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I’m not saying I’m getting more extroverted but like why have I suddenly got a boost in confidence lately?
How introverts make friends:
10% they don't.
90% an extrovert found them, liked them and adopted them.
Unwilling introvert
Would you believe me if I said I was an introvert, but not by choice?
I know it sounds crazy - at least it does to me - but it's really true. I enjoy being with other people, but it's draining.
Most of the time us introverts are the way we are because taking thoughts and making them into words on the fly requires energy. Most of us don't even realize it; we're just turned off by the idea of being around others. We'll rationalize it by saying that people are stupid or that we're not good at socializing - or maybe that we don't know why at all - but the real, subconscious reason is that it's work.
In my case, I love hearing people's stories. "Life is about the stories," my dad always says, and I completely agree. There's something about someone's tale of woe or laughter that captures my attention and makes me wonder what happens next. (In case you're wondering by this point, yes, I'm a hit with older folk.) I also think that in-person conversation is the best way to communicate with someone, but I'm not so sure why I think that yet.
So whenever I work up the energy, I try to strike up conversations with people. People I know, people I don't know, doesn't matter much to me. Everyone has a story. And I have a couple of my own that I share, if I'm feeling especially energetic. Sometimes we come up with stories of our own, of worldwide power outages and the apocalypse following or covering the Earth with (2^32 - 1) CRTs displaying a single Linux computer. And I love every moment of it!...
...until I run out of energy.
If I don't have the energy, I avoid people at all cost. I duck down into my room and listen to music alone until I recover enough energy to at least get through the rest of the day's socializing - because people are a part of everyday life, and I have to deal with them to get my food and get through classes. And also because sometimes people just start talking to me whether I want them to or not, which can be devastating if I don't have the energy to deal with it. If this gets really bad, I lash out at people or shrink away in the corner until I get the alone time I need.
My real problem with all of this is that my social energy is almost constantly at a low level. Very rarely do I have enough energy to feel confident speaking with people. And it recovers so slowly that I need a day or so to prepare enough energy for an hour. It's really sad, because I enjoy being around people and would love to have more of the energy I need to do so.
At least it doesn't take energy for me to think - apparently that's a thing with some people.
Stranger: what do you do for a living?
Me: I perform for a living. I’m a creative!
Stranger: wow! That’s amazing!, are you an artist? Film, music, dance?
Me: show business…. I perform according to people’s preferences… I act how they want me to… life is simple people want the perfect version of you…
pov: ur the the one who melts everyone down.
u'd probably know everyone's deepest of feelings and secrets since they find themselves to more than comfortable with u over anyone else. even probably the coldest of introverts can't stand without telling u about an important incident in their life. except since everyone is really so close to u, it'd be hard to distinguish on whom is ur actual bestie since ur great around them all.
I feel like reblogging a post with someone’s hashtag has the same vibe as when that loud friend shares what the quiet friend said to the other ppl who didn’t hear
I was just on Discord, talking to my study group, a bunch of people who I have classes with. I tried to join an art discord (the biggest one there, which, in retrospect, might not have been the best idea), and the first thing I do is join the VC. and. Guess what. There were. People. Not in my age range. *gasp!* so i decided I couldn’t deal and fucked right on outta there. I decided to join a smaller group of people one of my classmates are friends with. They’re all my age, but I still couldn’t deal.
And now I’m just thinking about how social I was before the pandemic. I would talk to everyone. I was the annoying, outgoing friend who made bad life decisions, but worked it out anyways. My mom would always tell stories about how, when I was 7 and we went to visit my grandparents in China, I would try to teach Chinese to the person behind us at the ticket line. They would always laugh and humor me. I cannot emphasize enough how not shy I was. In 1st grade, I would straight up go to a person I liked and ask “Do you want to be friends?” and most everyone said yes. I had a lot of friends in 1st grade. When we went to the park, I would join in with the bigger kids, and would fit in just fine.
The entire last year, the thing I missed most was other human beings. I adore the hustle and bustle of a big city, and how you can have a 5 minute walk to the grocery store. I missed talking, waving to random people in the halls, all of it.
Now, I can’t even talk to a stranger. I feel pathetic. I would like to blame it all on the pandemic, but I’ve been getting less outgoing for years. IDK why. I mean, COVID probably didn’t help at all, but still...
IDK what I’m rambling about. But anyways... Does anyone else have this problem?
