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hey guys im cis and i havent actually met a trans person before(well i have online but not irl) but i think my friend(who also happens to be my crush) might be nb so i kinda have a question. like i think they might be bc they definitely are androgynous and not just in looks and idk theres a few other tells i cant remember all of them off the top of my head. this one could js be that they dont like dresses but along with the next thing i'll tell you it kinda makes sense.

so basically our school has a summer and winter school uniform and for term 2 and 3 you wear winter and for 1 and 4 you wear summer. its currently term 3 but its been like 30 degrees and theyve still been wearing winter(the only option for summer uniform is a dress but for winter you can choose skirt and stockings or pants and they were the pants). so im thinking that maybe it makes them feel dysphoric?

the things that make me think that they definitely are is that today they weren't at school and the people in my group were either not there or went to the tech rooms at lunch so i ended up sitting with their group cos i kinda half know some of their friends but their group is so friendly so it wasnt awkward.

and we mentioned my crush cos how dare they not be at school(theyre in my class btw) and one of their friends was like "they-she" yknow and kinda corrected herself rlly quickly. and also me and one of their other friends were texting them on her laptop and the contact name for them on her laptop was different than the name i know them by and i think the girl noticed cos she said "dont ask why her name is [the unisex name spelt in an unconventional way] is that, there's too much lore" or smthing along the lines of that.

so i was like "oh, why isnt there an e there" cos i was curious and shes like "thats what im saying" which makes it sound like it isnt a reference or an inside joke and its like something they picked.

and i dont mean to like speculate but ive been suspecting this for a while and idk im just wondering if there's anything i can do to make them more comfortable? i feel bad misgendering them if they are but they havent come out to me(as nb or anything like that, that is, ik they like girls) so i definitely wont say anything. but idk ive htought of a few subtle things that could maybe make them feel more comfortable if they are but not be weird if they arent:

i'll stop using the name i know them by(i dont say peoples names when talking to them much anyways so it wouldnt be so noticeable just instead of "hy [name]" it'd be "hi") also i could cut out words like "girly" and that sort of thing when talking to them. idk if that would help but idk what else i could do. does anyone have advice?

i just want to make sure they feel comfortable and safe around me, we're rlly good friends so i'd hate to unknowingly make them uncomfortable or dysphoric

!!need advice!!

i have stray cats that i feed on my porch and this little stray dog starts coming around now. but he keeps trying to "play" with the cats and now im worried he might attack them, because one of my cats wont even come on the porch anymore. is it wrong of me to call animal control or something?? i dont want him to be put down, but i also dont want my cats to be attacked.

fellow artists:

how do y’all organize having a couple styles/mediums that you’re willing to take commissions in?

for context: I’m a graphic design major but I like drawing people a lot. I’d love to design logos and posters for people, but I also would like to do character commissions too. on top of that, I have three different styles for characters/people depending on what medium I’m in

so how can I have all of those as options without using like 20 google forms that get all jumbled?

help

please and thanks

Are you ever awake at an ungodly hour at night because you have just got into your very first relationship and your scared that its all some sick joke this guy is playing on you and he doesn't actually like you and he's going to leave you crying at 3 in the morning because of it or that you'll find more about the guy and you might not like him anymore because he turns out to be a jerk but your too afraid to breakup with him because he's in your friend group and all your friends actually like him and you don't want to be the one who ruined it all just because you made a dumb decision and then everything is awkward and all your friends leave you because your a selfish bastard that couldn't think things through and you become a laughing stock of the school and then you die alone. Also your afraid to talk to this guy about relationship things because your too afraid to mess it up even though your uncomfortable about it like saying love you through texts or talking about "whens our first kiss is going to be" and your not even sure you want to kiss someone because the idea of kissing him or anyone doesn't appeal to you and your terrified on telling him incase he thinks you don't like him and you just get in an argument with him about it and your afraid to tell him your preferred pronouns because your afraid he won't like you anymore because he's a straight probably cis man. And to add to the weight on your shoulders you can never fully talk to your best friend like you used to before he started hanging out with you because he's always breathing done your neck and won't leave you the fuck alone and your too afraid to tell him so now your worried your best friend thinks your neglecting her for your boyfriend even though you want to go back to the times were you and her would talk about everything and nothing and it was just you too and no pressure.

