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i love qprs!

Queerplatonic Polyamory is great 💗

Queerplatonic LDRs are great 💗

Queerplatonic Throuples are great 💗

Queerplatonic ships are great 💗

Queerplatonic relationships are great 💗

It's June. You know what it means

real homies respect trans people!

I finally have the words to (mostly)accurately describe my identity, and I couldn’t be happier about that.

I am panromantic, pansexual(describes who I attract to)/greysexual(how I feel sexual attraction), and I’m trans masc !! Idk exactly where my gender is on the spectrum, but I’m mostly male/male aligned :D

I was worried about using too many labels, but honestly that doesn’t matter. Having these words to describe myself, helps me. It’s my identity, so other people’s opinions dont matter. I tend to just say I’m pansexual and transmasc anyways.

No matter how many or how few labels you use, you are valid !!

Also some nonbinary people don't feel comfortable calling themselves trans and that's okay too.

can we stop acting like nonbinary ppl aren’t trans. we’re fucking trans. we don’t identify as the gender we were assigned at birth (100% man or 100% woman) therefore we’re trans. stop calling us “noncis and nontrans” what the fuck even is that

Wattpad

Cameleon/Color Wheel | Rock Lee x Reader | Dad Kakashi

"Daddy!" Oh boy. When it started like that, Kakashi was ready for everything. From 'My tentacles tickled me!' to 'My an...

I posted my AO3 fic on Wattpad if anyone is interested. It doesn't keep the double space between paragraphs so it looks flatter than AO3, but you have Studio Ghibli GIFs for each chapter.

Plus, I feel like Wattpad is one of the most accessible sites since AO3 is so complex.

Both will be uptated at the same time.

Trigger warnings at beginning of every chapter and tldr at the end.

Happy Pride Month!

Be yourself. You do not have to change for anyone. Love is Love. You are Valid. Pride isn't just about loving someone. You are Beautiful. You are worth something. You are Human.

the thing about working in childcare these days is that I'm blown away by how open minded and genuinely curious these kids are. there are multiple openly queer kids, who are aware of the intricacy of the queer community and the multi-faceted nature of queer identity.

none of that was around 10 or 20 years ago. queerness wasn't even necessarily taboo during my childhood experiences, it just,,, wasn't taught or talked about, even from one child to another. I just didn't know it was a thing. but these little kids know about intersectionality!!!

and then when I was in high school, kids used 'gay' as an insult, but these kids at my job don't even blink differently when I told them the little queer flag pin on my messenger bag was the aroace flag. some of them ask what it means, because perhaps they've only heard of gay lesbian and trans. (and they've heard of gay lesbian and trans!!!!) I explain my flag and what it means, and it makes sense to them. that would have been alien for me as a ten year old.

some of these little lesbian girls and aroace and bisexual boys, the pan, poly, demigirl and nonbinary little ten year olds are the best friends that little me needed.

it's refreshing and heartwarming to see that the young ones of today are the kind of people this world needs.

PROTECT QUEER KIDS!!!! EMPOWER QUEER KIDS!!!!

Pissing people off doesn’t always mean you’re a bad person.  What matters is that you can put aside your ego, apologize, and change when you have genuinely done something wrong or hurt someone else.

When you are unapologetically who you are, and you allow your harmless idiosyncrasies to exist and be visible, it will absolutely piss others off.  This is especially true for people in the queer community.  No matter what you do, someone somewhere will have a problem with it.  You can be the kindest person in the world and do everything right, and someone will still hate you for being good.  And that’s okay.  This is something we just have to learn to live with and prevent ourselves from contributing to.  It doesn’t do a single unit of actual harm for me to hold my partner’s hand in public.  It doesn’t hurt anyone when I dress in ridiculous flashy outfits.  It doesn’t hurt people that I laugh nice and loud, and speak to others with gentle honesty when prompted to give an opinion.  But there are plenty of folks in my life that hate me for all of this.  And that’s fine.  Not everyone is going to like you.  You’re not always a bad person for upsetting others.  And you’re not disgusting for making people uncomfortable by being different.  Sometimes people need to be uncomfortable to change for the better.  Everyone is capable of being an unreasonable asshole and prejudiced.  Just be sure you aren’t hurting anyone, or yourself in your actions, and be weird.  Wear what you want.  Talk how you want.  Love others for who they are, harmless oddities and all.  Life is too damn short to waste time giving a fuck about how well we all fit a stereotype or narrative.

This is for my fellow demis! I see you all, and you are all valid xxx

and for the rest of you, whether you are gay, ace, aro, bi, pan, omni, I love and respect all of you and I send hugs in your general direction

Reblog if you are bisexual, pansexual, or asexual, if you support bisexuals, pansexuals, and asexuals, or

There’s no third, funny option, just the first two because it’s good to just support people because they deserve support.

THE BAD BATCH AND THEIR GENDER/SEXUALITIES 🏳‍🌈

im feeling especially fruity today, and i decided to do something fun with it. pretty sure this has been done before, but still, yay for gay space dads!!!

HUNTER

-this man is not straight in the slightest.

-elaboration you ask?

- i headcanon him to identify as a queer genderfluid person

-he thought he was straight until he saw Anakin on the mission in clone wars season 7 and his mind just went 'oh FUCK-'

- he experimented with bisexuality before deciding he'd stick with being queer

-he's now come to terms with being queer, and he doesn't really give it that much thought

WRECKER

-this dude is, in my opinion, aro/ace as HELL

-he probably asked tech where babies came from and he was never the same

-i mean he's still sex-positive, but he'd much rather be eating the space equivalent of garlic bread while wrapped in a blanket burrito

-when anyone flirts with him, he is CONFUSED, like 'no thank you, i want friends and arson'

TECH

-chaotic panromantic demiboy!!!!!

-he's slightly sex repulsed, which used to confuse him because in his studies, it says intercourse is natural and sometimes pleasurable...

-which, to him at least, wasn't the case

-but he knew that he didn't care about gender when it came to love

- he eventually came to the conclusion that procreation is not inherently the key to everything

-i'm so proud of them

CROSSHAIR

-🎶it aint no lie, baby, bi bi bi🎶

-this dude is bi as fuck

- as for gender, crosshair just said yes

-he, she, they, anything at all

-they also simped for Anakin on skako minor, but unlike hunter, crosshair knew he was bi since she was a cadet (crosshair knows ALL)

ECHO

-my boy echo is a demisexual homoromantic

-but he was so used to being among his brothers, he assumed he wasn't anything more than straight (even though the clones aren't straight either and it's the kaminoans heteronormative bullshit that represses them in terms of finding their identities)

-but after being freed from skako minor, he decided to try to find himself

- HE DID and he feels great

OMEGA

-omega is a mtf trans lesbian

- she figured this out with the help with the only not-complete-arsehat kaminoan nala se when she told her she didn't feel like herself

- nala se was actually super supportive, but she wasn't a patch on the bad batch *it rhymed!*

-she still thinks she's got some time to finish discovering who she is, but for now, this is who she is

- the bad batch are so proud of her :')

so there you have it, folks! those are my headcanons, and these are just for fun, so don't come at me with homophobia or any negativity, but if i did get anything wrong, please dm me

love you guys xx

there are not many posts like this out there but shoutout to trans women who like their voices, shoutout to trans women who like having a dick, shoutout to trans women who are butch, shoutout to trans women whose transition has been ‘unconventional’, shoutout to trans women who will never pass and dont care to, shoutout to trans women who are tall, shoutout to trans women who break the binary that was reinvented in progressive spaces. you people are so fucking incredible.

what’s the point of the “aro and ace ppl aren’t oppressed!!” card to exclude us?

like first of all, aros and aces ARE oppressed in such an amatonormative world, but even if we weren’t, isn’t it the biggest goal of the lgbtq+ community to not be oppressed one day? we want a world where gay and lesbian people are no longer oppressed, which is a great thing, but when that happens, are we suddenly going to drop them from the community just because they “aren’t oppressed anymore”?

since when has oppression played a part in whether or not someone is queer?? trans women tend to get more shit than trans men even though both are severely oppressed, so are the former somehow more queer than the latter? last time i checked, the answer was, and still is, no...

if you aren’t allocishet, then you can consider yourself a member of the lgbtq+ community; not because of the oppression you face, but because you deviate from the allonormative, amatonormative, monormative, cisnormative, or heteronormative structures of society. period

When I was 17 and trying to figure out what the heck my sexuality was, the main, if not only, piece of advice I found online, even when I directly asked people, was to go out and experiment sexually with various people and see what gender I enjoyed sex with most. And years later, that still seems to be the advice most of us give when someone is trying to figure out their sexuality. And there's nothing wrong with doing that, and if that's what helped you, great. But I do think there's issues with this being the most prevalent advice.

There are a lot of reasons someone may not want to do this, various personal or religious reasons, comfort levels, a lack of interest in sex, not experiencing much or any sexual attraction, or simply being too young for this to be applicable.

I found the advice unhelpful for many of the reasons I just mentioned, and it left me feeling lost on how I was supposed to find out what my orientation was. It also left me with thoughts like how can I be a part of queer culture if I don't want to experiment sexually or be sexually active? Even looking at articles with advice on dating as a queer woman I saw bullet points like "It's okay to have sex on the first date!" there was so much emphasis on how it's okay to have very active sex lives that it left me feeling like if I didn't want that, I'd never be able to have relationships because there'd be an expectation of sex right off the bat. Don't get me wrong, sex positivity is important and we shouldn't shame people for their sex lives. But I feel like we don't don't talk about not being into that kind of thing enough.

I also didn't know at the time that I was asexual, and while I'm sex neutral and open to the idea of sex with a trusted partner, I don't have any desire to seek out sexual relationships. Not experiencing sexual attraction made figuring out my attraction a thousand times harder. I still don't know if I'm bi/pan or lesbian. I do refer to myself as gay or lesbian in some instances, but sometimes I say queer or just shrug and say "I like girls" or "I'm not straight" and some days I'm okay with the vagueness of that, but other days I feel the stress and pressure of having to pick an identity in order to have a community to belong to and be accepted. That stress and pressure doesn't get better when all the advice I can find on the subject just tells me to have sex and that'll clear everything up.

We put a lot of focus on finding out exactly "what" you are. And I don't think sex is the best way to do that. Lots of people have varying interest in sexual or physical intimacy, not just queers. My cishet friend told me she got a boyfriend but she wasn't entirely sure if what she was feeling was romantic, and that the idea of kissing made her uncomfortable. She doesn't identify as ace or aro, and she shouldn't have to. People can have a lack of interest in these things without a lack of attraction.

Another issue with this advice is that sexual and romantic attraction doesn't always line up for everyone. You may enjoy sex with all genders, but find you only have a desire to date one. So sexual experimenting wouldn't necessarily answer the question for you. Orientation is really complicated. I did mostly consider myself lesbian, but I occasionally find men aesthetically attractive, and I'm honestly starting to wonder if I'm actually bi but still feel uncomfortable using the term.

All this needlessly long and ramble-y text to say, this advice is simply useless to a lot of people. And while I can't speak personally for this part, I'd bet at least some people who enjoy sexual experimentation still weren't sure of their orientation at the end of it. This advice shouldn't be presented as the one size fits all solution.

If you're uncomfortable or uninterested in figuring out your identity this way, there's nothing wrong with that. There's also nothing wrong with not knowing. You don't have to know right now, or ever if you'd prefer that. It's okay to use vague terms. It's also okay to use whatever label feels closest even if it's not perfect. And remember, you're not locked into anything. You can always change labels.

There is no right way to determine your orientation. Everyone discovers themself in different ways and at different ages. It's not a race or a checklist. The most important thing is to be kind and patient with yourself and whatever you do to figure yourself out, be safe.

xenogenders are so cool like... they're almost like metaphors. like "i have a gender and the way it makes me feel reminds me of a shining sun, so im sungender" is so? poetic? it's beautiful?

they're also like abstract art... with the way a painting can look like one thing but actually be mentally connected to something else. like a abstract painting in varying shades of blue can represent the ocean.

i honestly think xenogenders are one of the most beautiful displays of gender variance. it taps into the emotions that gender draws from, and instead of clunking into the box "male" or "female," or even man/woman, they create an entirely new, personal experience

xenogenders are the essence of gender.

Heya, I'm here to tell you that you only remember one life so live it to the fullest. Be yourself, use whatever labels that you see fit. Hell, switch them up a bit, even! Express yourself however you want, do what you please with your body, and exist in a way that doesn't feel cramped.

And for the people who are in living situations where that is impossible for whatever reason, I see you. Don't feel pressured to put yourself in the line of fire; I can assure you that simply existing is enough. There are people who want to snuff queer lives out of existence, and here you are, still standing. EXISTING. That is wicked, extremely badass.

Hatred can't rule forever. We've got this.

Greetings and salutations to trans men who are lesbians. You aren't straight if you don't identify as such, and you're certainly not invalidating other experiences! There's no one way to experience being a trans man, nor is there a wrong way to express being a lesbian.

Hello and welcome to people who otherwise identify as lesboys for whatever reason! Are you multigender? Cool! butch who also considers themself a man? Tubular! Genderfluid? Rad! Man adjacent regardless of gender? Wicked! Keep being you!

Guten Tag, Guten Abend (good day, good evening) to gaybians! Don't let nobody tell you your identity is invalid. You're allowed to use all the labels that feel comfortable to you!

Make some noise for the people who use/identify with xenogenders! It's your gender, so do whatever you want with it! This includes those of us who are xenic adults, as well.

Can we get a warm welcome for endo systems? How about tulpas? You're not racist or ableist for having a different system origin! Mixed origin? Quoigenic? Any other type of origin? Y'all are rad, too. Keep being you.

Keep vibing, everyone I mentioned here, as well as those with any other good faith identities I missed!

It's okay to use contradictory labels. I know, I'm probably being redundant here. But I want to make sure anyone who hasn't heard it today gets to chance to hear it. You're valid. I don't care if you're a boy in whatever way, and you're also a lesbian, nor do I care if you're a girl in some way and also gay. I don't mind if you're omni, pan, bi, poly, or abro and a lesbian/gay. Are you aroace spec as well as mspec? Nice! Are you a mixture of all of these things? Something I missed? Cool!

Complicated identities are no less valid than identities that fit into boxes. And I will keep saying that, because there are still people in the world who insist on what you can and can't be (I swear I've said something like that word for word before, but sbsbs), whether it be your average homophobic grandpa or some exclusionist on twitter.💀

Normalize queer people being weird. Visibly trans trans people. Gender nonconformity. Neurodivergent queer people. Queer people with unconventional genders. Otherkin queer people. Mentally ill queer people. Disabled queer people. Queer people with 'odd' pronouns or pronouns that don't 'fit' their gender. Anyone who's queer and is considered 'odd' or 'cringe' for reasons that may or may not be tied to their queerness.