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"This person has a secret onlyfans!" "This artist does NSFW commissions!" "This author writes porn on the side!" I cannot begin to tell you how swag and awesome that is.

Also, there is so much hand-wringing over the ethics of BDSM and while obviously it is worth taking care about ...sensation seeking is a thing. Many, many people enjoy eating habanero peppers and/or watching movies that make them cry. The conceptual leap from there to the idea that it's possible for sex to hurt good is a very short one, and sometimes it REALLY is as simple as that.

btw. being kink positive means ALL kinks even the ones you think are "immoral" or whatever the fuck. "but what about-" especially that one. no sex act between consenting adults is immoral actually. kill the cop in your brain.

of course that doesn't mean you have to be comfortable with every kink. it's fine to have limits for your own personal stuff. but if you judge people based on what they do with their consenting partners, I cannot stress this enough, you are being a bad person.

Prev tags had it 100% right

weird tweet went viral some time ago about how women can't actually consent to bdsm, and that no woman anywhere has ever truly been into bdsm because it's just something men force them to do.

honestly annoyed the shit out of me.

like I'm sorry, you don't like bdsm so you're going to say it's anti feminist, but you're not actually going to listen to other women, who are into bdsm.

also why is everything always about men with these people anyway?

lesbians and bisexual women and queer afabs and trans women can like bdsm with non-men.

also not all women/afabs are subs, and even if they were, it doesn't even mean they're being forced to do it.

some women and afabs are kinky.

there is definitely some societal conditioning that influences the majority of bdsm activities between consenting adults, but that makes bdsm a symptom of a disease and not the disease.

absolute brain rotten take.

bad vibes on Twitter, man.

As somebody with weird/gross kinks, I can say with authority that having/indulging in those kinks does not lead directly to sexualizing those things in a non-sexual context.

It’s wild to me that radfem and radfem-adjacent circles are trying to push against both kink and asexuality. Like, gee, it’s almost like there’s an overarching cultural narrative that made us all internalize “you can’t be TOO sexual but you need to be sexually available.” But instead of examining our internalized expectations of sex and sexuality they dress it up in progressive buzzwords and pass it off as “radical” discourse.

I think one of the reasons I don’t understand the whole ‘kink=pain and therefore its evil’ thing is that I like really spicy food for the same reason I like kink, the sensation that I get from it is pleasing. If there is nothing wrong with eating food that causes pain but not damage why would there be something wrong with another activity that does the same.

And before anyone goes 'kink can cause bodily harm its not the same’ so can sufficiently spicy foods, there are peppers you have to sign a waiver to eat because they could trigger a heart attack or cause burns in your mouth and throat and I don’t see anyone yelling about how the chefs who prepare them and farmers who grown them are abusive.

men are literally like “my biggest fantasy is seeing a woman locked in a cage being beaten like she deserves” and people who call themselves feminists are just like “haha nice :)”

“kinks can be harmful to some people, and so it’s best to keep your kinks private and/or in a place where only other people who are okay with seeing or reading about your kink will see or read about it” hell yeah “actually kinks are universally morally bad and if you participate in any kink you’re evil and hurting the children. aren’t you ashamed of yourself?” hell nah

here’s the thing tho: the lgbt community shouldn’t include kink unless ppl are otherwise lgbt. because that sexualizes the lgbt community and says that anyone who has “”””weird sex”””” is suddenly oppressed by homophobia or transphobia lmao

opening the lgbt community to anyone who doesn’t have strictly sex for procreation isn’t a good idea because we’ll get cishet kristin who only has sex when it’s a blue moon on a tuesday and her boyfriend is wearing a santa claus costume deciding shes an uwuuwuuwuw kweerio uwuwuw

slapping the label queer on everyone in the lgbt community allows people to say “oh i’m weird” and then decide they’re oppressed, and it also alienates lgbt people who just don’t use the q slur to identify themselves