Anti Blaine Anderson - Tumblr Posts
Unfriendly reminder that Kurt Hummel won a Tony before Rachel Berry, and Blaine Anderson never fucking did. Who’s too gay for Tony now, bitch?
blaine anderson is soo progressive , he showed us gay men can have toxic masculinity too!
I love how every popular Kurt ship fits into a different genre vibe-wise.
Hallmark rom , the good kind (yes they exist).
Teen rom-com.
Drama.
Sit-com.
Psychological thriller.
someone gotta separate kurt’s vocals in all the klaine duets and put it on youtube man
Blaine reading signs of being an abusive boyfriend.
At the Dalton staircase during the proposal.
Kurt: Wow, you put so much work into it! Much more than you ever put into our relationship. Graduate high school buddy, maybe then I'll consider it.
Sebastian : Woo!
Sebastian: What? It was a sick burn.
Blaine : But Kurt I need you!
Kurt : FOR WHAT exactly? Certainly not for sex or for confiding important things. Reaching for things on the top shelf, perhaps?
Blaine: ...
Kurt: I said what I said.
The character Blaine and my reading of him has always been very personal, when I first finished glee and compared him to the Blaine in my life I understood him very well. He was a textbook narcissist. The behaviour lined up like word for word. And through out the series if he's looked at through this lense he's one of the only consistently written characters.
A lot of us, myself included have trouble believing Kurt was so attached to this piece of shit. But after experiencing some things with my real life Blaines I began to have some empathy for how difficult it can be to let go of some people, no matter how much they hurt you. So I feel the need to try explain Kurts attachment to Blaine, not romanticize but explain why it exists.
Childhood attachment/First love: Kurt meets him relatively young, he looks up to Blaine, grows up with him, Blaine is the first person he dates and they get through some very dark times in Kurts life together, no matter how much growth occurs in Kurts life he can't shake off the initial gratitude, hero worship
Sunk cost fallacy: The strange feeling of not wanting to feel like an idiot or a loser for having a made a bad decision that has already taken too much of your time, so you rationalize that if you see it through it will be worth it because you've put too much of yourself in it, it being a relationship or a person. It's feels like too much effort to start over anew. To learn a new person or to heal when you've learned the motions of the status quo. So maybe it hurts when Blaine yells about unreasonable things but he's learned to yell back and hold his ground.
Trauma bonding : Feeling connected to an abuser because of various manipulation tactics they use to control you like love bombing, withholding affection( fratboiphysicals), guilt tripping ( I needed you and you weren't there), gaslighting etc. It's very hard to cope with the knowledge that someone you love is just using you for their ego so we don't. We pretend we are loved, that what we have is unconventional but special. When someone is constantly being hostile the bar lowers itself and we live on the crumbs of their affection, it feels special, and because the abuser never reassures you you have a definite place in their world you have to fight for their attention and fight you will.
External pressure : Narcissists have a way of perfecting surface level charm to get everyone in their pocket until you no longer have anyone in their corner and they have everyone telling you how great they are. Eg: the proposal scene, santana sabotaging kadam and the rant, Sue(?)
Isolation : They find whatever way to make sure you have less and less friends to make it easier for them to gaslight you, so only their opinion matters and you can't fact check with a sane person. Eg: the Elliot incident, the Chandler incident.
Gaslighting : Abusers change the narrative to fit their needs with such blinding confidence that you think you're the problem eg: late s6 Kurt.