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hey guys im cis and i havent actually met a trans person before(well i have online but not irl) but i think my friend(who also happens to be my crush) might be nb so i kinda have a question. like i think they might be bc they definitely are androgynous and not just in looks and idk theres a few other tells i cant remember all of them off the top of my head. this one could js be that they dont like dresses but along with the next thing i'll tell you it kinda makes sense.

so basically our school has a summer and winter school uniform and for term 2 and 3 you wear winter and for 1 and 4 you wear summer. its currently term 3 but its been like 30 degrees and theyve still been wearing winter(the only option for summer uniform is a dress but for winter you can choose skirt and stockings or pants and they were the pants). so im thinking that maybe it makes them feel dysphoric?

the things that make me think that they definitely are is that today they weren't at school and the people in my group were either not there or went to the tech rooms at lunch so i ended up sitting with their group cos i kinda half know some of their friends but their group is so friendly so it wasnt awkward.

and we mentioned my crush cos how dare they not be at school(theyre in my class btw) and one of their friends was like "they-she" yknow and kinda corrected herself rlly quickly. and also me and one of their other friends were texting them on her laptop and the contact name for them on her laptop was different than the name i know them by and i think the girl noticed cos she said "dont ask why her name is [the unisex name spelt in an unconventional way] is that, there's too much lore" or smthing along the lines of that.

so i was like "oh, why isnt there an e there" cos i was curious and shes like "thats what im saying" which makes it sound like it isnt a reference or an inside joke and its like something they picked.

and i dont mean to like speculate but ive been suspecting this for a while and idk im just wondering if there's anything i can do to make them more comfortable? i feel bad misgendering them if they are but they havent come out to me(as nb or anything like that, that is, ik they like girls) so i definitely wont say anything. but idk ive htought of a few subtle things that could maybe make them feel more comfortable if they are but not be weird if they arent:

i'll stop using the name i know them by(i dont say peoples names when talking to them much anyways so it wouldnt be so noticeable just instead of "hy [name]" it'd be "hi") also i could cut out words like "girly" and that sort of thing when talking to them. idk if that would help but idk what else i could do. does anyone have advice?

i just want to make sure they feel comfortable and safe around me, we're rlly good friends so i'd hate to unknowingly make them uncomfortable or dysphoric

hey, authors!! specifically Muslim authors!! i need advice!!

so—i really want to add a Muslim character to the book i’m writing. but i have some problems.

i know a bit about the religion but not everything, (i’d do more research if i added a Muslim character) but something i already learned about it was that Muslim people generally aren’t allowed to be close and/or physically affectionate with friends of the opposite gender. and i’m not completely sure if it’s true but i also heard they’re not allowed to be queer.

so that’s just the only thing that makes me hesitate to add a Muslim character, just because in the book i’m writing i have a big cast of mixed gender best friends, who are all very close, and if it’s true that Muslim people aren’t allowed to be close with people of the opposite gender, i just don’t know how i’d be able to write them in?? plus all of my characters are queer and i usually prefer to have a queer cast.

anyways i really don’t want to be disrespectful of Muslim people, so here are my questions:

is it bad or disrespectful to write a Muslim character who is close and/or physically affectionate with characters of the opposite gender??

and is it bad or disrespectful to write a Muslim character who is queer??

it it disrespectful to write a Muslim character who does any of these things?? or could it just vary from character to character??

i hope this post wasn’t offensive to anybody!! i was just wondering so i know whether or not to include a Muslim character, and if i do, how to write them!! (any other advice about writing Muslim characters is also welcome ^^)

Hey

I’m nervous can you tell?

scared of being in pain, but also my jaw really hurts from the whole, bone forcing it’s way out thing.

now or never babbiiiiieee

I think my house is being cased

I live in pretty much in the middle of nowhere surrounded by forest and private properties. A partial underground house (pretty much we live in a basement) with limited windows. We live in a self made gated community of me, my parents and siblings, and an uncle. No one can get onto the property without a key. However, last night we saw a flashlight shining through a bedroom window. According to my sister who had been staying in my mother's room due to nightmares, she saw a light shine at our mother until she noticed. As soon as she turned, the light disappeared. as if the person moved their hand. This is concerning considering our bedroom windows are knee height and you have to look for them at either a crouch or an angle. Just a night or two before, I could've sworn to have seen a flashlight but I assumed I hallucinated it due to sleep deprivation or paranoia (which I suffer from). I have near crippling paranoia and anxiety when going out in town (which is why I rarely do so), but now I fear to even sleep on my own property. I never worried about buglers because of how out of the way our houses are (that and the fear of shotgun wielding rednecks that populate the area), but what if it is more than that? I don't know what to do. Our dogs don't react to our fears, but they can easily be befriended if you seem nice enough (I would think at least one of our dogs would do something considering we have four, but I guess not). Any suggestions on what we can do? (we live outside of range of most-if not all-emergency help like police, ambulances, etc.)

For my birthday i’m thinking of becoming Jigsaw. Does anyone have any advice for that. I want to be authentic. Thanks!

Life update

I broke up with my boyfriend

I quit my job at Fatburger

I got a job at a dog boarding place

I went to a protest

I met Satanists at the protest

I got a job at a doggy daycare run by the Satanists I met

I got in a car accident

I quit my dog boarding job

I frantically searched for a job that was something that wasn't only $7.25 an hour

I got a job in group homes helping Intellectually and Developmentally Disabled adults live normal lives

I lost my doggy daycare job

I'm still trying to open a bookstore

I'm crushing on my ex boyfriend's step brother who has a 2 year old daughter. I'm 19, he's 22

I'm currently writing an essay for my English literature class and despite the fact that the only thing I've used is a spell checker, it's being flagged as AI and I have no clue why. Is this normal or should I edit my essay so it's different or do something else?

Right, so I am currently facing a dilemma. I have a dentist appointment tomorrow, my first one in six years. (I'm seventeen). I have to go to a specialist dentist due to being born with a cleft lip. I was meant to have a dentist appointment every three months in those six years I didn't go, the only thing is, my mum hid all of the letters I got from my dentist and canceled all of my appointments without my permission or knowledge. To make matters worse, she didn't even buy me a toothbrush at all untill i was about seven and by that point and her attitude towards brushing was 'do it or don't, it's not my problem.' So I didn't start brushing my teeth until i was about ten (I'd already lost my most of my baby teeth) when I realised it was something you were actually supposed to do. The thing is, ive only started regularly brushing my teeth in the last three years since ive started living with my grandparents and they told me how bad that was for my teeth but i still havent been able to go to the dentist because my mum was the one getting the letters. Now my teeth are in a really bad state and I know for a fact I'm going to have to have at least one filling and a few teeth removed. I'm stupidly embarrassed and I'm really worried that my dentist is going to be silently judging me and I feel like my grandparents will as well since they're the ones taking me. I'm also scared of going to a dentist in general now because of how long it's been since I've gone. Idk why I'm even putting this on here tbh, I just really needed to vent it ig. Wish me luck tomorrow and let's hope I'm not laughed at for my shitty oral hygiene.

Hey artist of tumblr, I have a question, I've been learning this shading technique but any tool I color with makes loud shading sounds. How do I make less noise shading