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PSA from Blobby. Something we should talk about more ❤️
Another side blog of mine
Genetic Prisoners
I need to vent because this is straight up keeping me awake right now. I am so sick and tired of the complete and utter lack of allowance for self-ownership, personal boundaries, common decency, and basic respect, adults have for children. Simply because you gave the generic material to give them life, does not in fact give you the right to own them. What a concept! They are in fact their own person! You can make up any excuses you want but let me be clear, you decided to accept any and all responsibilities to keeping them alive, healthy, and given the best chance at life. That’s what you owe them, for agreeing to have them exist. They owe you nothing in return for that. Nothing. That’s entirely on you. If you feel like that’s too much for you with out getting something from them, including the right to control them? You shouldn’t have had kids. Abuse is abuse. Hiding a camera to record your teenage kid? Creepy. And a huge breach of their trust. They now are stripped of the comfort of feeling safe when no one is around. Your child has come to you and asked you to stop smoking in the home. Telling them it’s your house and none of their business? Rude and deregards their right to respect in a shared space, ownership of their bodies, and takes away their choices for their health. LGBT+ children attempt to come out and are ridiculed or underminded. you are again taking away their allowance to be an individual person with their own choices about who they want to be. There is so much more. Children are not your prisoners. They are there because you accepted the responsibility of bringing life into the world. They are not meant to be forced into a mold of your choosing. They are meant to be guided, but allowed bloom into whoever they turn out to be.
A lot of people around me are having kids and every day it becomes more apparent that hitting your children to punish them is insane because literally everything can be a horrible punishment in their eyes if you frame it as such.
Like, one family makes their toddler sit on the stairs for three minutes when he hits his brother or whatever. The stairs are well lit and he can see his family the whole time, he’s just not allowed to get up and leave the stairs or the timer starts over. He fucking hates it just because it’s framed as a punishment.
Another family use a baseball cap. It’s just a plain blue cap with nothing on it. When their toddler needs discipline he gets a timeout on a chair and has to put the cap on. When they’re out and about he just has to wear the cap but it gets the same reaction. Nobody around them can tell he’s being punished because it’s in no way an embarrassing cap, but HE knows and just the threat of having to wear it is enough.
And there isn’t the same contempt afterwards I’ve seen with kids whose parents hit them. One time the kid swung a stick at my dog, his mother immediately made him sit on the stairs, he screamed but stayed put, then he came over to my dog and gently said “Sorry Ellie” and went back to playing like nothing happened, but this time without swinging sticks at the nearby animals.
A lot of people around me are having kids and every day it becomes more apparent that hitting your children to punish them is insane because literally everything can be a horrible punishment in their eyes if you frame it as such.
Like, one family makes their toddler sit on the stairs for three minutes when he hits his brother or whatever. The stairs are well lit and he can see his family the whole time, he’s just not allowed to get up and leave the stairs or the timer starts over. He fucking hates it just because it’s framed as a punishment.
Another family use a baseball cap. It’s just a plain blue cap with nothing on it. When their toddler needs discipline he gets a timeout on a chair and has to put the cap on. When they’re out and about he just has to wear the cap but it gets the same reaction. Nobody around them can tell he’s being punished because it’s in no way an embarrassing cap, but HE knows and just the threat of having to wear it is enough.
And there isn’t the same contempt afterwards I’ve seen with kids whose parents hit them. One time the kid swung a stick at my dog, his mother immediately made him sit on the stairs, he screamed but stayed put, then he came over to my dog and gently said “Sorry Ellie” and went back to playing like nothing happened, but this time without swinging sticks at the nearby animals.
PSA from Blobby. Something we should talk about more ❤️