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so I’m nb and I just got my hair cut short today and the world better watch out now because I feel exactly 70% less depressed than I did before and I’m 100% just as much of a chaotic dumbass

reblogging bc there’s only a couple of days left on this, this is the last chance we’ve got ppl

This is for anybody, anywhere on earth 🌎

The scottish government is asking anyone, scottish or not, to tell them a little about how we want gender recognition to be handled better! Stonewall Scotland even has tips on what to write, it's just 5 questions & it'd be super helpfull, it would influence the actual laws! :3

The deadline is the 17th of march! <3

https://www.stonewallscotland.org.uk/our-work/campaigns/act-trans-equality-scotland-gender-recognition-bill-consultation-guide

stop the LGB alliance from being able to claim they are a charity

I’m sure most of you know about them already but the LGB alliance are a transphobic organisation that actively try to stop trans people from getting rights and actively try to roll back the few rights that we do have, they are even buying advertising to spread misinformation about the gender recognition act in Scotland, I’m sharing a link to a petition to get people to listen to try to make sure this hate organisation never gets to falsely label themselves as a ‘charity’

petition here  

idea; next time some tries 2 tell me that nb folks aren't real i'm gonna flip the script on them "wait ur a cis man? u know that that's not real right? wasn't that just invented on 4chan? what's next ppl identifying as a penis?"

so i got this comment and there’s so much 2 this that i rly didn’t hav the space 2 just reply 2 it normally so i decided 2 screenshot and reblog instead bc i think a lot of ppl hav this opinion so i wanted 2 address it, so let’s break this bullshit down, since im trans myself i know a bit abt the trans community so i feel like i speak w/ some authority on the topic, obvs don’t go after or harass this person im just using their comment as an example  1] no1 is forcing u 2 go on a date w/ them this is literally the exact same bs argument that conservatives used when gay marriage was legalized, the gay ppl aren’t gonna force any1′s wife 2 marry a lesbian and us trans ppl aren’t forcing u 2 date us either 2] yes ppl r entitled 2 boundaries but given how quiet im willing 2 bet u r when all the transphobic bills in the US get proposed and when ppl r talking abt how kids should b forced 2 hav their genitals inspected b4 competing in a gendered sports team 2 make sure their not trans and the constant bs trans ppl hav 2 deal w/ in our day 2 day lives i rly doubt that ur issue is w/ ppl not respecting the personal boundaries of others, but let’s b charitable 4 a sec and assume u do care, ok, like i said in point 1, literally no1 is forcing u 2 date a trans person, just like no1 is forcing straight ppl 2 get gay married just bc gay ppl can legally get married now 3] yes some ppl r not comfortable w/ dating some1 w/ certain genitals and that’s their right but u don’t need 2 use that as an excuse 2 b transphobic, there’s a difference between saying “i don’t want 2 date any1 w/ a dick” or “i don’t want 2 date any1 w/ a pussy” and saying “i don’t want 2 date any trans person”, additionally there’s the assumption there that trans ppl keep the genitals that they were born w/ which isn’t true 4 every1, some trans ppl get surgery 2 change their genitals, some don’t but this argument that it’s “genital attraction” doesn’t take that into consideration at all and the “superstraight” “”sexuality”” sure as shit doesn’t either it just says that they don’t want 2 date any trans ppl not that they don’t want 2 date ppl w/ the same genitals as them and considering that some trans women hav pussies and some trans men hav dicks that means it’s not just “genital attraction” unless ur going under that assumption which is also rooted in transphobia, the idea that trans ppl always keep the genitals they had at birth is mainly rooted in transphobic ““jokes”” that mainstream media likes 2 make at the expense of trans women, so no it’s not a “genital attraction” thing it’s a ppl not wanting 2 date [insert minority group here] thing, if there was a group of ppl trying 2 muscle their way into the queer community bc “they don’t want 2 date black ppl” every1 would recognise that 4 what it is, racism, and considering that there r ppl who “just hav a preference of not wanting 2 date black ppl” and most ppl can recognize that it’s racist then u should b able 2 recognize “just not wanting 2 date trans ppl” as transphobic unless ur rly abt 2 try 2 tell me that “just not wanting 2 date black ppl” somehow isn’t racist and “it’s attraction ur not owed a date” 4] again, literally no1 has been harassing any1 2 date trans ppl, just like no1 is harassing any1 2 get gay married 5] no it’s not homophobic 4 a straight girl 2 turn down a lesbian but this is a false equivalency and 1 that kinda betrays [much like the name of the “sexuality” superstraight] that u don’t actually c trans ppl as the gender they r u just c us all as our assigned gender at birth which is transphobic 6] i just wanted 2 point out that the name “superstraight” also implies that ppl who do date trans ppl r less straight somehow which is an idea that fuels a lot of violence against trans ppl, particularly any1 who experiences transmysoginy, ppl hav been killed over that idea and given that “superstraight” originated on nazi 4chan [which i talked abt in the reblog of the original post which went up b4 this comment] it wouldn’t surprise me if that was the point  and just in case the “ur not owed a date” comment was aimed at me specifically 2 try 2 insinuate that’s the only reason that i personally think this blatant transphobia is transphobic and 2 try 2 take away from the point i was making, im already dating some1 and we’re both trans so yeah, rly didn’t feel like letting this transphobia just sit and fester on my blog and if any of my followers r offended by me standing up 4 myself and other trans ppl then u can leave, this blog isn’t 4 u, go shove a bible up ur arse or whatever it is u transphobes do in ur spare time  