Real picture of me holding back from talking to every stranger I see because that's not how people normally socialize
somebody come save me I'm trapped in a mini bus with 8 of my very extroverted family--- /j
the entire bus rn: "Ich fühl mich disco~ "
why did I agree to go bowling with them help lmao
There’s no doubt that it is a struggle to be an outgoing introvert. You have to balance talking to people with recharging through alone time. You can talk to anyone, but may get tired halfway into the conversation.
I’ve read the article that has been going around about life as an outgoing introvert. I do not relate. It took me awhile to figure out why, but I’ve finally figured it out. I’m an extrovert with anxiety.
First, it’s important to outline the main difference between extroversion and introversion. Extroverts get their energy from being around people and feel drained when they spend too much time alone. Introverts get energy from being alone and lose it from overdoing it in social situations.
I used to think I was an introvert. I don’t really go out that often and socializing makes me nervous, especially around new people. I have trouble asking my friends to hang out because I don’t want to bother them. However, the more time I spent alone, the more tired and sad I would feel.
This is when I knew I was an extrovert. But when most people think of extroversion, they think of loud people that aren’t afraid of anything. They are outgoing and always up to hang out no matter what.
I am definitely not that. But it’s not because I’m introverted, it’s because my anxiety stops me from speaking my mind like the stereotypical extrovert. It’s because sometimes I am scared to go out and meet new people - not because I don’t want to.
It’s pretty sad when you think about it. I need to be around people. I need to interact and feel connected. I love that connection. But my anxiety keeps me from interacting and speaking my mind when I want to. I overthink and doubt myself about everything. In the long run, this damages my extroverted soul.
But the main point is that introversion and extroversion are not black and white. They are not synonyms for shy and outgoing. Neither one is all good and all bad. No one can identify as either 100 percent of the time.
I wish that I had known earlier in life that I needed to fill my life with people to feel full and happy. I wasted 19 years of life thinking I was an introvert - shutting myself away to “recharge” when it was just making me more drained. It was all because I had been labeled as shy my whole life. I might be shy, but I am no introvert.
If you know someone like this, it’s best to reach out. They might be quietly suffering because they’re too nervous or ashamed to come to you themselves. The best thing to do is to spread the word. Extroverts don’t have to be loud and introverts don’t have to be shy. It’s an endless spectrum. Don’t confine people to fit the stereotype.
i'm not even gonna lie, I think I'm more lazy than introverted.
like, don't get me wrong. I hate most people especially bc it takes so much energy to communicate with them, but also like...
i don't like looking like shit in public?
me meltdowns are a private thing baby
only for me and my four walls
and possibly my bestie and our chat at like,,, 2AM-3AM
but like
for me to get out of my house and go into the city
it's a whole goddamn process and I'm usually not feeling it
like, physically going to school is a bother enough and to get out of my house multiple times a day if it's not for class?
fuck no.
SO REAL FOR THIS OMG
bro, why are these the tags
this is literally me, but I'm a fucking extrovert.
an extrovert with problems (emotional and mental) sure, but an extrovert still
Extrovert
For a long long time I gaslit myself into thinking I was an Introvert, so I could cope better with my loneliness. I am still lonely now, but I take more comfort in the truth.
wanting to be cool and mysterious // having goofy golden retriever energy
I remember the feeling of camaraderie like an intoxicating wine and now I find myself dreading small moments of casual interacting. Is it because Im no longer masking?
Recently, a friend mentioned that I'm the epitome of an introverted extrovert, and I couldn't agree more. While I naturally lean towards introversion, I often find myself embodying an extroverted persona in social settings. It's a paradoxical situation considering how much social interaction drains me, yet I crave the company of people and actively seek out social situations most of the time. It's a fascinating dynamic to navigate.
Forget about "Extrovert adopting introvert(s) because they can't socialize"
Give me "Introvert reluctantly adopting extrovert(s) because they're so stupid they might get themselves hurt without supervision"
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Things about you that contrast every stereotype of your MBTI type
(and in general are extremely unlike your type)
Vs
Most stereotypical traits of your's
I'll start:
ESTP (7w6)
Unstereotypical:
I wrote fanfiction, had a phase in which i doodled everyday. Have had one relationship so far, don't drink alcohol and the last time i was at a party was more than a year ago. I also hate team sports with a passion. I love learning new languages and am a total TV show nerd.I also binge watch. Also I have never been in a physical fight. Lmao . Btw i also love to have philosophical conversations with special people and am generally attuned with analyzing my dreams and the meaning behind them. I usually take a lot of time to make friends (real friends).
VS
Stereotypical:
I love the gym , calisthenics etc. I love cars and traveling, and exploring new places with a passion. I generally prefer being outdoors to indoors. I like camping and sometimes am a adrenaline junkie.