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Idc about peoples right to vent. If you're venting about a persecutor in your system don't mention them by name.
We are enacting trauma responses. Public humiliation won't do anything to help. Be civil and use a fake name or something.
-a recovering persecutor whos scared to front because his in sys brother always used his name to rant about him so his friends only see him as bad.
privacy is an important thing... Please communicate with eachother before sharing information.. (this goes for anything and everything..)
I feel like I would have been diagnosed with OCD a lot earlier if the vast majority of screening questions (for mental illnesses in general) weren't based on the person's perception of their own behavior, in isolation. and what i mean by that is asking someone with OCD "do you wash your hands excessively?" is not a good question.
a person with OCD believes they are washing their hands the correct number of times. it's not excessive. we believe we're exhibiting best practices and helping to keep everything clean.
better questions might be, "does it seem like you wash your hands a lot more than your friends or family?" "do you get dry patches or cuts on your hands from washing your hands?" "do you find it deeply distressing, more so than how you've seen other people react, when you get something on your hands that you can't clean off right away?"
being asked "are you overly preoccupied with bugs, symmetry, and contamination?" also got "no" responses from me years ago in my life. what they didn't ask for, and didn't know, was what *exactly* I was doing in my day to day life that genuinely ate up my time and mental space to a concerning degree, but I *didn't know* that other people don't do this.
"do you spend a lot of time cleaning?" -> no, it's not a lot. it's a good amount. why?
"do you become frustrated because it seems like no one else meets your organizational and cleanliness standards - do you often 'take over' for other people because they can't do it right - do new friends seem surprised by how strict you can be about your living space?" -> oh. yeah. yeah I get it now.
It's sad, but I find myself increasingly side-eying and avoiding folks in online spaces who talk about exclusively wanting "cozy" fiction and complaining about media that has any kind of conflict or reflection of societal ills.
Because while there's nothing innately wrong with enjoying media for escapism into an aspirational setting, the people whose media diet is exclusively cozy/soft/wholesome/hopepunk/utopian too often are people who somehow lack the capacity understand that not everyone consumes media because it reflects the world they want.
So there's enough overlap between the cozycore crowd and the people who somehow think that enjoying media with conflict or catharsis in it makes you a sociopath (because clearly if you read about something, it must mean you condone and support it and want it in the world!) that I just don't wanna dance that close to the hornet's nest, yanno?