imagine thinking that transphobia and pornhub is a sexuality and that being transphobic makes u an oppressed part of the queer community

petition to make nonbinary legally recognised in the uk!!

https://twitter.com/atheriselive/status/1388544271851130883?s=19

as a trans person living in the uk i always cringe a little whenever i c some1 in america call the uk "terf island" and act like it's all 1 entity and every country in the uk agrees and act like it's so much worse than the usa when some states in america still hav the trans panic clause, don't get me wrong the uk is full of terfs but it's got less open transphobia than the usa and it's not like the uk is more transphobic, it's just transphobic in a different way and that's w/out talking abt the americans on the dirtbag left who use it as an excuse 2 straight up dehumanize every1 living in the uk and make "jokes" abt nuking the whole place, not 2 mention i feel like a lot of ppl in the usa 4get that not everywhere in the uk agrees and scotland is still currently [unfortunately] part of the uk, i live in scotland and in terms of legal stuff im a lot less scared living here than i would b in the usa, im honestly so sick of hearing americans say that transphobia is more prevalent here than it is where they live, it honestly just feels like they r using it as an excuse 2 point fingers instead of dealing w/ their own country's problems

also a very good point that i didn't think 2 mention in the original post

as a trans person living in the uk i always cringe a little whenever i c some1 in america call the uk "terf island" and act like it's all 1 entity and every country in the uk agrees and act like it's so much worse than the usa when some states in america still hav the trans panic clause, don't get me wrong the uk is full of terfs but it's got less open transphobia than the usa and it's not like the uk is more transphobic, it's just transphobic in a different way and that's w/out talking abt the americans on the dirtbag left who use it as an excuse 2 straight up dehumanize every1 living in the uk and make "jokes" abt nuking the whole place, not 2 mention i feel like a lot of ppl in the usa 4get that not everywhere in the uk agrees and scotland is still currently [unfortunately] part of the uk, i live in scotland and in terms of legal stuff im a lot less scared living here than i would b in the usa, im honestly so sick of hearing americans say that transphobia is more prevalent here than it is where they live, it honestly just feels like they r using it as an excuse 2 point fingers instead of dealing w/ their own country's problems

im on a roll ranting abt things that r annoying me 2day ig so while im here fuck ouran high school host club

im so sick of seeing it show up on "top 10 anime w/ nb characters" lists, 1] the main character is not even confirmed nb and 2] the show is so bad, like i know a lot of ppl reading this probably haven't looked at the show since they were a teenager but i decided 2 look back on it bc i remembered some weird shit and thought "nah it couldn't hav been that bad" but it was, watching ohshc is like when ur in the cottagecore tag and u come across 1 of those tradwife posts where u think it's cottagecore at 1st but then u read the description and c there's some alt right bs going on

in short ohshc is full of misogyny, lesbophobia, fetishization of queer men, incest and pedo shit and glorification of sexual assult

the literal plot of the show is a gnc afab falls 4 this rich boy and hijinks ensue and they now need 2 crossdress and pretend 2 b a guy also the rich boy wants 2 b w/ them but also wants them 2 conform 2 gender norms and is only ok w/ them being gnc when it's 4 the profit of the host club so it's actually way worse if u do read the main character as nb bc rich dick is constantly trying 2 get them 2 b "more like a girl"

