
Abuse and trauma survivor - these are my stories in no particular order. Content warnings and triggers everywhere. Adult blog; 18+ only.
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I Wish I Could Say This Wasn't True Anymore. While I Can Say It Hurts Less, I Can't Even Confirm That
I wish I could say this wasn't true anymore. While I can say it hurts less, I can't even confirm that it happens less frequently.
It's incredibly upsetting that despite moving on and finding the most gentle and kind person to be with, he still pervades my thoughts.
I still think about him basically every time I get a quiet moment: in a fitting room, at a red light, in my office, in the shower.
Recovery is a bitch.
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The next step.
So what’s next? You heal. You grow. And you help others.
Edit: Apparently I’ve already reblogged this. I suppose that speaks to how bang on it is.
How It Feels
Part II: Emotionally Abusive Relationships

Picture the shittiest customer service job you’ve ever had. Customers are constant and you’re so overwhelmed you can’t think about yourself at all. Your personal life, your bodily needs (you don’t even get a lunch break; when was the last time you had water?) or your emotions.
You’re expected to perform perfectly and to always keep a smile on your face, no matter what. You need to be polite and accommodating even if people are screaming at you, and even if people threaten you for no reason.
Your boss thinks you’re an idiot and is constantly condescending and patronizing. He explains your own job to you and implies you’re incompetent, but to avoid offending him, you can’t defend yourself, you can only thank him for his ‘advice.’ He can snap at any minute and fire you, and you need the job desperately, because he has all kinds of contacts and influences in the community and will make sure no one ever hires you again. He makes it very clear that he owns you, but would never say so outright.
You are not allowed to talk to anyone about how bad this job is, under contract. He considers it unprofessional and a threat to the success of his company, and has threatened to sue if any employees quit and talk about the reasons they quit. He has the power to make your life even worse than it is now.
But outside the workplace, your boss is known as a philanthropist. He is generous and charismatic, and everyone constantly reminds you how lucky you are for getting the job.
Now picture that feeling not just at work, but everywhere. This environment is your home. This person sleeps in your bed. They go everywhere with you, or demand you check in all the time. They know all your passwords. They look through your search history. They have access to everything you know and have and are.
You still have to be polite, accommodating, apologetic, understanding, thankful. You still have to keep smiling.
I am organizing and shredding paperwork today. It's an insurmountable task and it makes me sick to my stomach. It's the only chore that gives me irrefutable proof of failures and horrible memories.
I have found so many things with both of our names on it still. Every time I think I've got it all, I find another stash.
I was off for a few months owing to covid. It was the first time I have taken an extended breath since I was a teenager.
It gave the trauma time to catch up to me. I feel it all. I am so damn tired.
He used to tell me that if I tried to say no to sex that I was being manipulative. My witholding was "punishing" him in an emotionally abusive way.
So I'd wipe the tears off my face, take a few deep breaths and let him have whatever he wanted.
I can smile and turn on the charm and climb on top of your dick five minutes after you called me a useless cunt. I’m so good at at “ getting over it ” for you; I can swallow my pain and rage for an eternity.