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So we’re celebrating christmas at my aunt’s house and my dad, my 4yo sister and i are on the sofa, while the rest of my family is in the kitchen with a cookie box.
My dad asked my sister to go steal the cookie box.
She went and asked my grandma, who said no.
When she came back, my father told her to secretly take it.
She went and whispered in my grandma’s ear:
“Can i have the cookie box for dad, secretly ?”
my grandma passed away a few days ago. three weeks on life support. yet it hit me so hard. she was so close to my heart. yet as i got older i got busier, visited her less. seeing how my mother's been like, how her relationship with her had ups and downs and how terrified she was of her mother not forgiving her. how all of their petty disagreements really meant nothing in the end. eldest daughter, eldest daughter, eldest daughter. mother and daughter. grandma and granddaughter, grandma and granddaughter. seeing my mother tell everyone she's alone now, how her life revolved around her mother and she feels she has no purpose now. her brother lives abroad, i feel for him, he came home for two weeks just to watch his mother die. i wanted to leave this country for so long, for a better life ahead, my heart hurts. my mother lost both her parents, all her friends tell me i have to take care of her now. im nineteen. half the time i can barely take care of myself. my parents are getting old. their hair is all gray. my father lost his father and uncle within four months last year. my mother never cries, it was only those moments i saw her so weakened. i cant speak when my emotions get the best of me. it's like my throat is clogged. is it wrong that i cant help but remember what everyone forgets? when my paternal grandmother degraded my mother for staying with her mother, a memory brushed aside. my grandmother you are, but my grandmother she also was. i graduate college next year. i dont think im prepared to be a person. my mother saw her grandmother die and watched as her mother withered. i look through their old photo albums, all these little kids in these photographs have kids of their own now, my uncle and mom taking care of these babies who now have babies. just like me and my brother with our little cousins. how i love children. how my little cousin loves me. sometimes it stings a bit when at gatherings they mention me getting married all the time when it's not what i'll ever want. and children are never something i'd have. and i'll never be in love with a man. after all that i went through and all that i complained about my family and my parents and my brother and everything, i realise in the end it wont amount to anything but background noise even if it shaped me, and these are the same people who i used to draw heart paintings and write love poems for as a child. it's moments like these when barging through my mind is the thought that soon i'll be my mother.
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Aggie 2011
For this piece I created an intimate space for sharing stories, with ample light and comfortable seating for both viewer and storyteller. The stories come from my grandmother, Mary Agnes Sullivan, and the particpant is invited to take a story or quote from the pile. However, as more stories are shared, the pile dwindles and slowly wastes away until eventually nothing is left but the empty shell. Similar to the loss of these stories, the space itself, in many ways domestic and homey, appears to be coming apart and decaying, turned upside down. The work was inspired by a conversation that occurred between my grandmother and me shortly after the death of her closest friend. She lamented the great loss of information and stories that occurs, and how even the little records one has are never enough to fully explain or encompass each of these moments or this person.
Day69: we're together yet we didn't get a chance to talk...
*sigh* How come i didn't get a chance to talk to you? All day the other day, i was asking you to talk to me. Yet, i still didn't get to talk to you... But i guess i should be contented for i got to see you. Yes, i remember seeing you... from afar though. You were on the other side of the beach. I forgot what you were doing but i remember i was eating some Korean snack. I was gonna invite you to eat with me... But I woke up. Unfortunately, it was just a dream... Umpe, is this your way of telling me everything's gonna be okay?? If this is how you'll do it, please talk to me too. I miss you. I miss you so much that seeing you in my dream last night feels like i got strength from you. Thank you... I love you. Always and forever...
Soups, Stews and Chili - Beef - Savory Vegetable Beef Stew This warming, hearty beef stew is stuffed with potatoes, carrots, peppers, and onions. On chilly nights, the entire family will be warmed by the thick sauce's delicately spiced flavor.
Pork - Easy Pork and Sauerkraut This pork and sauerkraut recipe is easy to cook in the slow cooker. It's like my Pennsylvania Dutch grandmother's recipe, but hers was cooked in a pressure cooker.
Authentic Paella - Cuisine Paella is just about the most elegant one-dish meal anywhere, but surprisingly, it is not hard to make. This recipe has seafood and chicken, and those magical saffron threads that provide its fragrant flavor.
Salad - Red Cabbage Salad A delicious oil and vinegar dressing is tossed with a colorful, crisp red cabbage salad. It is simple to prepare in advance and gets better with time.
Tapioca Rice Pudding - Desserts - Rice This is a recipe I found in my grandmother's secret book it is so good I have to share it with the world - it might make it a better place! Serve with whipped cream.
Grandma's Chinese Vegetable Soup - Soups, Stews and Chili This straightforward but hearty Chinese soup is made from a family recipe that includes potatoes, tomatoes, onion, and carrot.
Hamburger Potato Casserole - Potato Casserole A tried-and-true classic is hamburger potato casserole. In this dish, Cheddar cheese, onion, mushroom soup, and potatoes are layered.
Granny's Veggie Spread - Dips and Spreads
The Definition
Love, my grandmother tells me, is the flower she sees every morning on her bedside table after granddad’s morning walk. She tells me it’s the toffee she hands out to the crying child at home. The view of her garden after a rain, and the perfect cup of tea made by my mother, is what love is. Love, she says, doesn’t conform to one person alone. Love, my father tells me, is the smile of my mother…
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Cornbread - Grandmother's Buttermilk Cornbread Grandma's best cornbread recipe that's fluffy and moist and made with cornmeal and buttermilk. It's tender, light, and buttery with a golden crust.
Grandmother's Pound Cake - Pound Cake This traditional pound cake recipe is made with the original formula of 1 pound each of butter, sugar, eggs and flour for a moist, dense dessert.
Anna's Custard Pie - Desserts Reminiscent of flan and baked in a short crust, this pie is a solution for those who dislike pumpkin yet crave a custardy end to their Thanksgiving feast.
Desserts - Sugar Cookie - Grandma Tibbitts Sugar Cookies This recipe was handed down from my great grandmother. It took a few years to figure out the exact measures. These cookies are very soft and if you want to use a cutter, the dough should be refrigerated a couple hours. I use a three inch biscuit cutter. You can also drop these if you are short on time. Sprinkle tops with colored sugar or whatever decorative confection you like. These are good plain also.