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"Love is what makes us human" Wrong, my ability to write poetry about the moon is what makes me human

Everyone who is saying "Isn't that just love, OP?" is absolutely right, I have a stronger relationship with the moon than I do with other human beings

"Love is what makes us human" Wrong, my ability to write poetry about the moon is what makes me human

[song review- amour by rammstein]

(Before anyone asks, it's the only Rammstein song I know and no, I don't know German- I just read the translated lyrics.)

All I can say is that this song is a dark, haunting gem that I don't think I can get out of my head anytime soon. That guitar melody sends a shiver down my spine every time I hear it. I'm pretty indecisive about which line I love the best but the "Bitte, bitte, gib mir Gift" at the end makes me feel shrimp emotions.

However, it's the theme that made me obsessed with Amour: that love can be painful and destructive rather than being pure and sweet. I'm glad someone's addressed that because it's very easy to ignore the dark side of love. It also shows how even toxic love can still be addictive and cause people to mess themselves up without realising it.

That really hits me hard as a loveless aro because I've experienced this so much when it comes to my family and friends to a degree that now I feel extremely disconnected from it and the word itself has negative connotations for me. Yet, I still find myself torn between trying love and befriend others and isolating myself out of fear of getting hurt or used again.

Plus, Amour is the first song that I know which is about love but isn't a romantic song itself as it 'dissects' what it truly is without much bias.

since valentines day is tomorrow (or already here for some people), i just wanted to give a shoutout to my fellow loveless aros. shoutout to those who are still alienated when people do that whole "valentines day is for all kinds of love you can still celebrate it yippee!!!" thing. i'm holding all your hands (edit: and if you're touch repulsed, i'm simply nodding at you in understanding and psychically beaming good vibes towards you)

anyway here's your random reminder that it's perfectly fine if you never feel love (any kind, not just romantic) and you can still be happy without love. Love isn't what makes us human and you're not a bad person or broken if you've never felt love in your life

Cishet aspecs are queer.

Cishet aromantics are queer. Cishet asexuals are queer. Cishet aplatonics are queer. Cishet afamilials are queer. Cishet anattractionals are queer.

Aspecs are queer as hell and excluding them only isolates queer people from their community.

19 and currently undergoing my first ever ✨️gay crisis✨️TM

You'd think a loveless aro wouldn't have one but lo and be-fucking-hold. Tbf I'm still a baby gay so wtf do I know lol

we gOt thiS liTTle thiNg where wE prefer polyAMorous 🌌🎭 oVer AMbiaMorous—iT’S liKe we couLD bE moNogamous, wE couLD be POLY, 👥🎪 one parTner or a cHaOs caRavaN of ‘eM, buT thAT aiN’t the poINt—It’S liKE peoPLe saYin’ bIseXual evEN whEn they’rE in a ‘gAy’ RelaTionship. yOu knOw? 🤪 We’re stiLL polyEVEN if it’S juSt one becAUSe it’s morE thAn thE numBers. bUt aLSo, 🤡 thAT WORD! polyAMorous… liKE “AMOR” ??? 🤢 bItter tASte, thO, sincE wE aiN’T roLLin’ wiTh thE loVe stUff aNYway, AROmadness 💀🖤

tHe wORds aRe jusT lIkE... tooLs 🛠️ tO gEt ouR poiNt acRoss quiCKer fOr otHers, not beCause wE thinK wE arE any oF 'eM. moNOGamous? 🤖 poLY? 🦑 ambiAmorous? 🤔 iT’s aLL juST noisE, maN, 🎧 all thEsE laBeLs we'RE stUck wiTh—like GRABBiN’ aiR 🌀😵 human SoCieTy lOveS to bOX 📦 us iNto thESE caTeGorIes, buT wE? wE aiN’T caRin’ foR it... It’S aLL conStructs wE dOn’T wANt tO use, buT thEy’RE thE woRds wE havE tO swat witH 🦟 oN ouR tonGuE 👅 tO bE unDErstood, yoU feEl? 🥴🎭

liKe, all thEsE loVe wORDS anD geNder-thinGs, 💫 wHY do wE neED ‘eM? whY it gOTTA bE, liKe, “heY yoU’RE strAIGHT 🌈 or GAY 🏳️‍🌈 or BI,” whaT’S thE pOint? 🚷 why mUst aTtrAction bE pinNed tO genDer anD lOve bE naMed liKe yoU gotTa picK a siDe? 🎯 We WouLd raTher it all BE juST frEE 🕊️, wiThoUt laBels, no tagS 🎟️, no BoundariES, jusT vIBES 💥 anD COnnectioNs, flUxiNg lIke the seA 🌊 wE dOn’T loVE tHis socieTy sTicKershoP aT aLL, noT aT ALL 🚫👁️👄👁️💥

aces and aros will always be aces and aros regardless of anything!

