Unsolicited Advice - Tumblr Posts
I wrote this in the early days and now there's no reminding required.
For a few years I had resigned myself to being by myself forever.
To combat my loneliness and fight the urge to contact him I learned to enjoy my own company and have courage to do the things I wanted to do. I went to movies and museums, bars and restaurants and all sorts of live music venues alone.
It took some getting used to, but I became content. It was nice. I enjoyed an unprecedented level of freedom and it was peaceful in ways I didn't know my life could be.
I wish I could instill this notion into the minds of survivors in early days and, Hell, people I love who have had some unsatisfactory dating/relationship experiences.
You are actually pretty awesome. Appreciate yourself, especially when no one else is.
There are worse things
When I am alone, I think it is the worst. I have to remind myself constantly that no, indeed, it isn’t.
If you were ever looking for a place to start:
1. Walks are wonderful - no one you pass knows anything about the purpose of your journey, so you don't need to feel awkward in your 'aloneness'.
2. The movies! It's dark, and you're not supposed to speak anyway. Show up during previews if you're feeling vulnerable.
There are worse things
When I am alone, I think it is the worst. I have to remind myself constantly that no, indeed, it isn’t.
It's actually really bad for you to sleep with the lights on. Your body uses the presence of light and lack thereof to regulate its sleep cycles.* It's harder to get to sleep and stay asleep if you're constantly stimulating your eyes with light. Sleeping with blackout curtains shut is the ideal, but just having all the lights off is good enough for the majority of people.
Of course, I say this while having a little nightlight in my room because my overactive imagination will convince me I'm about to get murdered by the Shadow People if it's dark indoors lol. The most important thing is that you're able to sleep!
*Before somebody asks: This absolutely does have an impact on blind people! Statistically, blind people are far more likely to develop sleep disorders than seeing people, because blind people don't experience light stimulus in the ways the human body is hardwired to schedule periods of rest around.