Career Anxiety Lmao 😖

I’m referring to my dream of being a successful author/artist, not the psychiatry part. I’m confident about becoming a psychiatrist. With freelance creative careers it can be harder to kick things off because depending on the algorithm of the platform you’re using to advertise, the amount of publicity you get can be very luck-based. I have a friend who had about 700 YouTube subscribers when I found his channel, and one day a single video, with nothing particularly different or off schedule, absolutely blew up with over 1 million views and within about a month he gain 50,000 subscribers. So I guess I just have to keep posting content and stay positive even though YouTube’s algorithm is rubbish.

There’s been a point in time where I kind of stopped drawing all together (due to a few reasons; traumatic experience, depression, sudden obsession with SP) and I kinda just gave up for awhile because at that point I just assumed I’d never get famous. I’ve been called selfish for wanting to be an internet influencer, and for awhile I’ve believed that and put myself down because of my dreams, and I honestly don’t know why I crave (POSITIVE) attention from the world, nor do I know why the thought of a simpler life triggers my nihilistic thinking, but it just happens. Yes, it’s still my goal to get “famous” but I’ve made a vow to use my content to try and help fix a lot of the conflict modern society holds, and of course spread life lessons and creativity through my graphic novel series! If you want to be an influencer, whatever that means to you, that DOES NOT make you selfish, you just have a more ambitious life goal than some other people. Just don’t pull a Kanye lol

What also stresses me out is how I have about 300 subscribers, little to no motivation for animating, and 4 years until book 1 of Project-C is supposed to be released. Oh boy…I don’t even know what programs to use to make comics, and I’m really good at being descriptive and creative with my writing BUT OH MAN MY PACING SUCKS. I can’t pace scenes in my books which is not good. At all. 😢

Sorry this turned into a really all over the place post but please, if any writers/artists/graphic novel authors see this post I really need some advice!

I don't want to get an official test for autism because my whole life I've been told I'm not "sick enough" or "hurt enough" or "bad enough" to get concrete help or diagnoses.

I'm afraid I'll be told I'm just below the line meaning I'm not normal enough but I'm not not normal enough either.

I want to belong somewhere, whether it's pretending to be like other people, or risking being a delusional person looking for any reason to be abnormal.

I know in posts I've made, I've related to autism and tagged as autism because I truly believe there are too many similarities but I just wouldn't know what to do if I went to get assessed and was told that I'm normal.

I don't feel normal. I've never fit in. I can't handle being told it's just me another time.

Medical students of Tumblr, I call upon thee to aid in my quest!

Pray tell, what am I to do when cursed with a fatigue spell that casts aches and pains whenever the dice rolls a 6?

I've sought the help of a healer who sampled my blood. According to her 'tis normal.

Please bestow your knowledge of medicine and ailments upon me as to lead me to a great future!

In return, I offer you... Um... This... Hold on lemme... Oh! Yes!

😃🫴🎩A fine hat!

GUYS ,A QUESTION?(genuely serious and imp question)

is it normal for parents to like...say things like

1 "tang toar dungi/dunga"

(TRANSLATION:" i will break your legs!")

2 "utha ke patak dunga/patk dungi"

( TRANSLATION:" i will pick up and thow you on the floor !" thtas the closets translation icould ghink of)

3 " jhapad padega zoor se ! "

(TRANSLATION: ill slap you really hard/you'll get slaped realy hard !)

