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“We chose the term “asexual” to describe ourselves because both “celibate” and “anti-sexual” have connotations we wished to avoid: the first implies that one has sacrificed sexuality for some higher good, the second that sexuality is degrading or somehow inherently bad. “Asexual”, as we use it, does not mean “without sex” but “relating sexually to no one”. This does not, of course, exclude masturbation but implies that if one has sexual feelings they do not require another person for their expression. Asexuality is, simply, self-contained sexuality.”
— The Asexual Manifesto, Lisa Orlando and Barbara Getz, 1972
You know what really bothers me?
The assumption that, because I’m asexual, I’m depriving my partner of sex.
I’m not depriving him of anything. He came into this relationship fully aware of my orientation and preferences and made the decision to date me anyway. Why should I be required to atone for my orientation? I shouldn’t feel guilty about not wanting sex any more than he should feel guilty for wanting it.
I don’t have to feel guilty because he isn’t getting laid. He made that decision himself of his own free will and I don’t owe him sexual favor to keep him interested in me. If he suddenly decides that the lack of sex is a problem, that’s his prerogative and he can end the relationship if he so chooses.
That’s the beauty of a partnership. We both have choices in the matter and we both have boundaries to maintain. We’re both responsible for happiness here, not just the one of us without sexual urges toward the other.
I think this type of misconception definitely needs to be abolished.
I made another
Free to use, acephobes dont interact or I'll put you in my cringe comp with the terfs and transphobes
I feel like when reading we get more of the emotional context, often from all involved parties. Visually, all we see is the physical/carnal parts and whatever tone can be communicated through environment and expressiveness, which is often left behind in favor of shock value / sex appeal anyways. In reading, a 1st person or 3rd omniscient experience can tell us what one or multiple involved parties are thinking during/before/about the encounter, prioritizing the emotional intimacy and deeper connective meaning of the moment over the tangible aspects.
Does that? Make sense? At all? Someone help.
Asexual people, does anybody else feel very uncomfortable watching sexual scenes (on tv series, movies etc) but reading them doesn't feel as bad?
Yes I feel like this too
No I don't feel like this
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