I Am Trying To Choose Myself - Tumblr Posts

RULES <3

ok so. firstly this is a new list because i've been having some feelings about it recently and felt like for my *health* and *wellbeing* or whatever i should probably set some boundaries.

first things first, i won't be writing smut. i tried it once and it was okay but i've decided that i just am not comfortable with it. i absolutely read and support all u fantastic smut writers but this is just not for me to put into words, it does not spark joy for me, it is not my passion, etc etc. i'll do suggestive, but smut and i are parting ways for the foreseeable future. so no smut asks <3 which means that most everything i post from here on out is going to be sfw! yay! (my only smut is in part 4 of my mingyu long fic if you wanted to read my feeble attempt. i am nothing if not a shameless self-promoter.)

i'm also sticking to the "no member x member" rule i had before. got a lot of feelings and opinions about this one, which i will not share bc i know i'm gonna get hate for it, but it's just not for me, i will not do it, it's not happening. and please do not message me privately about your real-life ships.

thirdly: if you are homophobic, transphobic, racist, misogynistic, genocidal, or any other unacceptable behaviors on my page, please leave. you will not enjoy being here anyway.

and finally, if you have criticism for me, i am genuinely open to things that will make me a better writer and a better person. i'm committed to being more inclusive in my writing, owning up to my mistakes, and growing in both my passion/talent and my empathy. but, like everyone else here, i do this for fun, for free. i literally beg you guys to take it easy on me. i am a human being trying her best to survive here (and if we're being honest, it's not going great! i have been very depressed! and in a very dark place! extremely recently!) so if you want to criticize, please think to yourself about the tone you use before you send it in. i am receptive! i promise i am! and it's not that i think i don't deserve/need the help! i am setting this boundary bc i am at the end of my rope and there's part of my experience here on tumblr that makes it better but then occasionally i get messages that make it so so so much worse. so just be careful. with everyone, not just me. everyone is struggling with something.

i hope this doesn't seem too unreasonable, i'm literally just trying to make this an easier time for me. i love you all (especially everyone who reads and reblogs and likes and comments, PLEASE talk to me more, i love having conversations with you), have an amazing new year, and look forward to more writings from your dear jo in the future <3