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aro awareness week
happy week to me because i recently realised i was demiromantic
happy week to anyone who is on the aro spectrum or anyone who is questioning
a little repost but happy ace awareness week to all my fellow aces!!!!!
Ya know what i dont reblog much but FUCK IT IM REBLOGGING THIS CUES IM POSSILBY AROACE
JUST LET ME BE.
Asexual labels explained using cereal
You are in a kitchen, opening a pantry door. It contains every brand of cereal in existence.
Libido- How hungry you are
Sexual Attraction- How appealing each cereal is to you
Sex-Repulsed- The mere act of eating cereal disturbs you. You flee the kitchen to watch Netflix instead.
Sex-Indifferent- Someone brings you a bowl of cereal. Even though you don’t crave cereal, you decide to eat some anyway. Maybe because you want the person to feel happy you’re eating something they provided you. Maybe you’re just that hungry. Regardless, you’re fine with eating it since it’s already there. If it wasn’t, you wouldn’t care either.
Sex-favorable- Though you don’t particularly crave cereal, the act of eating cereal is enjoyable. So enjoyable, you go through the trouble of picking a brand to eat.
Asexual with low/no libido- You are rarely hungry, and none of the cereal appeals to you.
Asexual with average/high libido- You are often hungry, but none of the cereal appeals to you.
Aegosexual- Eating cereal sounds fun in theory but not in practice. You certainly have no interest in eating cereal yourself. You’d rather fantasize about other people eating cereal, thankyouverymuch.
Gray Asexual- You only like Lucky Charms and Apple Jacks. And maybe Fruity Pebbles but you’re not quite sure.
Demisexual- You see a box of Trix. You are familiar with the rabbit on the box, due to the commercials you’ve seen. You always sympathized with the rabbit for never getting any Trix. There are things in life you’ve wanted but have never gotten. You feel a bond with the rabbit. Suddenly that box of Trix looks tasty.
Fraysexual- You see a box of Cocoa Puffs. You have never heard of Cocoa Puffs in your life. But something about it is oh-so-appealing. You pour yourself a bowl. As you start to eat, you catch a commercial for Cocoa Puffs on TV. You now know what the mascot on the box is like. You lose interest in Cocoa Puffs for reasons you cannot explain.
Lithosexual- You notice a box of Fruit Loops. You feel an urge to eat it. Toucan Sam comes to life and asks you to eat them. This makes you uncomfortable, so you leave to watch Netflix with the sex-repulsed ace.
Reciprosexual- You have no interest in any of the cereal. Not even that box of Frosted Flakes. But Tony the Tiger shows up wanting you to eat the Frosted Flakes. Now that he wants you to eat Frosted Flakes, you want to eat Frosted Flakes.
Cupiosexual- You want to eat cereal, but none of the cereal looks appealing. Maybe if you grab that box of Corn Flakes, it’ll become appealing to you later? It’s happened to other people. You consider grabbing that box of Corn Flakes, just in case.
Orchidsexual- Some of the cereal looks appealing, but you have no interest in eating cereal.
Aceflux- None of the cereal looks good, so you close the pantry. A few days later, you decide to open the pantry again. Now, some of those brands look appetizing. You check the pantry again the next day. None of the cereal looks good anymore.
Quoisexual- You have no idea if you like a cereal because you want to eat it, or if you just think the box art is pretty. Does liking the box art count as wanting to eat it? Do you just like the mascot? Does liking the mascot count as wanting to eat the cereal? After reading everything I’ve written, you are still confused. You bang your head against the pantry in frustration.
I really wish that "asexuals don't have to want sex but lot of them will still have it with their partner!" wasn't centered in like every asexuality acceptance post. I think it's genuinely damaging to asexuals and their relationships. A lot of us don't want sex. A lot of us are sex repulsed. A lot of us don't even wanna talk or hear about sex. A lot of us don't enjoy porn or wanna "hand out drinks at the orgy". Some of us have sexual-related trauma. Some of us are sex repulsed, not 💖✨sex repulsed but actually really cool about it✨💖
Allos are out here getting into relationships with aces and then pull a pikachu-surprise-face when their partner doesn't wanna have sex with them bc everyone constantly emphasises says how we totally will do it for them. Some of us won't. That's okay. That doesn't constantly need to be followed up with "but a lot of aces will so don't worry!!!!!" We don't have to make every post about us in a way that makes allos comfortable. It's not necessary to reassure allos at every turn that we're not all that asexual and they don't have to worry about us being different in a way they might notice. Allos need to accept and internalise that some people aren't gonna want to have sex. No terms and conditions. No "unless" "but" or "except". Just none.
The ace community doesn't just want characters who can be "interpreted as acespec" we want characters who loudly and proudly proclaim their ace/aro/aroace/acespecness! We want characters who are both introverts AND extroverts. We want characters who wear green and purple, and wear black rings on their middle fingers. We want characters who make cake and garlic bread jokes and ace puns for the five hundredth time. We want ace characters who say "gross" and "eww" and make faces when their couple friends are making out and flirting, and are completely unashamed to say it. We want ace characters who are comfortable in their own skin!
But most importantly we want to be seen!
