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Is he grayromantic and asexual?

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Reasoning: He has never dated anyone in his life. He lies about this and seems to be very embarrassed about it. He's completely bored by any talk of sex and finds it tiresome. He asks if love HAS to come with sexual desires. In a canon line. He seems surprised by learning other people haven't dated anyone or had crushes on anyone before either. I say grayromantic because in the manga he mentions Wanting to become a partner that can be trusted , and also it just fits.

Grayromantic meaning:

It describes those who experience romantic attraction with a lesser frequency, or with a lesser intensity, than would be considered average for an alloromantic person. People with a greyromantic identity come to feel a sense of relatedness to the aromantic spectrum due to this discrepancy.

Is she greyromantic?

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Reasoning: Um uh um uh....she just has the vibe your honour

Greyromantic meaning:

It describes those who experience romantic attraction with a lesser frequency, or with a lesser intensity, than would be considered average for an alloromantic person. People with a greyromantic identity come to feel a sense of relatedness to the aromantic spectrum due to this discrepancy.

Was I the only aro-spec person who had the experience of thinking that I had crushes growing up, but looking back, they might not have been crushes because 1. I could never or only rarely name any traits that I liked about them (and those rare times that I could were traits that I simply admired), 2. I felt immense relief when they rejected me, or 3. I just wanted to have a crush, so I chose a person and consciously decided to develop feelings for them, not knowing that it doesn't work like that?

The casual exlusionism within the AroAce community really affected how I view myself, because I'm in my mid-20s and I'm only just realizing that I might be Grey Aromantic too because I really enjoy romance in fiction, romance is one of my favorite genres.

the idea of having someone who understands you and will be there for you no matter what, who you want to spend the rest of your life with is a very appealing idea to me, especially with the trauma I've been through.

I'm not a fan of "happily ever after" romance, but realistic romance where we see couples still struggling with their own problems, but still have each other.

But I only just realized I've felt genuine romantic attraction so little, and most other times I have were hyperromantic trauma responses.

I have multiple partners across two DID systems, and I love them very much, but my romantic attraction is exclusively within those two systems. People outside of those systems, I haven't had any romantic attraction to since I was 13. There were a few hyperromantic crushes out of want or need for attention (as I'm a trauma survivor), but even those were sparse.

Even my break ups with some people only bothered me because of how they broke up with me, not that they broke up with me. Not that they severed a year (or more) long romantic relationship with me.

Aromanticism is more complicated than I initially thought, and the exclusionist behavior that is so common from inside and out only muddies the water and makes it difficult for AroAce people to accept themselves.

We need to learn to spread acceptance and that just because someone doesn't fit a perfect box, that doesn't mean they're not one of us.

AroAce is not a box, and it shouldn't be treated that way.

Here’s a reminder to the greyromantics: your identity is real, you’re valid and you’re just as aro as every other Aromantic person. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.