also the whole fanservice w/ the incest twins

also the antagonists 2 just a group of lesbians from the rival school and rich dick has a whole arse speech abt how lesbians bad and not what god intended or w/e tf, also even if that 1 was due 2 translation from sub 2 dub they still use the lesbians exclusively 4 feminazi "jokes" including making them do a nazi salute in front of the nazi flag also the show wants u 2 ship the 1 that's called "the boy lolita" [aka pedo bait] w/ his cousin who is also his man servant

and then there was that epsiode where rich dick flirted w/ an elementary school kid and they recruited another elementary school kid into their host club who then was flirting w/ and getting hit on by high schoolers as if that's somehow normal

and then there's the fuking beach episode where the main character is scolded 4 trying 2 save these 2 teenage girls who were being sexually assaulted [groped] by 2 guys who were i think in their 40s or some shit? point being every1 tells her she shouldn't hav tried 2 help bc "she's a girl" and she should've instead relied on the men 2 help her save them, later in the same episode glasses bitch pretends he's going 2 rape her 2 remind her of her place as a woman and this is played as fanservice

and that's just the bs i can remember off the top of my head

so yeh don't go 2 ohshc if u want good nb rep, i'd recommend just watching steven universe or craig of the creek, if u want anime the sub of tiger and bunny might b a good 1 2 check out

is there a word for the intersection of ableism and queerphobia?/gen

cus given my own experiences and also how some ppl who r fine w/ other queer ppl will b rly vocal abt hating any labels that nd and mentally ill ppl come up w/ 2 describe their experiences w/ their queerness that is impacted by that e.g. cloudgender [a label 4 ppl who find it difficult 2 pin down specifics of their gender bc of dpdr]

not 2 mention ppl using us being nd or mentally ill as a way of saying that we can't possibly know our own identity a prime example of this being jk rowling attempting 2 use autistic afab trans ppl like myself against the rest of the trans community by saying that we're "being lead astray" and using the fact that we're autistic 2 try 2 make it seem like we don't know who we r

hey so i figured since i hav 46 followers currently and after seeing the strange aeons vid i don't remember but i think i may hav made a post making fun of the rabies pride thing not knowing it's real history, usually i love their vids but idk, kinda sad that that 1 missed the mark, anyway point being i figured i should 1] let my followers know that my thinking on this has obviously evolved now that i know this and 2] hopefully get the word out abt what the real history of rabies pride was, i hope i didn't do 2 much damage w/ my original post abt the situation if i did in fact make such a post [i hav memory loss 4 days so i legit don't know if i did or didn't] mainly im disappointed in myself 4 potentially having done harm to my own community unknowingly, while i don't personally identify w/ rabies i am both autistic and trans and know what it can b like and can understand how a label like rabies could be useful to those who are trying to reclaim how they are treated bc of it

hey could you info of the rabiosexual term on your blog because i couldn't find it and would love to know more about it

here’s some info on the original meaning by the coiner! (quick warning, if you’re on desktop, his theme is eyestrain-y)

no but this is important tho bc this kind of "all men suck and r misogynistic and evil" attitude is why it took me until i was 23 years old 2 accept that im a gay, genderqueer trans guy, i spent years knowing that i wanted 2 b a guy but i kept telling myself i couldn't b bc i thought if i let myself b a guy i would transform into a horrible evil misogynist bc i was taught by every1 around me that that was an inherent part of being a man, i spent years knowing that i was attracted 2 men but living in fear of my own attraction bc i was taught all men were dangerous, it sucks and it especially sucks seeing this post trying 2 point out this issue only 4 me 2 c it thru a reblog were the tags r saying that men all suck, i get that 2 a lot of u this is a joke but 2 me it's years of fear of myself and my attraction keeping me in the closet, it's the fucking hardship and trauma of being gay and transmasc and brought up on this bullshit "men = evil" terf logic and then its also the fear of speaking out bc as soon as u bring up that sexism is a 2 way street [women r infantalised and men r demonised] and in that way it's unique from other forms of bigotry then ppl act like ur some sort of incel youtuber or smth, like no karen i just think that sexism is shit and is also often at the root of transphobia

the other day i was talking to this one bi girl i know who has a boyfriend and she said something about it being really unfortunate that she likes men and has a boyfriend and that just hit me really hard. cos like?? im masc nonbinary and have a boyfriend and i love loving men and being a guy. i hate the notion that men are inherently bad or that loving men is a bad thing