Happy pride, include asexual people in your fandom more often! Make ace headcanons, include asexual characters in your stories, support ace fans, don't erase existing ace rep, call out aphobic or amatonormative writing on your shows and make ace people feel welcome! Specially if you're allo, because it really boosts our voices!
“We chose the term “asexual” to describe ourselves because both “celibate” and “anti-sexual” have connotations we wished to avoid: the first implies that one has sacrificed sexuality for some higher good, the second that sexuality is degrading or somehow inherently bad. “Asexual”, as we use it, does not mean “without sex” but “relating sexually to no one”. This does not, of course, exclude masturbation but implies that if one has sexual feelings they do not require another person for their expression. Asexuality is, simply, self-contained sexuality.”
— The Asexual Manifesto, Lisa Orlando and Barbara Getz, 1972
asexual activism is PART of sex positivity. education about asexuality is part of sex education. speaking openly about sex, defying repressive sexual norms, and encouraging people to be comfortable with and enjoy their "unconventional" sexual lives all needs to include the messaging that not wanting sex is fine and that saying "no" every time is not only acceptable but good if that's what you really want. asexuality is not the opponent of sex positivity, it's another arm of it.
when I think of love I think of cuddling and feeling nervous for romantic, sitting in the same room doing different things for familial, and the same for platonic but slightly more talking.
It's all very vague and literally just my experiences.
I feel like the way love is described is so vague that there's no way there can be one way to experience it. Maybe other people actually can articulate what different types of love are to them, and others can only describe it through images, or actions, or whatever. Doesn't matter cause it's all valid.
I don't think love is like other emotions where there are common experiences we can generally point to and most people will relate so it's not that hard to represent. Things like happiness, sadness, and anger. Like when Inside Out came out there wasn't a lot of controversy over how the emotions were represented because those were the common interpretations of them.
Love is different though. It's personal and there are rarely two people who experience it the same way. We all show love differently, experience different types of love, experience it in different ways.
If you recognize something as love, then that's what it is because that's what it is to you. there is no correct way or even common way, otherwise more people would be able to articulate it. Just, love how you love.
Very well said, Anon.
Everyone is all for sex positivity until aroallos want equality, huh?
Everyone is all for stopping the sexualization of women until they’re ace, hm?
Everyone is all for community and openness until cishet aces or aros want to be rightfully recognized as queer, right?
Stop the aphobic bullshit and take a step back. Look at your biases. Look at the language you use and realize how mean you’re being. Learn from your mistakes and become a kinder person.
I used to be aphobic. I didn’t understand how someone could feel little to no romantic attraction especially, and it was because I am very alloromantic. But that is exactly how homophobes look at the rest of the queer community. Since they don’t experience the attraction we do, the choose to believe it’s not real.
Just because you don’t fully understand what it’s like to be aspec doesn’t mean you should be hating aspec people. They are queer too. Fucking treat them as such.
ACE
Happy ace awareness week my fellow aces and other queers , just remember you are valid and if they say you're not knock them unconscious and eat their food
it’s ace week which means it’s time to give money to all your local aspecs 💜
I don't care how much you reblog ace positivity posts if you don't learn to recognize and call out every form of radical feminism in queer spaces. My community was decimated and our support systems destroyed because of this shit. Both we and the aromantic community have still barely recovered. Many of us won't feel safe in queer spaces ever again. And now I see the same vile shit now attacking trans mascs. Slapping "TERFs DNI" on your bio is worth fuck all if you're fine with keeping the door wide open to the same scumbaggery wearing different hats. If you aren't also dedicated to stamping out this culture of oppression Olympics, of trying to find acceptable targets by conflating individuals with oppressive systems, and making social justice into a cudgel to beat people into submission with, we're always going to be vulnerable to self-righteous bottom-feeders out only to validate their own trauma by hurting anyone within reach.
There is no “see results”, just vote.
Tags, lol: @our-aspec-experience @our-asexual-experience @our-aroace-experience @ace-culture-is @asexual-society @asexualadvice @asexualspectrumspector @asexual @aroaceconfessions
Happy Asexual Awareness week to all my Aces and Aspecs. Here’s a friendly reminder that:
The “A” in LGBTQIA does not stand for ally but asexual and aromantic as well as agender
Asexuality is on a spectrum so depending where someone falls or how they identify, they may or may not experience intimate attraction
Asexuals are not broken
Asexuals aren’t “cishets trying to evade LGBTQ+ spaces”
Asexual and aromanticism shouldn’t be used synonymously. They have similar principals but different meanings. Both primarily deal with experiencing little to no attraction
Not all asexuals are virgins and that doesn’t make them any less asexual because of it
Asexuality is real and valid
Just because aphobia infrequently escalates to violence doesn’t mean it’s nonexistent
Corrective assault isn’t limited to just bi and gay men/lesbians
A few pro tips while I’m at it:
Using virginity as an insult to asexuals is like using heterosexuality to insult a straight person, you sound stupid
If at one point you believed to be asexual but later discovered you weren’t that’s okay, but using that experience to invalidate others isn’t
Spitefully sending nsfw to people who identify as ace, especially MINORS (and yes this has happened before) is disgusting. Seek help.
Gatekeeping isn’t a personality trait
Oppression isn’t a competition so quit acting as such
i wanted to add some subtle pride designs to my redbubble shop
more designs are on the way