4 " school se naam katwa ke ghar pe jhadu pocha karwane bethake shaadi karwadijaygi ! "

(TRANSLATION: "well have your name cut from school, well make you do cleaning , cooking, then mary you off ! ")

5 " mu tor dunga/dungi"

9TRANSATION : "ILL BREAK YOUR FACE !")

etc etc When your were 11? 7? 4? and even now? for the smalest of things and geting a sum wrong.

is it normal or is like the thrats of voilence just normalised in our culture. also non indians what are your thoughts on yhis ? how bad is this?

add on too this is it normal for them to throw things at you and break you stuff?

is it normal to get yelled at for wanting to sleep alone since i am nearly alomst going to be 16?

is it normal to get yelled at for wanting a closed door?am i wird for wanting a closecd door?

is it normal for my father to throw me on the floor when i was in 1st 2 nd grade and i did a sum the way my teacher told me and not the way he said and i told him this but he just threw me on the floor brfpore slaping and bashing my head?

is it normal for parents to say " why do you make me do this? i dont like doing this to you." and i have to aopligise?

i genuionly dont know if its normal,part of culture or what so plesae people any one got htoughts becuse i am drowining in guilt and would like outside perspective pleases

There's a baby crying the plane what should I do

I'm currently writing an essay for my English literature class and despite the fact that the only thing I've used is a spell checker, it's being flagged as AI and I have no clue why. Is this normal or should I edit my essay so it's different or do something else?

I need something really good to happen my dear cute fish, i do believe in these things cause the shooting star thing?? Yeah I wished for a phone and a new piano next day BOOM everything I wanted out of the blue like boi yassss. I basically bunked a religion test for a very good reason but my teacher was a bitch about it and reported it to the head master claiming that we were bunking and I got 0 in my test and my parents don't know yet but they will when the report comes out Roger help me please...

hey college attendees, should i loft my bed or no? i am still trying to decide!! help a girl out

big question for fellow trans people who use binders or know anything about binder suppliers: does anybody know a good company that sells binders that zip up or fasten and can be easily undone? I’m transmasc and I have a binder from gc2b that’s basically a standard binder: one tight piece of fabric. I have sensory issues with tight clothing and also moderate claustrophobia and it freaks me out to put it on, can’t wear it without having a panic attack or a meltdown. it would be really great for me and other trans people with similar issues to have any recommendations for safe binders that have a zipper or a closure, thanks!

Too Many Story Ideas

So, I know I need to post on here more, but I need to talk about some stuff. 

What do you do when you have too many story ideas in your brain, but can't keep one long term? Because I started writing my Bianca di Angelo Lives AU again, but I’m also working on a screenplay and now another story idea is developing for a book trilogy.

My current plan is to just work on the fanfic on the side when I have time with my main project being the screenplay because that has the end goal of being a film by 2025 for school. But this book trilogy I know I can’t start writing it because it will just take over, but I want to at least outline it and develop the characters.

And on top of that there’s a one-shot I want to write in The Dragon Prince because I can’t get the idea out of my head and I want to write it, but it’s a one-shot so there's not the worry of not finishing it. 

It’s like I always have a story to tell, but I just keep getting new ideas that I want to work on. Should I just write all the ideas down as ideas in some notebooks to look at another time when I get more ideas for stories? Because maybe I’ll want to write them later in life when I’m not working on something else. 

This isn’t something that is only happening now, it’s been happening for years. I have stories I started writing in notebooks but abandoned because I wasn’t interested anymore. I just want a way to work with the creative flow and actually finish stuff before starting other projects.

Does anyone have any advice?

HELP MY MIND IS ANNOYING.

ok so basically I can vividly picture things in my mind. Well it's more blurry when I imagine them like augmented reality rather than completely in my brain. But anyway if I imagine walking my brain will immediately imagine the walk cycle looking all wrong and if I imagine a stagnant apple my brain will move the apple and sometimes if I want to get rid of things I imagine putting it in a bin but my brain takes them out. Why does it happen and how do I stop it?