yeh honestly in my experience going to a gyno sucks so much, like,,, i went to a gyno because i was starting to go thru symptoms of male puberty at age 23 and while yes i am a trans guy i even at the time of typing this now have not gone on any form of HRT, on top of this, without going into too much detail my genitalia was changing shape, i went to a gyno because i thought i was probably intersex, however it was stacked against me since i had to be referred to a gyno by a GP who clearly had no idea what an intersex person was properly and thought it was just people being born with a dick and a pussy every single time with no other ways of being intersex, the gyno i went to see failed to mention that she was told by my GP that this visit was "to ease my mind and reassure me that i wasn't intersex" until the end of the appointment, she repeatedly referred to my biology not even as female but saying that "i was biologically a woman", even sometimes just calling me a woman and then when i reminded her that im not she justified her misgendering me by saying "but you are biologically a woman" even in moments of conversation when it was clear she wasn't referring to my biology she ignored all my concerns i had about my genitalia literally changing shape and told me that "it was normal for the entrance to collapse" she also despite constantly saying i wasn't intersex was visibly disgusted by my biology when she was inspecting it and also ridiculed me for being incontinent and having to remove my (clean) adult diaper for the examination, she and my GP had decided that this visit was about me being "reassured that i wasn't intersex" and not about actually trying to find out what was going on with my body, because of this my gender therapist no longer believes me when i say that i am intersex even though it is becoming more and more obvious as i see my symptoms of male puberty crop up stronger and stronger without any form of hormone replacement therapy, it's worth noting also that while i have no proof that this examination was what made my gender therapist decide to stop helping me, the conversation we had where i told her how the visit to the gyno went was the last one we had if i remember correctly before she started ghosting me

also side note; my gyno literally tried to make me afraid of getting further examined by her using the medical equipment by showing me a speculum (not sure if im spelling that right since ive never seen the word written down, just going off auto correct here) and telling me how it would be really painful especially if i was getting smaller down there, saying to her assistant "the plastic one hurts more show her that one" so yeah i agree that going to the gyno can 100% be traumatising

i just got back from my first ever gynecological exam and somehow, despite the doctor being really nice and way more knowledgeable about trans bodies than i was expecting, it still ended up being incredibly upsetting and honestly probably mildly traumatizing. i’m sure it’s no secret to anyone following me that going to the gynecologist is a uniquely shitty experience for a lot of trans guys and i knew that but i really was not prepared for that.

first of all, everything you read says that the pelvic exam and pap smear shouldn’t hurt even if they’re super uncomfortable, but let me tell you, that shit fucking hurt. like, i have a pretty high pain tolerance and usually even when something does hurt i don’t show it very much, but that was maybe the most painful thing i’ve ever had a doctor do to me and it showed. to be fair, i’ve never had good luck with things like that — i couldn’t even use tampons back when i had a period because the one time i did, taking it out was really painful — and i’m on t now so i’m sure that makes things even harder and i was prepared for it to hurt, but i really wasn’t ready for just bad it was. it’s been an hour since the exam finished and there’s still some pain so, yeah, so much for “it’s just uncomfortable, not painful”.

(and a side note: when it did hurt, the doctor told me to relax my muscles because the tension makes it hurt more. what they didn’t seem to realize is that if your brain and body are collectively rejecting the presence of something inside you, making those muscles relax is a fucking herculean task and i for one was not in any way capable of it so it just…kept getting more painful.)

i also was never informed ahead of time of what a pelvic exam actually entails; i had assumed it was a more general external checkup, and that the pap smear was the only really invasive part. as it turns out, i was very wrong, and “pelvic exam” actually means the doctor sticks their finger up you to feel around. she asked me if i was comfortable getting the exam because it was so obvious that the pap smear didn’t go well, but i had no clue what i was saying yes to and it was a total surprise for me when there was something inside me again. and she knew it was my first time, so she had no reason to assume i knew that the exam would be like. by the time i realized i absolutely should not have said yes to it, i was too late and it was already happening. it really feels like common sense that if you’re going to be giving someone what basically amounts to a professional fingering, you should probably make it clear that that’s what’s about to happen, but i guess that doctor would disagree.

and of course, the whole time i was also being misgendered. the doctor used the right name for me, but the other staff didn’t and everything about it was so excessively gendered (i’m pretty sure the appointment i had was literally called a “women’s wellness visit” on the same sheet that had trans man and nonbinary as gender options). not to mention, when i told them i’m getting top surgery and have the exact date set, the nurse made a comment to like“well aren’t you one of the lucky ones,” which really felt like it had “i think trans guys have a super easy time getting surgeries that cis women have to fight for” energy.

and the irony of all this definitely isn’t lost on me — i just did a project this past semester about how trans guys are fucked over by reproductive healthcare practices so a lot of us just never go, and now i got some firsthand experience in exactly why so many of us just say “no fucking way”.

