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PREACH!
little rant
*inhales*
FATPHOBIC PEOPLE ARE SO GROSS LIKE IT DISGUSTS ME GO AWAY JUST GO LET PEOPLE LIVE
FAT PEOPLE ARE GOOD AND BEAUTIFUL AND WORTHY AND THEY DESERVE LOVE AND TO FEEL SEXY CAUSE THEY ARE LOVABLE AND SEXY
Been on the hunt for some kick ass platforms for a while now, which has proven difficult when you try not to throw money to just any company and you have freaking massive feet. So when I found these platform American Eagle sandals at the thrift for four bucks I knew my time had come. So some locktight, painter's tape and half a bottle of white fabric paint later, here we have it! My reason for exiting my house at all in the summer! Seriously though, so obsessed with how these turned out.
What's some unconventional things that you find attractive? Things that don't fit the typical beauty standards: hourglass figure for women and muscular/tall build for men. Clear skin, blonde hair, blue eyes, small waist, etc. Or things that don't fit the standard for that particular sex, for example, finding a woman with broad shoulders attractive or a man in makeup.
I think it would be good for people with those traits, things they may have been shamed for, to have a reminder that people out there think they're sexy.
I'll go first. For context, I'm a straight female.
There's nothing more attractive to me than a straight man with features, style, etc that are more typically associated with women. Corsets, slender arms, curvy figures, skirts, makeup, piercings, long hair, slender hands, soft shaved skin, painted nails, short frame, fishnets, timid personality, gentleness, softness... there's nothing like it. Femboys are some of the sexiest mother truckers God put on this green Earth.
One of the most attractive things about it is the confidence in and knowledge of oneself. The ability to go out in public wearing what you feel best in, fully knowing people are gonna think all kinds of wild and untrue things about you... and not changing. Refusing to adjust for society. Not selling out. Remaining true to yourself and making a stand for your individuality. Now THAT is hot.
What's some unconventional things that you find attractive? Things that don't fit the typical beauty standards: hourglass figure for women and muscular/tall build for men. Clear skin, blonde hair, blue eyes, small waist, etc. Or things that don't fit the standard for that particular sex, for example, finding a woman with broad shoulders attractive or a man in makeup.
I think it would be good for people with those traits, things they may have been shamed for, to have a reminder that people out there think they're sexy.
I. HATE. This. Mentality.
NOT EVERYONE HATES THEIR BODY AS IS.
NOT EVERYONE WANTS TO LOSE WEIGHT.
Can we denormalize congratulating people for loss of weight without even ASKING if the weight loss was intentional? Can we denormalize commenting on others' bodies in general? IM SO SICK OF IT.
Crazy I saw this post... my teacher and I were chatting after class today. She asked mid conversation if she could make a comment about my appearance. I told her that was fine and she proceeded to say "I've noticed this year you've gotten leaner" and then waited for my reaction. I responded "Yeah! I was trying to lose about 30 pounds, I achieved it." THEN my teacher gave her thoughts about it.
If you're going to talk about others' bodies, this is how it should be done. First, be sure they're comfortable hearing the comment or having the conversation in general. Then make a NEUTRAL observation on the loss of weight and see their reaction. Determine whether it's a positive or negative development in their life first. Always.
You never know when you could be fueling the fires of an eating disorder when you were just trying to give a compliment.
I once lost about ten pounds from sickness. When I went to tell my aunt the bad news, I didn't get past the first sentence before she congratulated me. I had to inform her that I lost the weight because I couldn't stop throwing up.
Thin privilege is assuming weight loss is a universally good thing.
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One of my extremely beautiful and plus size coworkers told me yesterday that she doesn't work around food because of her weight. She knows how she will be perceived by others if she works in restaurants, so she avoids it.
She also didn't get good grades in highschool. Not because she was incapable of achieving them, but because she was too capable. My coworker knew if she tried her best, she would have won an award, and that was a negative in her eyes: It meant walking across the stage and everyone staring at her. Judging her.
She told me her dream was to go to culinary school... but she didn't want to be the fat girl in culinary school. Because she knew how that would be perceived by others.
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I am fat and confident in that fact. Anti body shaming patches are on my crust items. Shoes, pants, jackets, you name it.
Yet even I think twice about attending food related events; even with my dearest friends, who are some of the farthest from fatphobic people you will ever meet. Even though they have never shown a single sign of judgment towards my body type, I still feel unsafe.
Fatphobia stifles the potential of those it affects. It is as much of a virus as racism. When are we going to start treating it as such?
As a fat punk, I can confirm that I NEVER consider if my clothes are "flattering" when I buy em or put em on. Doesn't even cross my mind. I don't know what that word "flattering' MEANS anymore and I'm SO glad I don't.
Don't dress to be thin and don't dress to fit an invisible "beauty" standard. I dress every morning with the intention of looking like a supervillain and absolutely nothing else. Who's with me?!
but like it's so punk for fat people to wear clothes that are deemed "unflattering" for fat people. In fact the next wave of punk fashion should be all people emphasizing their fat. Cut outs where the fat folds. Seams, belts, cuts, and patterns that hilight the fat instead of hide the fat of people of all sizes. Radical acceptance of fatness