"but aces and aros can be in relationships"

Yes, I know that, but do YOU know that aces and aros in relationships are still aces and aros? Do you internalize that? Are you aware that we don't just suddenly turn straight, or gay or anything else?

Yes, even demis

Are you aware that a sex repulsed asexual will still be sex repulsed even in a relationship, and so, might never fuck you?

Are you aware that a romance repulsed aro will still be romance repulsed even in a seemingly normative relationship and might not like doing typical romantic gestures and activities?

Are you aware that a sex neutral or positive asexual might not actually be sexually attracted to you at all even if they do fuck you?

Are you aware that a romance neutral or positive aro might not actually be romantically into you even if they are comfortable with typical romantic gestures?

Are you aware that our identities are just as permanent as yours?

loveless and aplatonic people are valid!

hi aro community. quick question

BE NORMAL ABOUT LOVELESS AND APLATONIC PEOPLE OR DIE BY MY BLADE

Just heard someone on TikTok state that "platonic love is the purest form of love" and I just want to vomit now.

Fuck off with that bullshit. Don’t say crap like this.

Grah. Can’t even word. What the fuck makes people say shit like this and believe they’re actually right??? And that they’re somehow helping aros with it???

(It was a TikTok talking about (queer-)platonic relationships, and started off already weird with bullshit about how if you don’t love your friends you’ve "done something wrong in life", but it just got worse and worse from there………)

Just a fucking reminder that loveless people exist. Aplatonic people exist. And that no form of love is """purer""" than another. Just… how do people think this is an even remotely okay thing to say?

Fuck amatonormativity. Fuck platonormativity. And above all, fuck love.

Cishet aspecs are queer.

Cishet aromantics are queer. Cishet asexuals are queer. Cishet aplatonics are queer. Cishet afamilials are queer. Cishet anattractionals are queer.

Aspecs are queer as hell and excluding them only isolates queer people from their community.

Living well with your aromanticism, not despite of it, gets easier when you notice that this world wasn't made for you. You are not restricted by expectations, you don't have to follow a pre-planned course of steps to what happiness should be at; being aromantic can bring upon you the will to mold your life to whatever shape you want, because you know fully well what's expected won't fulfill you. Instead, you have the power and time to find what does.

You can live alone, unabashedly happy, surrounded by the little things that give you comfort.

You can build meaningful, long-lasting relationships that have not even a hint of romance.

You can have fleeting relations with people that make you feel good and not deepen your bond.

You can have one-night stands and leave before the morning comes if it feels right for you.

You can be present in your family or community, helping and being helped by people you trust and feel like a gift of being part of.

You can hear stories from the mouth of your companions and elders, and tell your own.

You can find beauty where people don't usually care to look at, revel in how much wonder is within you.

You can do what people usually feel like they need a romantic partner to do, without the limitations or complications one would need to fit themself around; ranging for dates to caring for children.

You can pursue hobbies, engage with art and craftsmanship, explore nature, do research, fill your days with the joy of creation all by yourself, just because you can.

The world was not built for you, but it doesn't mean it can't fill your days with joy, or that you can never belong in it. There is so much more than romance.

Today I've learned about loveless aromantics and OH MY GOD THAT WAS A THING ALL ALONG??? WE HAVE A TERM FOR THAT??? I used to doubt my aromanticism because 'aros don't feel romantic love while I'm not able to feel any kind of love' but? there are?? people like me??? Wow. Just wow

I won't use the term very often when describing myself but it's cool to know it exists and fits me so well

Also loving your family/friends isn’t what makes you human either! It’s fire!!!!

“sex/romance/empathy makes us human,” they say. awful. pathetic. what makes us human is the urge to set things on fire

@haarvira Uhh I can’t tag you properly somehow but here are the flags you requested!! 

Links here 🏳️‍🌈

[Loveless Aro] | [Aplatonic]

Safe Pride!

RALLY THE TROOP MEN! WE MUST KEEP THIS GOING, BARE MINIMUM THROUGH TOMORROW!

Guys we need to have the aromantic and asexual tags still trending by Valentine's day. It'd be funny, more importantly very meaningful for the aspec community!!

(loveless) aro culture is not wanting to talk about your birthday when someone asks about it because it is very close to valentine's day and people tend to give you love-themed presents

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affirmations for the week i am allowed to hate valentines day i am allowed to hate amatonormativity i am allowed to be angry i am loveless and proud of it

✨💚Happy Tuesday💚✨

Happy Tuesday to romance repulsed aros

Happy Tuesday to romance indifferent aros

Happy Tuesday ro romance favorable aros

Happy Tuesday to aroaces

Happy Tuesday to aroallos

Happy Tuesday to loveless aros

Happy Tuesday to lovequeer aros

Happy Tuesday to aros who love being aro

Happy Tuesday to aros who haven't accepted themselves yet

Happy Tuesday to people who are questioning

Happy Tuesday to everyone on the aromantic spectrum who have a complicated relationship with romance

And of course, Happy Tuesday to people who aren't arospec but are currently single

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