i just want to put this out there for anyone who hasn’t done it before because i think this would have been a lot less awful for me if someone had just told me “yeah, it might hurt way more than you think, and also that thing they call a pelvic exam is actually an internal exam.” i thought i was prepared and i totally wasn’t, so hopefully this will reach someone else who will be better off knowing all of this.

i hate how i c ppl agreeing with this post when it's literally just some1 saying "ur oppression isn't as valid as mine" 2 every transmasc, also way 2 say transfems can't in any way contribute 2 the oppression of transmascs while contributing 2 the oppression of transmascs, also ur complaining abt us as transmascs "not seeing transmisogyny as its own separate axis of oppression" while at the same time refusing 2 do the same 4 our experiences, i fully understand that there r experiences that transfems hav that i don't hav, i just don't understand y u (OP) can't understand that there r also experiences unique 2 transmascs that u don't hav i don't think it's fair 4 any1 2 try 2 say that 1 or the other experience is "worse" or whatever and it doesn't help any1, ur kinda just being shitty 2 transmascs 4 no reason other than saying "we also hav experiences typically unique 2 being transmascs and sometimes transfems contribute 2 that" like ur saying that it's not that but then u go on 2 say that it's wrong 4 transmascs 2 not just immediately shut up abt our experiences especially when we're talking abt in-group transmascphobia 2 do w/ transfems being transmascphobic, which yes, does happen sometimes, bc u seem 2 think that we should b putting our own experiences down in order 2 please u and ur specific idea that u hav abt how sexism and transphobia works, since im guessing the reason u think that transfems can't contribute 2 transmascphobia is bc u think women can't b sexist? even though the reality is that yes sometimes women are sexist and sometimes women are sexist against men and since much like how transmisogyny is a term for the specific intersection between transphobia and sexism against women transmascphobia is the specific intersection between transphobia and sexism against men

if you honestly think sexism against men doesn't exist just look at how many times a man getting sexually assaulted (especially by a woman) is something that is played for laughs in adult comedy shows, look at the fact that in the UK (where i live) the legal definition of rape does not include the possibility of a man being raped making it impossible for men rape victims to seek justice, the fact that being a man is seen as inherently predatory and violent, the fact that being a man is seen as "gross" and "undesirable" in comparison to being a woman, being transmasc means i am literally losing legal protections i once had as a woman and it fucking sucks seeing ppl not even willing 2 acknowledge that we as transmascs go thru anything bc "it's not as bad as what transfems go thru" you don't know that, you don't know what our experiences are and you clearly don't listen when we try to tell you and when did we go from "transphobia sucks in all its forms and some groups of the trans community experience branches of transphobia that are more specific to that part of the trans community" to "transfems always have it the worst so no1 else's experiences r valid and u shouldn't listen 2 any1 else u should only listen 2 transfems"

sorry abt this being so angry i just keep seeing this sentiment over and over again and this was the straw that broke the camal's back and i just rly needed 2 say smth this time instead of trying 2 avoid conflict

I’ve said before that I don’t care if transmascs create terminology for their experiences with transphobia, that my real problem with “transandrophobia” is who has been using it and how it’s been used to vilify transfems, and even put forward “transmascphobia” as an alternative, but... If you’re still putting “transmascphobia” (or whatever term you choose to use) on the same level as transmisogyny, then it becomes pretty obvious that you haven’t really been paying attention. It indicates to me that you still think transmascs and transfems experience equal-opposite oppression, that transmisogyny is just “transphobia for girls,” or that transfems can in any way contribute to the oppression of transmascs. If you say “transmascphobes and transmisogynists DNI” or whatever, it indicates to me that you still haven’t put any thought or effort into actually understanding what transmisogyny is. You’re still trying to conceptualize it through the lens of how transmascs/TME trans people experience transphobia instead of seeing it as its own separate axis of oppression.

'I don't experience dysphoria, so I must be faking being trans!' Come over here for a second. A little closer. I am now violently shaking you by your shoulders, screaming 'YOU DON'T NEED DYSPHORIA TO BE TRANS!' Don't let ANYBODY, and I mean ANYBODY, tell you that you aren't suffering enough for your identity to be valid. Fuck that transmedicalist bullshit; the whole thing was created to cater to transphobic cis people, by saying 'we're just mentally ill!' It's not your job to validate yourself to people who don't want you to exist anyway!

NON DYSPHORIC TRANS PEOPLE ARE VALID.

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