up on, overridding K's demands). Soon K and J were being extremely quiet during sessions, causing A to pull croc teeth to get them to say what they wanted to do.

Now after some other personal family drama (completely reasonable worry) K is making demands that I put away my dog (who is kept in a crate while C and I are at work) so they can bring grandma over while we play DND (she just went through some serious medical problems and definitely need 24/7 care). I suggested both remote play (which is difficult and not nearly as fun) and going to the local park so we can all watch both grandma and the pupper.

However, both suggestions were completely shot down by K and its the last fucking straw. This is not the first time he has tried to control what I do (especially when playing DND) but it is the last. I have already made up my mind that he will no longer be allowed inside my house, he will not be welcomed to when I do any DM'ing campaigns (I will never tell someone else what to do or how to run their games outside of gentle suggestions for fair rules). And I do truly mean he is not welcomed in my house, for any reason at all. No family gatherings where he is invited will be held at my house, no game nights, nothing. To be clear, I'm not cutting him out completely, just putting my foot down about his current behavior.

TLDR; Uncle is trying to control my house for DND and I am putting my foot down, refusing to allow him inside my house.

Am I the jerk, am I in the wrong, ya know I really hope not! My family brought me up to be super religious, and I was for a long time, but I have too many negative experiences with the church. I have a lot of self doubt and anxiety that comes from the christian religion. I’m agender and gay, and I hated myself and genuinely thought that I was a disappointment and that I was nothing but rubbish, a failure, that I didn’t deserve to live because I couldn’t even get myself to stop thinking about girls in a way that I believed at the time was sinful. I literally lived in constant fear that my parents would kick me out for my sexuality from the time I was eleven to the time I was eighteen, because my parents are extremely homophobic. I constantly looked for ways to ’fix’ myself, and I was miserable! Not to mention that all my friends had to be christians according to my parents, and they all basically stabbed me in the back and gave me major relationship anxiety that I’m still trying to deal with to this day! I still can’t make a friend without hearing that little voice in my head telling me that they don’t really like me, they just feel sorry for me, they just need someone who’ll do what they say, they just want you around so they can laugh about you, so they can gossip, for money, they just want you for something and then they’ll get bored and leave you, they always do! That church was always the root of it! But my parents think I’m being rude when I come home from college and don’t want to go to church on the weekends, they’re making me go tomorrow but it’s Christmas and I really don’t want to get up and go somewhere that gives me so much anxiety that it literally disrupts my blood circulation and makes my fingers hurt! I’ve went to church with them for the past two Sundays! Am I really the asshole for not wanting to go back to that place?

am i in the wrong??

my friend, also ex boyfriend, broke up a few months ago but are still really good friends. I broke up with him because I figured out I am lesbian. Let’s call him ‘M.’

Anyways, I went out drinking and clubbing with my friend and it was so fun!! I ended up crying at the end of the night, like REALLY crying, for no reason at all. I was just rlly sensitive. So M came and he comforted me and was all nice, but the next morning, I woke up with angry, controlling messages from him.

He has told me to stop going out because things kept going wrong, but I still went out because I don’t think he can tell me what to do?? Nothing went wrong that night, just a random cry, yet he’s acting like it was terrible.

He said stuff like ‘You’re lucky I was nice last night.’ and ‘You’re too mentally ill to drink’ and threatening to not be friends with me if i go out clubbing with my friend again. He wants me to go out drinking with only him. Not to mention, that night, my friend was trying to comfort me and M told her to f*ck off!!!

I was not having it. I stuck up for my friend and then M pulled the ‘you care about her more than me’ card. I’ve known her for 5 years and him for only 5 months!!

Now he’s mad at me and making me out to be a psycho.

Is it my fault, or is he controlling?

A little confuses at the moment... Pretty sure I just got blocked by a roleplay blog that wasn't happy about the new COTL art.

I made a joke about how the devs can sometimes wreck headcanons and art blogs kinda have to cope any way they can, but I made sure to note that even though the devs make content about Narilamb, it isn't the "official couple"; you don't have to like it! That'd defeat the whole point of marrying who you want!

I mistook their argument that Narilamb wasn't possible in "their world" as a debate over why some people like it at all, to which I tried to give some reasons as to why, as well as an explanation about COTL's references to various things in mythology since they claimed Christianity wasn't present at all and the art made no sense.

I then realized it was a roleplay blog, apologizing for trying to explain dev stuff/themes and misunderstanding the post. They responded in character, to which I decided to play along (to lighten the mood) and ask if I was going to be sacrificed for speaking such heresy, to which they replied that sacrifices were honorable and that they could just murder me. I then said I'd stay awake so that they couldn't murder me without losing faith.

Then they blocked me.

I'm not sure if they blocked me because I crossed a line/was too rude, to continue being in character, or if they were just mad I was ruining their RP or something.

Not really looking to get anything out of this, just thought it was an interesting experience. I won't mention who it is by name and if they do end up reading this, I'm sorry if I seriously upset you.

AITA for walking away from my disabled mom?

My mom has hearing loss, this morning she was washing a pot with headphones in. I tried to talk to her but she couldn't hear me through the headphones. She couldn't take off the headphones because her hands were wet, so I reached out to move them. She turned around and started screaming not to touch her. Than she started screaming at me to talk into her better hearing ear. I didn't want to get yelled out so I left.

We just had an argument she's saying that it was mean to walk away. She said that it means I don't think that she's worth the trouble of hard communication. I explained that I left because she was yelling at me. She said that I'm making fun of her disability. So reddit, AITA for walking away from my mom.

When it's come to a point where you don't know if you're friends are getting tired of you and leaving you out until it builds up to the point where they leave you and no one wants to be friends with you because your just "weird" or your just over thinking it and you look like this: